Except, not one of the worst, but hands down, the absolute worst I’ve ever been through.
Want to (publicly) compare miseries?
(1) First of the year, my wife, who had previously been diagnosed with dementia, is now diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s at age 64;
(2) [— but first, your turn, RD]
@phendrick@RiotDemon
My dad (80+, dimentia) got himself booted from assisted living in two weeks and into acute inpatient geropsych care and is spending Thanksgiving sedated and in restraints.
@phendrick@RiotDemon oh lets not compare. I think many of us have had very hard years. Lets just be compassionate of each others feelings and be thankful we have each others support.
@mike808@tinamarie1974 Seriously, Mike, really hope he stabilizes and can get back to assisted or memory care. It’s a terrible thing to watch someone go through this. They are there, but it’s not them. I just read a great book by Kate Mulgrew that deals with the heartache of this. I highly recommend it.
@mike808@tinamarie1974@ybmuG - I’m kind of embarrassed to say it but I am as always grateful for you guys sharing this stuff, which always gives me some much-needed perspective.
Last week was back-to-back 12s for me to cover for a colleague in Japan, and in the midst of it I got a call from the retirement home that Pop had been sent to the hospital choking and complaining of chest pains. After three days at the hospital getting tests, during which I flew back and forth to check up on him in my free minutes with my brother in my ear trying to coordinate everything from Canada, the diagnosis came back that they weren’t sure and he seems in remarkably good health, but maybe acid reflux?
This threw the Thanksgiving celebrations up in the air as he was feeling too tired to travel, and after three days of floundering my cousins are now back to having the feast at their place but meanwhile my wife had to make alternative plans due to HER mother’s issues, so they’re having dinner at the only local restaurant that had any seating left for reservations made yesterday morning.
Not that it makes much difference to me since I’ll be covering at work. But hey, things sure could be worse!!!
Oh, and when the doctors were examining Pop they were impressed by what good shape he’s in (97th birthday is next week). When they asked him, “What’s your secret?” he replied, “I never drink coffee.” They said, “We want a better secret!”
My dad is functional 70-80% of the time, and that’s not good enough anymore (after a surgery he had been putting off for years) for the independent living setting he had been in for the last several years. The worst part about his dementia, is that he has no comprehension that he has it. It’s not really denial, there is just no ability to be self-aware of it or grasp how/when it affects him when it comes and goes. So explaining his condition to him or trying to make him aware of it is useless. And then other times, he’s completely lucid and functioning just fine for his age. It doesn’t help that he’s a 10 hour drive away (although my sister does the heavy lifting as she is four blocks from the memory care he just moved to before this recent episode).
@mike808 - Hey! I got to work and it turns out there was some kind of sewer blockage, there’s standing water in the plant area and the whole place stinks. Roto-Rooter says it’s kind of a bigger job than they’re prepared for.
However, things can certainly be worse! Nevertheless, at this point I’m hoping not to need any more perspective.
@aetris Aww. That sucks. I’ve had a sink stoppage on a holiday weekend, too. I also found out that the sewer/drain cleanout companies around here all have their phones forward to a round-robin service desk. i.e. they advertise as “AAAA AAron’s Drain Cleanout” and a whole bunch of other names and you’ll get a different person every time from the central service desk. They’re all part of the local union, so they share the work when cold calls come in. Roto-Rooter is a franchise, though.
Point is, if you find a good company, call them direct - get their business card.
Sorry about the mess. That stinks.
Hope they get to you tomorrow and your not stuck until Monday.
@mike808 - Because it’s company business, they have to use approved vendors. But I happen to know that they called one of their regular contractors when Roto Rooter wasn’t ready, and it turns out the regular contractor subcontracts the work out to Roto Rooter.
@mike808 - Everyone has been granted the opportunity to try to not use the toilets much until next week. ‘Luckily’ we operate with a minimum number of staff these days, so “everybody” is a total of ten people, eleven if the manager shows up.
@phendrick@RiotDemon
Very good friend (I was a bridesmaid), early 40s, admitted to hospice yesterday with end stage melanoma, in terrible pain. They’re working on that last part, but this holliday season is going suck balls. We took thanksgiving sides and a pumpkin pie to the hospice for them this afternoon.
It’s not dumb what I am thankful for but posting here anyways—I’m very thankful no one killed in TPC plant explosion in Port Neches Texas today. We had to evacuate our home, as mandatory evacuations are taking place. We live within a 4 mile radius of plant ! Please pray for our area and all those fighting the fire.
@f00l thanks — I don’t know if this plant will open anytime in the near future. We heard several explosions during the day and one of their towers was even shot into the air from an explosion (1:48 pm today) at this chemical plant —thus the mandatory evacuations
Nothing.
That it’s almost over.
Definitely one of the worst years for me.
@RiotDemon What I came here to say!
Except, not one of the worst, but hands down, the absolute worst I’ve ever been through.
Want to (publicly) compare miseries?
(1) First of the year, my wife, who had previously been diagnosed with dementia, is now diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s at age 64;
(2) [— but first, your turn, RD]
@phendrick @RiotDemon Man, that’s awful! It’s a terrible disease, but there is a lot of great support out there (and even some “meh” support here!)
@phendrick @RiotDemon
My dad (80+, dimentia) got himself booted from assisted living in two weeks and into acute inpatient geropsych care and is spending Thanksgiving sedated and in restraints.
Not quite what any of us had planned.
@mike808 @phendrick @RiotDemon
I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope he is stabilized into some far better state of mind soon.
@phendrick
I hope this is not yet devastating. I hope it goes slowly.
Oh, man! So tough.
@phendrick @RiotDemon oh lets not compare. I think many of us have had very hard years. Lets just be compassionate of each others feelings and be thankful we have each others support.
@Mike808 so very sorry. Horrible news. Hope you are holding up ok
@phendrick @RiotDemon @tinamarie1974 Absolutely right!
@mike808 @tinamarie1974 Seriously, Mike, really hope he stabilizes and can get back to assisted or memory care. It’s a terrible thing to watch someone go through this. They are there, but it’s not them. I just read a great book by Kate Mulgrew that deals with the heartache of this. I highly recommend it.
@phendrick
https://meh.com/forum/topics/im-a-mess
https://meh.com/forum/topics/my-mother
https://meh.com/forum/topics/how-much-can-life-throw-at-me
There’s more, but it didn’t warrant any threads.
@mike808 @tinamarie1974 @ybmuG - I’m kind of embarrassed to say it but I am as always grateful for you guys sharing this stuff, which always gives me some much-needed perspective.
Last week was back-to-back 12s for me to cover for a colleague in Japan, and in the midst of it I got a call from the retirement home that Pop had been sent to the hospital choking and complaining of chest pains. After three days at the hospital getting tests, during which I flew back and forth to check up on him in my free minutes with my brother in my ear trying to coordinate everything from Canada, the diagnosis came back that they weren’t sure and he seems in remarkably good health, but maybe acid reflux?
This threw the Thanksgiving celebrations up in the air as he was feeling too tired to travel, and after three days of floundering my cousins are now back to having the feast at their place but meanwhile my wife had to make alternative plans due to HER mother’s issues, so they’re having dinner at the only local restaurant that had any seating left for reservations made yesterday morning.
Not that it makes much difference to me since I’ll be covering at work. But hey, things sure could be worse!!!
Oh, and when the doctors were examining Pop they were impressed by what good shape he’s in (97th birthday is next week). When they asked him, “What’s your secret?” he replied, “I never drink coffee.” They said, “We want a better secret!”
@phendrick @RiotDemon @tinamarie1974 @ybmuG @aetris
Thanks.
My dad is functional 70-80% of the time, and that’s not good enough anymore (after a surgery he had been putting off for years) for the independent living setting he had been in for the last several years. The worst part about his dementia, is that he has no comprehension that he has it. It’s not really denial, there is just no ability to be self-aware of it or grasp how/when it affects him when it comes and goes. So explaining his condition to him or trying to make him aware of it is useless. And then other times, he’s completely lucid and functioning just fine for his age. It doesn’t help that he’s a 10 hour drive away (although my sister does the heavy lifting as she is four blocks from the memory care he just moved to before this recent episode).
@mike808 - Hey! I got to work and it turns out there was some kind of sewer blockage, there’s standing water in the plant area and the whole place stinks. Roto-Rooter says it’s kind of a bigger job than they’re prepared for.
However, things can certainly be worse! Nevertheless, at this point I’m hoping not to need any more perspective.
@aetris Aww. That sucks. I’ve had a sink stoppage on a holiday weekend, too. I also found out that the sewer/drain cleanout companies around here all have their phones forward to a round-robin service desk. i.e. they advertise as “AAAA AAron’s Drain Cleanout” and a whole bunch of other names and you’ll get a different person every time from the central service desk. They’re all part of the local union, so they share the work when cold calls come in. Roto-Rooter is a franchise, though.
Point is, if you find a good company, call them direct - get their business card.
Sorry about the mess. That stinks.
Hope they get to you tomorrow and your not stuck until Monday.
@mike808 - Because it’s company business, they have to use approved vendors. But I happen to know that they called one of their regular contractors when Roto Rooter wasn’t ready, and it turns out the regular contractor subcontracts the work out to Roto Rooter.
@aetris Missed the part about it being the workplace. I guess everyone will have to get Friday off.
@mike808 - Everyone has been granted the opportunity to try to not use the toilets much until next week. ‘Luckily’ we operate with a minimum number of staff these days, so “everybody” is a total of ten people, eleven if the manager shows up.
@phendrick @RiotDemon
Very good friend (I was a bridesmaid), early 40s, admitted to hospice yesterday with end stage melanoma, in terrible pain. They’re working on that last part, but this holliday season is going suck balls. We took thanksgiving sides and a pumpkin pie to the hospice for them this afternoon.
Meh, duh.
Not having to eat mustard and banana sandwiches anymore…
@shahnm Have you tried PB&O?
@mike808 Let me explain something to you: No.
I can think of LOTS of things I am NOT thankful for…
This dumb.poll question can only show up once a year!
f00lishness.
Damn it meh! You didn’t send me the email and my streak broke again.
Hang on, there’ll be something about 2019 that isn’t worse than nothing…
uhhh…
Oh, coffee.
Coffee is good.
@InnocuousFarmer
Here. A topic just for we happy lūz0rz.
https://meh.com/forum/topics/pathetic-clicky-face-failures
/youtube Henry V we happy few we band of brothers
@f00l … can’t tell if inspired to death, or driven to cynicism…
so that’s where “we happy few” is from.
My dumb cat. I’m thankful for my dumb cat.
@therealjrn you know it’s just an act!
@hchavers @therealjrn
Cats are assholes.
@hchavers @therealjrn I don’t know, we have two cats that are sweet but both are dumb as rocks. Maybe the dog just makes them look bad.
@hchavers @shahnm @therealjrn Yes, but they’re our assholes.
@hchavers @shahnm @therealjrn Love that video. Nothing better than watching cats make children cry. I don’t like children. Talk about assholes…
It’s not dumb what I am thankful for but posting here anyways—I’m very thankful no one killed in TPC plant explosion in Port Neches Texas today. We had to evacuate our home, as mandatory evacuations are taking place. We live within a 4 mile radius of plant ! Please pray for our area and all those fighting the fire.
@AttyVette
Hopefully you locals didn’t get exposed to anything.
Hopefully everyone will be ok, and people will be back to work, fairly soon.
@f00l thanks — I don’t know if this plant will open anytime in the near future. We heard several explosions during the day and one of their towers was even shot into the air from an explosion (1:48 pm today) at this chemical plant —thus the mandatory evacuations
Ask me after the check clears… hopefully.
/image batteries
/image refrigerator
The sun
@medz hasn’t killed us yet.
So will meh do IRK’s for Thanksgiving, Black Friday or cyber Monday? I’m not gonna miss it this time (hopefully) if they do. I wanna be prepared.
@star2236 Best put on a pot of coffee. It could happen at ANY TIME!
My best friend just got a job after being unemployed for a year and a half. I’m really happy for him.
yeah, my whole dumb life is great and stuff. thanks or whatever.