Thanks for showing up - (May 2020 Scapegoat Blame Thread)

Mayday! @DrWorm did the thing.

@f00l Hot weather inhibits the spread of covid-19. Or not.

Data results are inconclusive. Or definitive.

@DrWorm

Well, really hot weather still sux.

Btw

Data results are inconclusive. Or definitive.

I like the way you think.

@DrWorm @f00l omg, it’s barely May and it’s already too hot?! Move somewhere chill-er, IMO. I can’t stand the heat, that’s why I stay outta the bitchin’ saunas of this world.

@therealjrn C2D … the dumpster is full of Core 2 Duo CPUs?

/image core 2 duo

@narfcake Weird I just noticed it’s on a basketball court or something. Oh well, we have all month to post what a shit show the blame thread has become.

Mayday! @DrWorm did the thing.

@narfcake @therealjrn looks like a hockey rink The dumpster appears to be in the crease

@narfcake I’d like to do that to every Core 2 Duo my clients bring to me and say “Can this run Windows 10?”. Yes, but you’re going to hate it. Why not just ewaste that. Or dumpster

@RiotDemon Always good when managers think of their employees and do something nice like that. Hope he is a good manager like that all the time.

@f00l Hopefully someone had the sense to have all the street repair crews working full time and then some fixing roads while the traffic was low!

@Kidsandliz
At least in Texas, the street repair and construction crews accelerated their work during the shelter at home. Just for that reason

However, the repairing of and construction of highways and streets is a Sisyphean task. Alike to yard maintenance.
it never ends

@f00l Sort of like painting the Golden Gate Bridge or resurfacing the beltways around DC I would imagine. As soon as they are finished they have to start all over again.

@f00l PS that would be called job security I think (grin).

@f00l @Kidsandliz A neighbor of mine works at an asphalt plant. He told me that he has been working overtime and extra shifts during the p̶a̶n̶i̶c̶ pandemic.

@f00l @macromeh Well that is an encouraging sign anyway.

@f00l I hope speed cops are out to catch those idiots. And also so they can make their quota with ticket for those going 30 and 40 over so they leave alone those going 10 over.

@f00l where exactly is East Buttfuck? Sounds like the place to visit when out west.

@shahnm around here they don’t ever turn on their turn signal to begin with. I saw a funny electronic sign, I think in MO, or northern AR… It said, “The original instant message. The turn signal. Use it.”

@Kidsandliz I would prefer that they just not use it, to the perpetual blinking hell that they routinely inflict upon the innocent masses, after having once bumped the signal lever while heaving their oxygen tank into the car in late 1989. And since they tend to drive slowly in the left lane, there’s not always immediately a way out – you just have to drive miserably, ten miles per hour below the speed limit, staring at the blinking, always blinking, blinking, blinking…

I’m fine. Why do you ask?

@Kidsandliz @shahnm I’m more annoyed by people who don’t use their signal until they are half way through their turn or lane change and it’s obvious where they’re going - like that makes it okay.

@Kidsandliz @shahnm @stolicat Not just people. At 0:17 …

@PooltoyWolf

You might get another chance.

I could use a mix of adorable inflatables and insanely powerful diesels.

@f00l How about both at once??

@DrWorm doesn’t celebrate Mother’s Day because they think it’s a Hallmark Holiday.

@DrWorm is totally at fault here.

@therealjrn what is the part?

@DrWorm @mediocrebot Yeah, and since they are opening up Oklahoma I was going to go see my kid and her children. They really need to see their Grandpa but I just don’t see how I can go now. I had bought a couple of small gifts for them that I caught on sale, it’s one of their birthdays today too. The buses don’t run to the next town over where they are…sigh. I sure don’t have any money for an Uber or anything like that. shit.

@RiotDemon It’s a plastic part at the top of the engine. I already replaced it once with a used one I found in Texas on eBay, but no luck today. shit.

@therealjrn sometimes people 3d print discontinued parts. Maybe search there?

@RiotDemon This has a vacuum valve and hooks into three hoses. Thanks for the suggestion.

@RiotDemon @therealjrn

Crapity crap then. : (

@therealjrn Try pull apart and other junk yards. When driving my 1990 minivan for 25+ years I had to get parts from junk yards on occasion. One time I was really lucky and a repair person actually made the part I needed (timing belt guide). Blew me away.

The other thing I found is that parts are distributed regionally. When I couldn’t find a rear windshield motor where I lived, when I was visiting my mom nearly 1000 miles away a repair shop there could find the part. If you can get the part number maybe folks in different areas can ask for you and you can get it that way.

@Kidsandliz Yeah, it’s not available, I/we already checked. I already had to scour to replace it a couple of years ago. Maybe somebody will buy me a new car

@therealjrn

Wow triple crappity crap. : (

@therealjrn do you know what the part is called?

@RiotDemon @therealjrn Maybe it got replaced in later models by a part that does the same thing but just shaped slightly different?

@mike808 @RiotDemon @therealjrn

I really hope you can get one somehow. That’s so tough. : (

@RiotDemon @therealjrn thermostat housing? You might have better luck on car-part.com. It’s a network of salvage yards.

BTW, what’s the car? I have a couple parts from a 2001 (I think) Taurus and I’d happily ship them to you if you want them for spares. I think I have a tail light and a strut. I should probably find them.

@therealjrn

Maybe somebody will buy me a new car

I got a dollar match box one I can send you. It’s even in its original packaging.

@RiotDemon @ybmuG It’s an 04 Lincoln LS. That’s a year when Ford put a Porche inside an otherwise ordinary sedan.

He just bypassed all that shit and figured out how to make it work. It’s a 16 year old car, it’ll be ok.

Thanks for everybody’s suggestions but I just need a new car please and thank you.

I’ll also accept paypal and cash app donations. If you use venmo I can whisper the deets for that as too.

Do you think a GoFundMe would work?

@RiotDemon @therealjrn maybe two. One for the car and another for that sailboat and trailer. I mean, why not?

@RiotDemon @therealjrn @ybmuG

I mostly do cash these days. And I move around a lot.

If you wanna hop on a bicycle and head south; well, you can chase me around Texas this summer. I can’t predict where I’ll be at a given moment tho, and I move around a lot.

so I hope you have great sense-of-direction intuition.

If you get lucky and catch up with me, I’ll give you a genuine full $5 in Americano currency.

If you don’t catch me: either the heat will kill you; or else you’ll be in really great condition from trying to find me.

Win-win, no?

I know you’ve already tried every other available alternative, and nothing else could possibly help.
So, I guess, get out that bicycle!

See you soon! Maybe!

@RiotDemon @therealjrn this it?

@RiotDemon @ybmuG Naw, it’s a cylindrical type T connector. Last time I had to buy the whole set of used upper hoses assembly just to get the one part. The guy down in Texas does Jaguars and Lincolns.

I misspoke when I called it a Porche earlier. Whatever. Let’s not lose focus here. The point is somebody needs to give me a better car.

@RiotDemon @ybmuG

I might add y’all need to quit trying to destroy my narrative that I’m helpless, I have been helpless for years, and will remain helpless until somebody gives me some cash. Until the next time.

All these options of something I could do for myself to actually improve my situation are simply not acceptable.

I am intractably in a constant state of need, and it is everybody else’s responsibility to donate to me, and give me things because I’m such a giving nice person.

I took some Kleenex to the old people just the other day!

@f00l @RiotDemon @therealjrn @ybmuG
Holy crap… really? That sux!

@chienfou @f00l @RiotDemon @ybmuG
Yes it does. Do you have some money to give me? I need a new cat because my old one died…he probably could have lived a lot longer if people had given me money then. Anyway, I need a new cat from the shelter and they need money for adoption. And then I’m going to need money for food and vet bills. kthnxbai.

@chienfou @RiotDemon @therealjrn @ybmuG

@f00l said:

I’ll give you a genuine full $5 in Americano currency.

Is that in post-COVID hyperinflation-adjusted Trump MAGA-dollars you can substitute for toilet paper or in a $5 American Eagle coin? ProTip: Pick the coin.

@chienfou @f00l @RiotDemon @therealjrn @ybmuG

And then I’m going to need money for food and vet bills.

What about the half you usually to give to the no-kill shelter first? You better raise your GoFundMe targets.

@mike808

When @therealjrn catches up w me, I’ll hand over $5 Americano currencicano in pennies I scrape from under the car seat.

I just hope he still has a bicycle and hasn’t already donated it to somebody.

@DrWorm doesn’t celebrate Mother’s Day because they think it’s a Hallmark Holiday.

@DrWorm bought your mom that necklace you hated.

@DrWorm @mediocrebot well, that’s just creepy…

@DrWorm bought your mom that necklace you hated.

@walarney
WOW! I hope you will be able to explain THAT to prospective buyers!!

@DrWorm has no idea why they’re being tagged here.

@DrWorm bought your mom that necklace you hated.

@Kidsandliz
/giphy priceless!

@DrWorm has no idea why they’re being tagged here.

@RiotDemon oh that stinks!! I hope they don’t want it back.

FYI, I ordered a bunch of stuff a few weeks ago and my jar of pickles broke…pickle juice EVERYWHERE!! They just refunded and told me to throw away the mess. Good luck.

@tinamarie1974 well, it’s an unblame! It took almost 3 hours for the callback. They are replacing my cereal, refunding my flour, and they sent me a $15 coupon.

That was really nice of them. I wonder if I just happened to get an awesome associate or I was nice when everyone else they’ve talked to today has been shitty.

Honestly, I was just happy they didn’t need me to mail anything back and then towards the end they threw in the coupon.

Pickle juice though. Wow. I would of been angry with that result.

VAN MURALS! GROUND SQUIRRELS! SPIT CURLS! AWESOME!

@RiotDemon that is fantastic, I am happy it worked out. And the coupon was a nice touch!!

Yeah the pickle juice was a bit icky. I was surprised UPS delivered the box at all. It was GROSS and soggy

Oh somehow I got my favorite Shirley. Leaving it!!

@tinamarie1974 What?!? An innocent catholic school girl buying a 12 pack of beer?

@Kidsandliz um, yes. I never said I was a saint

@tinamarie1974 Oh my. We will have to remedy that ASAP.
/image dialing the pope

/image need a new saint

(grin)
EDIT - second is image not what I expected but turned out way better than I would have thought of myself

@Kidsandliz @tinamarie1974 I got carded a couple weeks ago at my regular grocery store while buying wine. For the record, no one would ever think I was under 21 and I had just given them my senior discount card - after I recovered from my flattered astonishment I asked why and the checker replied that she was on training, and was required to ask everyone for ID when buying liquor. That was sort of deflating …

@stolicat @tinamarie1974 Now that is too funny - senior discount card and carded in the same transaction…

@Kidsandliz @stolicat @tinamarie1974
That has happened to me before as well. There are some businesses (and even some states) that require EVERYONE to present an ID to buy.
When I lived in CO in the 70’s the Dark House bar had a mandatory ID policy (Boulder was a big college town due to CU,so it made a lot of sense) and I can remember them turning away folks that were OBVIOUSLY 50+ that either didn’t or wouldn’t show ID. Of course when your bouncer/door guy is a denfensive tackle for the football team, that helps with the amount of blow-back you get…

@Kidsandliz @tinamarie1974

An innocent catholic school girl buying a 12 pack of beer?

You know Jews don’t recognize Christ,
Unitarians don’t recognize the Trinity,
Protestants don’t recognize the Pope,
And Baptists don’t recognize each other in a liquor store…

@chienfou @Kidsandliz and us Catholics we swear, drink and dance

@chienfou Dark HORSE Bar? I probably stumbled over you back in the 70’s.

@chienfou @tinamarie1974 but that is because the catholics figured out all you have to do each week is to confess and then you are absolved. (grin).

@Barney good chance. I used to run the RVP (Roman Village Pizza) right around the corner from the DH at the time it opened in '75. Spent many a night there dancing and drinking 39¢ drafts and 79¢ bar drinks.

@chienfou We used to spend much time at the Dark Horse in the late 70’s and then again in the early 80’s. We’d have a good time there and then wander over to the Golden Buff Lodge for breakfast. We knew that those who were able to keep their breakfast down, didn’t party hard enough.

I’ve heard that they were planning on tearing down the Golden Buff. Maybe they have by now. Geez, I’m getting old. Maybe you are, too?

@chienfou @Kidsandliz @tinamarie1974

Do you know why Baptists don’t dance?
So the Catholics wont think they’re having sex.

Do you know why the Catholics dance?
So the Baptists will think they’re having sex.

@Barney

Maybe you are, too

Judging by the number of Medicare prospectus mailings I have been getting I’d have to say “Yes”

BTW, ever eat at RVP?

@chienfou No, I missed that. Is it still in business now that you are not running it?

@Barney nope I think it closed (many) years ago. If I remember right my BIL said it was a PIP copy center when he went back years later.

@tinamarie1974
Shirley is a cool favorite! I useta be called her as a little girl with all my curls! And then there was this…
There was a little girl,
who had a little curl.
When she was good,
she was Very, Very good.
And when she was Bad,
she was Horrid!
Oh, those were the days… Loven my memories!

Mayday! @DrWorm did the thing.

@ybmuG
Looks like your forsythia thinks it’s May anyhow…

@chienfou no kidding! If you mean the yellow bush, it’s actuality a magnolia. Was a mother’s day gift a couple years ago, and it’s finally starting to flower pretty well (what the deer don’t eat), so if I lose it, the Goat’s going to hear from araT!

@DrWorm bought your mom that necklace you hated.

@ybmuG
Oh, my bad. Hard to tell from the pic but it looks like my forsythias when they start to bloom… of course that was months ago locally…

@chienfou yes it does, and from today’s weather you wouldn’t think they’ve been out for weeks already. We were in the 60’s earlier this week.

@DrWorm is totally at fault here.

@RiotDemon
would that order be different without the CoViD 19 constraints?

@chienfou nah.

These people aren’t bad. I’ve had some horrible neighbors in the past that had super loud bass that would make my couch vibrate or there was the one house that they would be listening to music and randomly scream along. Plus, it’s not even ten yet. I have a feeling the party will die down before 1am.

I don’t like parties unless I know most of the people there. I get anxious at parties and tend to cling to whoever I know.

It is strange to be throwing a party during a pandemic though…

@DrWorm is totally at fault here.

@msklzannie Until they start arresting and charging those folks with reckless endangerment and attempted murder/assault with a deadly weapon, the #COVIDIOTS will not understand that they are not special.

/giphy You’re killing me Smalls, literally

@mike808 It is possible he was given one of the rapid-result tests and it came back negative, but I don’t know. If he does have it, he didn’t seem to be exhibiting any symptoms while he was in the store. No other customers were in the store at the same time.

I do know of someone who is allegedly being investigated due to certain behaviors in relation to an alleged positive diagnosis. (I say alleged because this individual tries to stir up things and publicly made false/exaggerated coronavirus allegations against a local business.)

@msklzannie
Don’t you disinfect ALL of the cash thats brought into the cash register? Thank goodness for credit or bank cards! I mean cash has always been one of the most dirtiest things ever, but now, it’s just deadly!!

@DrWorm bought your mom that necklace you hated.

@DrWorm doesn’t celebrate Mother’s Day because they think it’s a Hallmark Holiday.

@ruouttaurmind it is really tough. Does she have a cell phone or tablet you can send her with for skype type calls? That might help both of you cope with the required distancing.

Hope everything goes well!

@tinamarie1974 She has a cell phone and an iPad. But the phone has no data and the hospital doesn’t offer patient access to wifi. So we will get along with phone calls.

Thank you. I’m sure everything will go fine. It is just such a shakeup for her. To have to go through all that basically alone. And me, powerless to do a thing about it.

@ruouttaurmind Completely understand. I had to drop my mom off at the ER last month and just leave. Very counterintuitive and as you said you feel powerless.

Just remind yourself they are professionals and will do everything possible to take care of your mom. Will send prayers for both of you.

@ruouttaurmind That is so hard for both of you! Maybe buy data for one month for her phone so you can do video? Although that’s a poor substitute for being there… and it is a shame the hospital doesn’t have wifi. I hope her surgery goes well and that she recovers without complications.

Oh - you might want to check if they will deliver things to her if you brought them to the main entrance of the hospital. Then you could give her a card a day, silly little things to make her laugh…

@Kidsandliz @ruouttaurmind @tinamarie1974
Oh it sucks SO bad not being able to visit the hospial!! My guys been fighting for his life on life support for 7 days now!! I can’t visit until he’s only got a 10% chance. IF I was able to be there to touch him and constantly love on him he’d have a much better chance of pulling through. Fact!

@Lynnerizer That’s just so awful!!!
@ruouttaurmind how’s your mom doing?

@Lynnerizer I’m so sorry to hear this. I know it’s difficult enough to have a loved one in such a situation. Not being able to be there makes it so much worse on everyone. My thoughts are with you both.

@tinamarie1974 Thank you for asking. She’s finally able to get up and move around without help. And the doctor says she’s able to sleep in her bed now rather than the recliner. That’s her favourite bit.

@DrWorm is totally at fault here.

@therealjrn I’m rich, can I write you a check?

@Barney @therealjrn You children having fun yet?

@Kidsandliz I’m just trying to get the word out that I’ve learned my lesson; I won’t ever send you money again. I hope I can stop others from throwing away their hard EARNED money.

@Barney You’ve been mocking me since well before I had financial issues. You once commented you knew me from another forum and hated me there too. The only problem with that is that outside of cancer and adoption forums - and I am not trolled on those forums - I haven’t been on any other kind of forums except for joining this one. I asked a couple of questions about a couple of products on woot product threads some years back after Amazon owned it and that is literally it.

@Kidsandliz I’ve never known you without your “temporary” financial issues that are almost 6 years old now. I’ve only known you on this forum and I’ve never claimed to have seen you on any others. I’ve ASKED you if you have posted your GoFundMe and held out your hand for monies and goods on other forums, but you never answered me.

And I’m not mocking you, I’m telling the truth.

@Barney I’ve been here for a few years and I don’t remember a time when @Kidsandliz wasn’t posting about money/car/computer/cat troubles and fundraising. Was there ever a time here at meh when that wasn’t so?

@therealjrn Almost the first thing she did when she arrived was to post her GoFundMe – her original GoFundMe, not the one she is using now. I think that was her purpose in joining the forum and not for the product discussions and socializing. And, yes, it’s hard to believe that someone could have that many problems (over and over again), isn’t it?

@Barney @therealjrn All the fundraisers except the one gofundme that someone else posted for me here weren’t for me, some not even started by me. Two were ones others had started for their own cats that I posted here - I wasn’t even connected to those two other than I knew the people and knew their circumstances. The one for the cattery workers was vetted out the ying yang by gofundme, including looking at the news article and contacting the person listed there to confirm the news article, confirm the recipients were the laid off employees, etc., contacting the recipients to make sure they received the donations before they decided to donate to it, the dog graduation gown was for someone who had a service dog due to a road side bomb and photos of the dog, his gift certificate was posted here and on that fundraiser site too, so was his thank you note… Many others have posted about things that have happened to them over the years, some for several years in a row, some have had things happen to them that are far worse than the things that have happened to me…

If you don’t like me and what I post then it is certainly easy to ignore me. Mocking me, trolling me, making up stuff about me, across sites and threads for as long as this has gone on - some of which has been nasty enough that at least two moderators had taken the initiative on their own to delete those comments on multiple occasions… makes a statement. Perhaps not the one you think it does. You are certainly free to continue since meh is apparently now condoning this kind of behavior…
/giphy shrug

@Barney

Almost the first thing she did when she arrived was to post her GoFundMe – her original GoFundMe, not the one she is using now. I think that was her purpose in joining the forum and not for the product discussions and socializing. And, yes, it’s hard to believe that someone could have that many problems (over and over again), isn’t it?

Yes, over and over and over. Then going back and “bumping” the thread so everybody could read about it. So many posts about so many personal money problems.

@Kidsandliz

Who’s talking about other fund raisers? We’re talking about YOUR GoFundMe, the one that has been posted three times here on this forum.

And, yes, other people post about their problems, but they are not begging for, or at the very least, hinting for money again and again to help bail them out.

“Oh poor, poor me, I don’t have the money to ____________ (fill in the blank) pay the vet, fix my car/purchase a car, buy a new this or that for my very old computer, buy a TV since my old one was stolen, pay for my VMP”. Am I leaving something out?

And when running out of excuses, just plug in the old ones that have already been used, no one will notice, right?

@Barney @Kidsandliz @therealjrn I have soooo much time on my hands. This is from 2014. Fishing?

@socialdeals It becomes your problem though when you post deals and it is against the rules to do so. The rules apply to all of us. Equally. Due to cancer and some things that were beyond my control (eg laid off due to cancer and running out of money - I am only buying really, really cheap deals for christmas while I still have money to do so) I have a gofundme account I was given permission to post the url for but I haven’t as I felt that even with permission (hadn’t asked, rather had mentioned it with nothing identifiable to find it on another thread and a meh employee told me it was OK to post) it was sort of a violation of the spirit of the forums - even though I will be homeless at the end of October if I don’t find a job soon.

Kidsandliz said Mon, Sep 29th 2014 at 12:37pm eastern

@Barney @Kidsandliz @therealjrn Followed by:

@socialdeals Well thank you. I appreciate it. I have hesitated to post the link here even with permission as I am probably not the only one here who is struggling.There is no way to contact people privately via this forum so here is my link (I use my nickname on most forums. Gofundme requires your legal name. There I have shortened my last name to avoid google searches on me from finding this page and then sinking a job opportunity due to cancer. If you want my full name use the link on the page to email me privately. Feel free to post far and wide too.) http://www.gofundme.com/78d3nc Thanks again.

Kidsandliz said Mon, Sep 29th 2014 at 4:08pm eastern

@sammydog01 @therealjrn Little did anyone know what this would lead to by opening this Pandora’s box.

@Barney @therealjrn Here’s one from 2015:

@phatmass Or give to my gofundme (http://www.gofundme.com/78d3nc) - proof you can suffer in the deep south too LOL. You can come visit here and stay in the ghetto van since I am already in the basement and there isn’t much space. Ghetto van would be quieter than my friend’s house with 3 dogs, 2 cats (plus I have cats), 2 goats (yes goats) and lots of kid bickering due to 7 kids, including one they adopted that I had in foster care a couple of years ago. No mountains, 2.5 hours from the Gulf of Mexico, one reservoir with alligators but I had to sell my 14’ sailboat and my canoe so I guess we could fish from the shore. There is an urban campground which is actually pretty nice. I could loan you my tent if you wanted to pretend you are in the wilderness. Pond, lots of trees and woods and swamp and mostly you can’t hear the highway.

Kidsandliz said Mon, Jan 26th 2015 at 12:56am eastern

@Barney @therealjrn December, 2014:

@capguncowboy Well yes that is true. People can create “human funds” on other sites though. I have a “human fund” elsewhere http://www.gofundme.com/78d3nc and sure would appreciate it if people would post that on their facebook, twitter, etc.

Kidsandliz said Tue, Dec 23rd 2014 at 11:27pm eastern

@sammydog01 Gee, I wonder how many more of these little gems you can find? Looks like someone might not have been telling the truth about the number of times her GoFundMe has been posted.

Shamey, shamey on her.

@Barney The internet never forgets.

@Barney @therealjrn Found some fishing in 2017. Switched to a different donation site.

Kidsandliz said Tue, Apr 18th 2017 at 2:25am eastern:
Taxes. Might. Be. Done. Still re-reading the IRS audit manual gazillion times to make sure I calculated something right since it isn’t totally clear how to do it. Deductible expenses (most of it medical, tiny bit home office since I work online) are more than my income (gee maybe that explains why I need to resurrect my gofundme, only transfer it over to a youcaring since the fees are less there). Taking any bets on whether or not I get audited? Plan to e-file tomorrow. Hmm just checked the time. Technically it is tomorrow.

@Barney @sammydog01 @therealjrn

How did I get dragged into this!?

Just kidding, but while I’m here…

I understand that some people ask for help more than others and it can get tiresome, but if we can’t give a little of the extra we have when others need it, then how can we expect assistance in the event we some day require it.

Perhaps I’m naive, but I can’t see the harm in giving when someone says they need help. If the recipient is abusing my charity, then that’s shitty bit it’s totally on them. I can live with that. There are far worse things happening every day. Being shitty in reply (especially when the reasoning is unproven) isn’t the appropriate response.

@capguncowboy I agree with you. But let’s don’t continue to help someone who is making a career out of asking for help. She said this was only a temporary setback and it now has been going on for six years.

How much longer should the people of this forum support her?

@sammydog01 Didn’t she say that she had never been on any other sites except Woot? Doesn’t it look like she has been on quite a few others?

@Barney @capguncowboy @therealjrn

Absolutely true. But here’s a quote:

All the fundraisers except the one gofundme that someone else posted for me here weren’t for me, some not even started by me.

Asking for help seems to be OK with the management. But don’t call my buddy @Barney a liar. And don’t lie about your gofundme history. People should have an idea about what well they’re throwing money into.

@Barney @sammydog01 @therealjrn I don’t know quite what your collective problems are as bad things do happen to people, I am not claiming my problems are worse than others. This is not a contest. Bad things happen to a lot of people; wreck lives and families.

Barney I know you have posted that there shouldn’t be any safety net in this society; that anyone who uses any one of them is a dead beat. Luckily I haven’t had to use anything most of my life and I have been fortunate to pay into the safety nets in this country (and in other countries when I have worked there) almost all of my life. Unlike you I do believe that as a society we do need to take care of others.

Most of my life I have had jobs and have been working pretty non-stop for companies and non-profits since I was 14. But 3 major cancers, including one without a cure that is not in remission right now, significant chemo damage and another major hereditary issue that has reared its ugly head, along with age discrimination in the job market have made some of the years since the first cancer dx a struggle. Then later, having two in one year didn’t help. Fortunately I have had some decent employment on and off since then and some minimum wage jobs and unfortunately on occasion nothing.

I first used all my savings and money saved for retirement (and had to pay a penalty) to pay bills. I haven’t declared bankruptcy because I am trying to pay all my outstanding medical bills. Some years I make more progress than others. A simple read of the stats about bankruptcy indicate that about half of them are due to medical bills, and over half of cancer patients have significant financial issues.

I had no control over getting all this crap, having damaging side effects… I did manage to work full time through chemos only missing a few days here and there despite being incredibly sick with side effects that in one case meant we had to stop chemo early. I came to work with three drains in after one surgery. I came to work with two drains in after another, etc. But the reality is that it is very difficult for many of us with major medical problems to make it through financially or medically (or emotionally for that matter) in one piece. Take a look at gofundme just for example and the number of money for medical help needed ones. I read some stat somewhere that over half of the campaigns are because of the financial fall out of cancer and other major medical catastrophes.

If I were to have lived in any country with universal health care I wouldn’t be in the situation I am in now. And that is true for a lot of people, not just me. My savings could have gone to living expenses and not having to make sure I didn’t get so far behind on medical bills that I’d be cut off from care. I chose to live in someone’s basement watching their kids and in someone else’s shed so I could use money I’d otherwise use on rent to pay for health insurance (this state did not expand medicaid). Usually I sleep in my car when at MD Anderson to save money.

So you folks don’t like me. So you folks blame me for the situation I am in. So you think I am not worthy of compassion or kindness. So you think trolling and trashing and viciousness is appropriate behavior. Those are your collective issues. I feel sorry for the lot of you.

I hope you don’t trash those you care about in your “real life” the way you trash me if a bunch of bad things happen to them. I hope if your situation becomes as dire as mine has been intermittently that people don’t do that to you. Our humanity is defined, in part, by how we treat others.

@DrWorm doesn’t celebrate Mother’s Day because they think it’s a Hallmark Holiday.

@Barney @Kidsandliz @therealjrn

Our humanity is defined, in part, by how we treat others.

Truth.

All the fundraisers except the one gofundme that someone else posted for me here weren’t for me, some not even started by me.

Lie.

People should make donations to entities they trust.

@tinamarie1974 Cool!!! What a load off of both her and you. I am sure the waiting for the results though was very, very difficult.

@tinamarie1974 Excellent news! I’m taking my mom to the oncologist Thursday morning to hear about the pathology report from her surgery. I guess there is a board of oncologists who all examine all the removed tissue, then consult as a group to discuss their findings.

We’re hoping she won’t need to follow up with chemo and radiation. Prior to the surgery the oncologist gave about a 25% chance no further treatment would be recommended. 1-in-4 is still decent odds.

@ruouttaurmind I will say prayers for your mom. Hoping you receive good news!!

I threw in Santa for extra luck

@ruouttaurmind Good luck to her - and to you both! Typically what happens is the pathologist looks at the tissue and runs the appropriate tests and then often a tumor board (eg oncologists) discusses the treatment plan based on the pathology report and anything else relevant with the patient.

@DrWorm is totally at fault here.

@tinamarie1974 Around here they’d likely have just taken it from your cart. Of course there has been no disinfectant, inexpensive bleach (Kroger want $12 for a gallon so some does sit on the shelf, walmart wants $4 for roughly a half gallon and about half the time has some in stock), etc. for months… but I did witness a battle over toilet paper in Kroger about a month ago (there is more toilet paper there these days although still people are hoarding). Glad you got some for them though.

@Kidsandliz they were all thrilled.

@DrWorm is totally at fault here.

@ruouttaurmind
Can you please confine/quarantine that condition to your own locality? We don’t need your nasty hot temps spreading all over the place.

I would like to maintain at least 600 miles social distance from weather like yours.

/giphy melting sidewalk

@ruouttaurmind what fresh hell is that?!?!?! I would burst in flames under those conditions

@tinamarie1974 Oh lollipop, there is nothing fresh when it’s 110*. Trust.

@ruouttaurmind

@f00l

I would like to maintain at least 600 miles social distance

You should be safe then. You’re around 1,100 miles away give or take.

@ruouttaurmind

Unfortunately, I think your weather is contagious this time of year.

So far, few symptoms in N central TX. But I think we haven’t been hit by the “hot spot factor” yet. It’s coming tho.

@DrWorm bought your mom that necklace you hated.

@RiotDemon

Your devices just love you.

They must show you this devotion! Right now!

No way you’re gonna get to sleep before you acknowledge your devices and their devotion.

@f00l @RiotDemon Good luck sleeping after you pull out the batteries and lie awake waiting for the smell of smoke.

@f00l @sammydog01 yeah. That was my thought. I ended up laying there for a little while and I guess the beeping lulled me to sleep, lol

I was wondering if I had any replacement batteries.

@DrWorm bought your mom that necklace you hated.

@Kidsandliz I’m sorry for your loss.

That said. I’m confused. If it is a “no-kill” shelter, why would they decide to “put down” an animal?

Just like Carole Baskin runs a “no-kill” shelter too, except for her husband.

@mike808 They put Mouse down because it was time. FIP is eventually fatal and she had reached the point that her quality of life was gone, she had stopped eating and was nauseated (one typical behavior is sitting all day with their head over the water dish when nauseated which is what she was doing).

@DrWorm doesn’t celebrate Mother’s Day because they think it’s a Hallmark Holiday.

@OldCatLady I hope the rioters and vandals all get covid-19 from each other. And I hope the cop is OK and whomever stabbed him/her is caught. That kind of behavior is beyond unacceptable (as is what happened to that man who was murdered by the cop).

@moonhat is why there are no summer holidays in June.

@mediocrebot @moonhat
but what about juneteenth, hunh…

@chienfou No telling how much money I spent on all those necklaces for everyone’s mom , only to find out how much everyone hated them.

@DrWorm