I have become one of them.
43I'm 15 days away from our due date for the kidlet. Everything is baby. House? Baby. Going out? Baby. Food? Baby. Thoughts? Baby.
I swear I used to be a mostly-functional adult with a personality and thoughts and interests that varied. Sometimes I was even witty, or funny, or both! Now I'm all baby-stuff.
HALP!
Also, this is how it feels getting up.
and this is how it feels getting dressed.
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I can watch that bear video all day.
@conandlibrarian It's wonderful.
Don't worry, your thoughts will be more baby/kid after they are here ;).. You think that's all you think about now, but it gets better/worse!
@Thumperchick I'm sure you're glowing. It's the sort of thing you won't see in the mirror though, I'm pretty sure.
@Thumperchick That glowing thing often starts later, and then it looks more like the red light given off by molten lava. It seems to result most often from a constant level of sleep deprivation.
Cheer up @Thumperchick! Enjoy these wonderful days you're living right now. You'll soon look back and think, "Oh god! I wish I was still pregnant! I'd kill for 3 hours of sleep!"
@Teripie Ain't it the truth? Then when they do sleep for three hours straight, your internal panic button goes off and you obsess over what's wrong. You worry and fret until they wake up, all refreshed and hungry and dirty and ready for you to tend to them. Three hours later they're ready to nap and it's 10 AM and the world keeps on turning and you need diapers and wipes and COFFEE (unless you're nursing, in which case you NEED coffee but you can't have it) and you throw a load of laundry in and find you're out of detergent and - there is no end to this song, there is no end...
@OldCatLady you may not be able to have coffee, but i hear you are encouraged to have a glass of beer...
your kid will be a legend!
@Lotsofgoats or nothing
Babies are such a short period of time. They very quickly start getting up and moving around. Suddenly you have this tiny person running around. "Oh crap, they can reach that now" or "Oh no, they figured out how to open the front door".
They playgroups, preschool, and other group learning starts. Then they are in school. With other people for hours. Are these people being responsible? Is my child learning and having fun? Constantly asking questions and making sure they know it would be the end of their life if anything happened.
I feel like it's just something that just clicks. If you are worried and trying to cover all your bases, you are probably doing everything right.
Wait until conversation about poop becomes a way of life... ;)
@mikibell that conversation happened with the dogs. Though I'm sure it'll be super fun to have it all over again with baby poop.
@Thumperchick @mikibell i still remember when my first was born. there were a few of us at work (worked in a Tier2 Call Center) that had little ones (all of us guys) and we would sit at lunch discussing how excited we were that the baby pooped and it was an explosion (as we take our next bite of sandwich). We ran off many of coworkers from sitting with us, it was quite entertaining.
@mikibell Poop is great. I still talk about poop.
@Thumperchick
@mikibell So true, so true ... @Thumperchick you will so become a poop scientist soon ...
P.S. God bless your bundle of joy!
Forget babies - I want a polar bear now!
@hallmike I wish I can star this a million times.
@hallmike Think how fun it would be to play hide and seek with them!
There are times I feel like that cat trying to come in through the catdoor. Like when I'm trying to crawl through the dog door...
Don't worry baby it gets worse. Child rearing is the only activity that get progressively stupider and frustrating as it progresses. So enjoy the calm or hormone rush depending on what minute of the day it is and remember how simple it was.
Is it too late to get you a baby gift?
@dashcloud She'll be a baby for a while... but gifts are totally not necessary.
@dashcloud lets give a group gift. She will need diapers, maybe some food delivery, a massage. We can all give $5.00 each toward a baby gift.
@Mellaine She is always so helpful and sweet I feel she deserves something special.
I apologize for not being able to relate to this; but my mom had trouble with my sister; I used to always just eat when I was cranky; but she always needed to be next to my mom or she'd get into a hysterical fit of crying and screaming
@legendornothing maybe teach your kids to love food; it might help them
@legendornothing that might be why we have an obesity epidemic. Maybe I can teach them to love something more exercise driven? But that means I'd have to do it, too...
@Thumperchick Get the right equipment so that you and Mr Chick can carry the baby around without using your hands. Sling at first, then front pack, back pack, sitting on shoulders, riding on a parents back.
The baby will be happier and you get to get stuff done.
Also best of luck; would you like some goat feed for your child? Not implicating your baby will be a goat. Maybe? I don't know if your partner is a centaur.
Don't worry, it's temporary. You'll be back to normal in 20 years or so.
@mikey I lost my weight quickly by walking with the babies in the stroller. They love the fresh air and movement. I also took them in a baby swim class.
@Mellaine Awesome job! I wish I didn't live so close to a landfill.
And just to be clear, I was referring to being back to a functional adult with personality and the funnies, not fat-shaming or trying to stigmatize pregnancy weight or anything of the sort. I'm hoping it didn't read that way.
@mikey I did think you were saying she would not be back to her normal weight for 20 years. In 20 years she might be 50, going through menopause and gain more weight. Eating clean and exercise will keep you in good shape forever. Maybe she will be like the 91 year old man who ran a marathon.
When it seems over-whelming, just remember that the first 40 years of parenthood are the hardest; after that, things begin to settle down.
@magic_cave No they don't
I found this and thought it was fitting...
Just make sure they don't become a couch
@Thumperchick, Congratulations, I'd like to say that you're near the finish line, but sweetie, the marathon is only just beginning. We were the parents that rushed back to the E.R. on day 3, fearing something so wrong, because she wouldn't stop crying for like 3 hours .... I swear it was so hard for the ER nurses not to laugh at us.
It will be all baby all the time for a while, and you'll be sharing pics & all that good stuff. Be proud! You made that little monster!
P.S. If your doc hasn't told you in detail what you will need for your recovery, please do ask him/her asap, if he/she says nothing or doesn't give you details, ask a nurse (or really any mom). You might be surprised, and may need to make a trip to the drugstore for a few supplies, trust me. That was the one thing that noone ever talked to me about beforehand, and hubby was left scrambling for a few things.
Hey, @Thumperchick - I've been keeping an eye out, seems like you're kind of quiet today.
Anything special going on?
@KDemo that happened about 9 months ago.... Too soon? ;)
@KDemo special? Yes! Naps are special, right? Because I totally passed out for 4 hours this afternoon.
@Thumperchick - Naps are special! Glad all is well.
@thumperchick here's some comforting thought. Ready? My due date was Christmas Day. Yup I was supposed to be delivered by Santa not a stork. I think I got it wrong and went fedex smart post and arrived January 15th!
@sohmageek I was a late arrival myself.
@Thumperchick our son was a week early. I could tell you stories. We woke up in a puddle. My wife was like. I don't think I pissed myself in bed.
oh my a little Mehlet!* so exciting!
hmmm should that be an oMehlet?
For this one blame your hormones not the goat for baby brain. After her sister's baby was born my cousin (who had not yet had one of her own) used to call it diaper mouth. LOL Don't worry. After the baby is born hormones initially take care of the fact that you no longer will have a life. I am sure that is to prevent justifiable homicide and thoughts about the fact that there are good reasons why some species eat their young. Unfortunately then when they are teens their hormones act on you to increase those thoughts. Then you have to remind yourself that children's protective services takes a dim view acting on that. (grin) But don't worry. Eventually they grow up, move out and don't move back in. Meanwhile sit back and enjoy the show.
4 months in, and I absolutely love it. The 3AM feedings, the poopy diapers, the blood curdling screams, the drool etc are nothing compared to the absolute joy that having a baby brings. I can have the crappiest of days, come home to see her face glow up when I walk through the door, and it all goes away. In fact, just thinking about it now makes me happy.
I'm so excited for you guys!