@heartny Yes, it is important to extricate the cats and shut the bedroom door before getting into bed at night. Difficult to sleep with a ~20lb fur-ball on your chest, kneading and purring like a chainsaw.
@mikesmells If you like that then you’ve got to try a really good 3 to 4" featherbed! I couldn’t believe how it changed my brand new (but uncomfortable) bed into the BEST bed I’ve ever had! Sometimes you just don’t know until you know, go figure!
@Kyeh@tinamarie1974 I have 2 linen comforter covers that are 12 years old, and they are still in great shape. Other than softening a bit with age, they haven’t shown any sign of wear or loss of color. I wash them (and really, everything else) using warm water and white vinegar as fabric softener; dry on low heat, or no heat (air dry) in summer. I’ve never ironed them, and I don’t like the feel of linen that has been ironed. They are oddly both cooler in summer and warmer in winter than cotton. I have sheets and pillowcases in both cotton and linen. I’m okay with either, but the comforter cover has to be linen.
@Kyeh@tinamarie1974 well, no need to iron the sheets assuming you’re just going to go mess them up by sleeping in them anyway. If you want it to look 5-star hotel-ready, then maybe yes. Otherwise, why worry about it.
Also, yes, fabric softener is evil and we really should stop thinking it’s an essential laundry step.
I’ve got the most comfortable bed ever! It’s got a adjustable base and I use a 3" featherbed on top of the customizable sleep number mattress. It’s also got the built-in massage system! (No quarters needed! wink wink ) My favorite sheets are the 400 thread count 100% cotton sateen sheets. I like the slightly silky feel of the sateen finish AND I find them to stay a little cooler.
My bed fellows, the cat and the guy, aren’t to shabby either!
My wife runs cold at night but I am like a furnace. So we usually start out together near the middle of the bed, her using my excess heat to warm up (and I’m fine with her chilly feet/hands ). As we acclimate, we each migrate to our respective sides, with me usually next to the edge where it is convenient to throw off covers or slip a leg out from under. So I probably spend most of the night occupying something less than 25% of the bed.
Basic flippable firm pocket-coil innerspring “bed in a box” mattress;
2" memory foam topper;
Quilted-cotton polyfill “fiber bed” (like a feather bed, but with synthetic filler);
Cotton sheets (needless to say).
The innerspring base mattress provides a durable, supportive foundation with nice bounce, the pocket coils and memory foam layer conform to body contours for evenly-distributed support, and the fiberbed adds a breathable layer on top with a bit of extra fluffy cush.
I can flip and rotate each layer independently to even out wear, and replace any individual layer when it bunches up or wears out – unlike an integrated pillowtop or most “hybrid” mattresses (whether all-foam layers or otherwise) which can’t be flipped and have to be entirely replaced when the pillow layer starts disintegrating.
@SubGothius That sounds l like a good combo. Hard to find “flippable” anything anymore (except houses, though that didn’t work out well for people doing it this year either…). For the polyfill “fiber bed” I’m trying to get away from the huge amounts of poly. It seems almost impossible to find ones with non-poly fill. The best I could find is I think what you mention – cover is cotton but filling is polyester.
I don’t like those alternative fillers either so that’s why I stick with the feathers even though I’ve always been allergic they don’t bother me in the toppers or comforters. What are the reasons you guys don’t like the feather beds?
I got my flippable pocket-coil innerspring from Overstock, looks like they still offer them. Before I discovered those, was gonna buy one from SpringAir for 2-3 times the price, tho’ the cheaper “bed in a box” types lack firm sidewalls; that’s how they can compress and roll them up to ship in a box.
AFAIK polyfill and down-feathers are the only types of fill available for this type of quilted plush topper (not just a mattress pad/protector), prolly cuz nothing else maintains loft and breathability. IMO the key thing is to have no synthetics against the skin, so a 100% cotton shell at least for the top facing is a must.