Mother's Day

Barney thought this was worth mentioning said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 10:54am ET

Last year on Mother’s Day, my mom had a stroke. We knew she only had a short time to live.

The nursing home gave me the room across from hers to use. They made Lady a bed by Mom’s bed.

A few days later, she was gone.

I was numb during most of this. In my mind I knew that this was going to happen; she had had several strokes previously. But in my heart, I wasn’t ready to let her go. And letting go of someone we love so much, is very hard to do.

Where I was numb last year on Mother’s Day, this year I’m hurting.

I know many of you here on this forum, have lost your mom. I just want to say,

I know…

For those of you who still have your mom, give her an extra hug and tell her how much she means to you.

10 comments, 9 replies
Comment

f00l said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 10:59am ET:

TY.

7
- Reply
- Whisper
tinamarie1974 said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 1:13pm ET:

@barney, I am sorry. And I’m sending you a hug!

9
- Reply
- Whisper
Calabama said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 1:21pm ET:

This is my sixth without my mom. I hope she knows how much I love her and miss her.
She always told me to make sure I would have no regrets about our relationship, as she had with her mom.
I do not, my parents were a huge force in my life. We were tight to the end.

So hold your moms close today.
Make sure you call.
Try to amend the seemingly deep gap between you.
My mom was not an easy mom but she was mine. Thank goodness my personality is more like my dad’s was!
I was blessed late in life with a son who is the light of my life. Our relationship is strong. I do have 13 fur babies!
He got me one of those pop-up cards, a yellow rose bush and a box of candy.(I do not need!)shhhhh…
I love this card!

To all the moms out there.

11
- Reply
- Whisper
- @Calabama What you wrote, is so lovely. (And I loved your Mom’s Day Card!)
  
  Barney said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 7:36pm ET
  - 5
  - Reply
  - Whisper
narfcake said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 1:55pm ET:

Purple hugs, @Barney.

9
- Reply
- Whisper
Calabama said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 2:50pm ET:

I do understand and am thinking about you @Barney.

9
- Reply
- Whisper
Barney said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 7:45pm ET:

So this weekend has not been all bad. Yesterday I received a package from a Mehtizen. I had purchased one of the older style Sansa Clips from him. (Yay!)

Anyway, he sent me some bonus items.

One of which, was this:

No, it’s not a spaceship. It’s a bellhop bell! And it says “MEH” on it. And it goes ding, ding, ding. It’s so cool! I’ve been driving Lady a little crazy with it. She keeps giving me the look that she is NOT a bellhop.

Thank you, Mr. Mehtizen, I’ve had a lot of fun playing with it. (I didn’t know if I could use your name, so I didn’t.)

Edit: Oh, it’s a blurry bellhop bell. Sorry.

11
- Reply
- Whisper
- @Barney
  
  Ding it for us!
  
  f00l said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 8:54pm ET
  - 5
  - Reply
  - Whisper
- @f00l You must want me to piss off the dog (again).
  
  Barney said Sun, May 13th 2018 at 9:35pm ET
  - 5
  - Reply
  - Whisper
- @Barney
  
  It goes ding ? Fancy!
  
  I’ve thought this kind of bell is cool, but I’ve never cared enough to actually buy one for myself.
  
  PlacidPenguin said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 1:06pm ET
  - 4
  - Reply
  - Whisper
christinewas said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 12:28pm ET:

Mother’s Day continues to be one of the hardest days of the year, for me.

My response to my first Mother’s Day without my mom was to get blue streaks in my hair (I had never dyed it before). I’m hoping to get some teal, pink, and purple next week. Not necessarily for Mother’s Day, this time… though missing my mom is a factor. It’s a conscious decision to do something fun, that can make me smile when I see it in the middle of a bad day. A response to everything that is sad and overwhelming. I have other reasons, but the need for something fun is the main one.

What do you think, @Barney? Want to get some purple hairs with me?

8
- Reply
- Whisper
- @christinewas I think I’m too old to be purpling my hair. Add an extra purple streak in your hair for me and I’ll think of something else to do that will make me smile.
  
  Hey, I miss you around here. Show up more often, will ya?
  
  Barney said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 1:10pm ET
  - 6
  - Reply
  - Whisper
- @Barney I will definitely try. I’ve been missing the meh community.
  
  I don’t think you’re ever too old for purple hair. I have a friend who is… I think 7 years older than me. His mom’s hair has been pink almost every time I have seen her. It’s amazing!
  
  I intend to have a very colorful head when it all goes white. As my little silver strands come in, I just tell myself I’m one step closer to bleach-free blue hair.
  
  christinewas said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 1:21pm ET
  - 8
  - Reply
  - Whisper
lisaviolet said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 1:27pm ET:

I envy all of you guys. I wish I’d had a good relationship with my mom.

7
- Reply
- Whisper
- @lisaviolet My relationship with my dad was not very good, but I still miss him in many ways.
  
  Barney said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 1:44pm ET
  - 7
  - Reply
  - Whisper
- @Barney I don’t miss either of my parents. A lot of just…weirdness. A great family when viewed by an outsider, but inside? Not so much.
  
  I miss my in-laws more.
  
  lisaviolet said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 1:57pm ET
  - 7
  - Reply
  - Whisper
moondrake said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 5:01pm ET:

This is year two without my mom. Too much loss in the past few years. I continue to feel rudderless. On the bright side, one week ago yesterday on my visit to Austin and San Antonio I got to meet my first grand niece 8mos old (via my brother’s daughter) and my first grand nephew 3mos old (via my sister’s daughter). Life goes on whether we want it to or not.

3
- Reply
- Whisper
- @moondrake Yeah, life goes on.
  
  Barney said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 6:44pm ET
  - 1
  - Reply
  - Whisper
RiotDemon said Mon, May 14th 2018 at 6:49pm ET:

Who is cutting onions in here?

1
- Reply
- Whisper