I HATE Facebook
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I seriously hate Facebook. I don’t get it. One friend told me she doesn’t know have the friends she has. People just attempt to gather as many “friends” as they can. As though it somehow elevates their life status.
People I know who are unhappy create pages making their family life look like a 1950’s family show - just perfect. Then there are those who write such lovely things about one of your pics or posts, while they clean the blood off the knife they just stabbed you in the back with in real life.
I never even new “unfriending” someone was even “a thing”. I thought it was just part of a South Park episode.
I am on Facebook but I only started it to get 10% off a new handgun years ago. I have around 23 friends who are mostly friends and co-workers who somehow found me and sent me a “friend request”.
I understand that some people us this abomination responsibly to keep up with family and such. My nephew’s wife is one of those. But I can’t help but to feel that this epidemic is somehow a plague within are society. I wish Russian hackers would just wipe it clean.
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I use it for family and a few friends. Cause they use it.
Kinda post nothing.
Lovevkeeping up w the family pix and stuff tho. When I remember to login. Cause I only do Facebook on a dedicated device so that it won’t steal my accounts and address book and everything else.
Yeah kinda fuck FB.
/giphy "fuck Facebook"
Sory four all the tipos in the topik. I am ovarly tirred.
Meh staff can you please clean it up - thanks.
@mfladd - Nice work staving off the grammar police.
@KDemo
@mfladd eye was skimming sew only cought ‘are society’
/image land before time
/giphy it’s all right, it’s nobody’s fault
I have an account under a fake name, so no one can find me if I don’t want them to. All of my family is in another state, though, so I need it to follow them. Almost never post on my own page.
@KDemo My original Facebook account under a false name was somehow flagged when I reported a spammer. The only way to get back into it was show Facebook ID.
@KDemo I also have a false-name FB page. It’s as totally clean and private as I can make it, and it exists only so I can, on very rare occasions check someone’s (or some company’s) FB page without getting gazillions of demands to sign up.
Nope don’t use it. Don’t want anyone to know what I’m doing. It’s none of their business
@Barney I’m on it, but I simply don’t let people know what I’m up to thru that venue. Also, I don’t check on it every week. Come to think of it, why do I have an account still?
I deleted my facebook last year, much happier since. Now I have one with my bowling name strictly for work. My first name is supposedly Moose.
@Pantheist Pleased to meet you, Mr. Knuckle.
@Pantheist Here we just think you steal pants.
@kasheyev LOL, I had never seen it that way! I just imagined @Pantheist had the “COEXIST” bumper sticker.
@kasheyev close @PocketBrain nah
the real reason is less interesting
@Pantheist - But how do you get fan mail from some flounder now?
@KDemo That’s why I keep checking the bottoms of bottles.
If you have young family members and the various parents love to post kid pixnon fb, that part is pretty good.
Plus various fam members have the habit of announcing that they just got engaged, or are expecting, or put a contract in a house, or got a new job on fb.
I also really hate Facebook. It’s not as bad as it used to be, but the two issues I ran into a lot were “Hey, how come we aren’t friends on Facebook?” “I don’t have Facebook” they stare at me like I’m a monster and then the stupid “Your relationship isn’t real because it isn’t Facebook official”. It seems like Facebook is sort of dying off though, and lately it’s just sort of Buzzfeed. At least that’s what I hear from friends who have it. I think the only thing I’m really missing out on is a lot of people like to make study groups and plan using Facebook. But, since I don’t like studying in groups… I’m probably not missing out on much. So, yeah, Facebook sucks.
Subvert the Dominant Paradigm
I have a Facebook acct.
Haven’t looked at it in over a year.
People & family kept posting every little detail of their life & I’d get an email telling me.
I just don’t care to hear every stupid thing they did.
Maybe I’m a heartless bastard, but I had all Facebook shit go to the spam folder & I stopped checking it.
ps… I also started one for my dog. I might check in on that one… woof
@daveinwarsh Can I star this twice?! Those fucking notifications. Over, and over - ACK!
@daveinwarsh @mfladd you can turn off the notifications, or just filter like already mentioned, or just delete your account
But without facebook where would people get their news or know what news is worth sharing or know what news is definitely true because it received three likes?
I’ve created an account to keep in contact with my friends from Mexico and my brother whom is in the Marines in Japan
That is ALL!!!
I detest Facebook, the company.
But Facebook, the social device, is really just a reflection of who we are. It is empty without us.
I use it as another tool to keep in communication with distant relatives and old school friends with whom I’d otherwise interact far less frequently.
Virtually zero of my Facebook “friends” are local friends. It is a poor facsimile for those relationships.
It isn’t difficult to ignore irritating behavior on Facebook. If someone is irritating, you shut off their posts.
I have a facebook account but don’t use it to post anything (anymore). I do not go to facebook on any regular basis.
People keep posting crap such as:
I couldn’t care less about what my friends are posting. If they would stick with personal information only and not things I get from the news or from browsing the web, then I might be more interested.
The worst thing is when they share a viral image that contains a message that is wrong. I will tell them they are wrong and links to the facts. But then they keep it on their newsfeed anyway. Idiots! I sometimes hate to admit these are my friends.
@cengland0
My friends and family are pretty much kind enough to avoid posting political items and fake news. I am so grateful.
Mostly it’s family stuff. A few do cute viral pix or videos, which I usually ignore. News, I ignore. I “like” only the personal stuff.
I chat a bit with ex-coworkers - kinda a group thing based on who gets tagged.
I’ve become somewhat of a hermit the last couple years, so it serves as a way to keep up on things. A lot of the stuff people complain about is easily avoided
/giphy facebook sucks
I deleted mine the day after the election. Couldn’t stand seeing one more fake news story. I don’t miss it at all. If someone in my family posts a cute picture of their kids, my wife will show me on her account.
Facebook is software, just like these forums. The problems most of you are complaining about are people. Choose your friends wisely, learn how to use the software to see only what you want to see, and don’t post anything you wouldn’t want to see on the front page of a newspaper. Groups on Facebook are quite useful to me for local events, hobbies and friends.
What I find abhorrent is bashing others. If you don’t like it, don’t use it. It’s quite simple and does not require putting down others.
@callow I find I am utterly abhorrent for starting this topic, and I completely understand if you find the need to “unfriend” me here. I will be ok - I think.
@mfladd Hahaha
@callow I tried un-following people that posted viral trash (fake news and such); After 3 months, I was down to 1 person. Maybe the software brings out the worst in people. Like people on drugs, people are still responsible for their actions, but they do things they wouldn’t in other situations.
Ultimately, I deleted my account.
@leathakkor I pointed out to someone yesterday (not a friend) that a photo that was taken back in 2013 during a slutwalk protest (protesting the rape culture) was not from the Women’s March on Saturday (it was posted to stir up outrage from blue noses), I was told “it doesn’t matter”.
I’m going to see if this kind of thing is reportable under “fake news”.
Not on it, never will be. It’s a highly toxic environment that causes all sorts of fighting in the family and young people saying things to their older relatives that they’d have been put thru the roof for in my younger days. It inspires hate and dislike. Most people act like jerks there. Enough people feel the need to tell me what’s going on (I’ve asked them not to) so often I don’t feel like I"m missing much but I still love my nieces, nephews, siblings and friends. I can’t say the same for those that stay involved in the dramas.
@lseeber Agreed. Nothing but drama in that cesspool!
I use Facebook a lot. I think the experience varies based on your friends. My friends mainly post things about them. So and sos birthday so and so is pregnant hey there is a party friday night ect. If i didn’t use Facebook I would never get invited to parties wouldn’t see family pictures from far away. Would miss out on engagement and kid birth news.
You can hide all from various meme type things. I know my friends are all people i know in real life.
I went and looked in time stamp order my personal facebook page is
@CaptAmehrican Please tell your friend that a woman who can’t get to the women’s march said “Thank you!” for that kind thing she’s gonna do.
@CaptAmehrican I think this means I need better friends, because mine is about 99% politics after I gave up filtering people out. I have a lot of friends all over from a couple touring groups and I honestly could care less how they’re doing at this point. I just want whatever makes the re-shared political memes with no meaning and less facts just disappear forever.
Even with the nutty spelling and grammar, I enjoyed the spirit of this post. Ironically, I just shut down all my accounts yesterday. I just tired of all the whining. Also, Facebook and relationships don’t mix! Hahaha…
@frankzen What nutty spelling and grammar? Where you going with this? ;)~
@thismyusername My new favorite thing.
I typically profess to “hating Facebook”, but it in all honesty, I am not sure it is really Facebook that I hate. I think Facebook is just a conduit for people to say what they really think, as opposed to how that same person talks when the two of you are in the same room. Its one thing to see a stranger say (write) mean and hateful things, its just so much more disheartening when its a person you know (and quite possibly love) People are just the worst.
i wish facebook would die, and everyone would move to something that just tries to do one thing well… help you keep in touch with your friends and family.
as it stands, since everyone is there, facebook is actually indispensable for that.
@katylava flip flop?
@Yoda_Daenerys I think the point was “I don’t like it, but it’s the only one until something better comes along”
@katylava Is there anyone there willing to clean up my opening post of mistakes (there are a lot of them). It pains me just to re-read it. Thanks
@mfladd Yeah, I’m a lot nicer in real life. lol
I’m going to marry it.
@lisaviolet Get a pre-nup.
I’ll be the lone dissenter. I don’t mind it. I keep my friends list very short. No family even on it really. Mostly use it to follow groups and if someone is bitchy, they’re simply gone. There’s zero drama for me because I don’t do that in real life either really.
I get to interact with far away friends and find things I enjoy. Works for me
@KittySprinkles I should have known.
@mfladd
Well, if you tried that out you’d spend less on those antibiotics
@KittySprinkles That’s not fair. It was only poison ivy.
@mfladd
Funny place to get poison ivy.
@f00l Don’t judge me, or my gardening fetishes!
It has its purpose.
I use it to keep in touch with some old friends and long distance relatives.
Good for getting invited to parties.
Mostly I use it to follow science pages and a group that posts photos of beautiful long haired men, lol
I unfollow people where I don’t want to see their posts, but I still want them to be able to see mine. Cuts down on people that post way too much.
I don’t have any notifications turned on, so it’s very quiet.
I hardly ever post anything on my own page anymore. Maybe I’ll announce when I’m watching a movie because people will usually discuss it.
I don’t understand the people with hundreds of friends either.
Mark Zuckerberg doesn’t use it. He has a team to manage his page. Or maybe it’s two teams - one to delete bad things, and one to add good things.
I don’t use it either. But I save by not having a team to manage my image.
@sligett
He’s prob an asshole. I won’t friend him.
I ended up rejoining today after 3 years free. Is that falling off the wagon? There is one group in particular that I’ve been trying to convince (for 3 years) that they can build their own site simply to interact and keep people updated instead of using FB, but they just refuse to do it. It has been hard for me to stay involved with the goings on and planning of the group (closed group so I can’t even read the info), the leader has been kind to keep me in the loop as much as possible though. I decided I need to just drop the group or join just for that group, so I joined. No friends, no details. We shall see how it works out.
@darkdragon Sorry to hear about your relapse. You should check Facebook for your local Facebook Anonymous group for help.
Dear Facebook user: If you promise not to post pictures of your food on my wall, I promise not to post pictures of my poop on yours. They’re the same thing, just separated by 24 hours.
You people just follow the wrong stuff. Furry guy Friday, nerd stuff, donuts, and J. P . Sears are on my page. Not my best friend from college because I just unfollowed her. But we can still have a civilized phone conversation so it’s cool.
@sammydog01 following, unfollowing, friending, unfriending - it’s madness!
@mfladd How the fuck did I start following a site called “obscenery”? Was I drunk? I hope I can make it go away.
I don’t think there’s one right answer to how to use it or not.
Maybe it’s age, because I’m old, but I find Facebook useful.
My family doesn’t argue, on or off Facebook, which I know is unusual, but it’s my situation. We all like each other.
I find it very useful for keeping in vague touch with people I went to high school or college with, people I used to work with, and waitresses who worked at bars I frequented (many of which are now artists or teachers). Before Facebook I’d completely lose touch, maybe for a decade or more, and then we’d reconnect, catch up, and then have nothing to talk about for another decade. Now there’s this little thread out there, so we can see what the others are doing without needing a reason to reconnect.
Sometimes those people I went to high school with post crazy crap that pisses me off, so I just unfollow them. I rarely unfriend. I figure they may be enlightened by something I post, but I don’t want to see what they put there. It works!
I avoid, for the most part, controversial topics, at least in what I put there, because I know I’m not going to change anyone’s mind.
I have become actual friends with people I knew a long time ago, or people that I didn’t know that well, because this is a different format.
Unless I’m out of town, I share my stuff with “friends of friends”, and I’ve actually made new friends that way.
Facebook isn’t a substitute for having actual close friends, but it provides not just a convenient way to communicate but also an additional acquaintance tier that doesn’t exist in real life. I like that.
I guess I’m lucky in that I don’t have Facebook friends who post crazy shit, and few of them are idiots. I know I have some, especially among my college friends from decades ago, that do not share many of my values, but we have enough sense not to interact with each other on those issues.
Also cute pictures of cats.
I did it! I deactivated my Facebook account. If I open one again it will be under an anonymous name as some people have recommended. Fuck you, Facebook!
I’m Free!!!
@mfladd CONGRATS!
I haven’t deleted mine yet. I just ignore it.
@mfladd They will likely figure out you’re the same person, through some magic algorithms of what/who you look at and where you’re logging in. When I first created my new account, I got friend suggestions from my old one after only a couple of days. Things like, I added a couple people from college, so they recommended a couple people from my first job after college - there isn’t any overlap there. Creepy.
@AiliaBlue
They steal all the data they can get anywhere near. I suspect they purchase data from other sources and collate that with what they already know.
Creepy as hell, except that we’ve all just about given up fighting it or caring about it now.
@f00l Oh I agree completely. It gets even better with things like http://clickclickclick.click/ giving examples of what websites can track. (Hilariously, it doesn’t load at all for me since I’m running noscript.)
@AiliaBlue
No noscript for Firefox on iOS which is what I’m using at the moment.
Perhaps I should go back to android as the daily driver.
I hear that Apple won’t allow alt web rendering SW under iOS. So Firefox and Chrome on iOS are customized wrappers for WebKit or something like that. No gecko.
Extensions for Firefox in iOS would have to be written specifically for that, and perhaps be compatible w safari on iOS.
Some browsers get around the Apple restriction to a degree by doing some of the rendering in the cloud - notably Opera and there’s another few who do it. Obviously that’s not cheap.
I note that no mobile browser or mobile devices few are built for granular control of privacy data, individualized control of scripts cookies etc by source or content, user control of app permissions etc.
When I first got an android phone, before I got into the guts a bit more, I kept the gps turned off unless needed for something and I thought I was protecting my privacy. Hah.
By the time I realized how these phones just throw it data to whomever will pay for it, the barn had burned down and I’d given away the store.
I suppose I could try to at least stop the bleed. I do, to a degree. Am much more selectively be about what I install etc. I control permissions somewhat. I could use a laptop more, where I do have controls to a degree. I could root the phones and get drastic. Could install Linux on my home machines instead of info-bleed win 10 and Chrome OS. But basically I’ve surrendered for the moment.
Perhaps next year I can make privacy a project.
I kept hoping some trustworthy group would produce an open-source collaborative privacy-android-fork or mobile version of Linux compatible w devices manufactured for android and compatible with the google play store. So that I could be lazy and just jump on their work.
So far, I’m succeeding at laziness but not at privacy.
@f00l Honestly, I’m in about the same boat. Limit where I log into certain things, then use things like noscript there.
I figure most of my privacy’s long gone, we’re just aiming for things like “you don’t need to know my sexual habits” and the like. I’ve tried to make security changes and end up saying fuck it, it’s too much work.
My mother-in-law died last August. Peacefully, in her sleep, she was in her late 80s. She was in good health.
She and her husband (who passed away in 2001) had a trust for the kids that was started in the 70s. My husband and his brother are the trustees for that trust.
What a frikking nightmare. The brothers had his mom’s accountant fill out the forms for the disbursement of the trust funds. Every time there was a problem with the paperwork, they had to start over from the beginning. Oh, look, you didn’t cross a tee here, start over. Oh, look, you didn’t dot that i start over.
Instead of looking over the forms completely and fixing them all at once, it was one error at a time. Each time took at least three-four weeks to rectify. And it was frustrating. I spent one morning scanning years’ worth of amendments on my little portable Neat machine. The pages were legal size and we had nothing else here that would scan them full sized. That’s really time consuming when the paper is that thin rice paper (typed on a typewriter with a ribbon!), because it didn’t always feed properly and I didn’t want the paper damaged.
Last month, I’d had enough. I went to the financial institution’s website, found that they had a facebook page and I visited it. And I left a message. I had PM within hours, “please send your information”. I sent all of the info they requested along with my husband’s contact information. He got the call the next day. And this time, they were VERY helpful. Sent a sample copy of exactly what they needed to close out the account. I did exactly as they requested and that afternoon, the letter was notarized, overnighted to the company in the midwest.
The check arrived a week ago yesterday.
And I truly believe if I hadn’t complained on their facebook page, we’d still be slogging through it. These companies don’t like bad reviews.
So, there’s another +1 for facebook.
@lisaviolet
Had the exact same experience with a relative’s legal executors. They got a flat monthly fee for administration, plus additional fees for every action. We believe they prolonged their work for at least 18 months past the norm for that sort of service, just for fee collection.
No one thought about FB.
Part of the reason this stuff is so complicated is a result of past lobbying - so that administrators and lawyers and experts can make money off of the insane details.
I think at this point I am the current target demo for facebook. My family is spread across the country, so I use it to keep in touch and we share pictures of the nieces, nephews, grandkids, etc. My friends are vastly varied and also across the country, so the people I went to school with are mostly on the west coast, with my newer friends here on the east.
But wait, there’s more than just the run of the mill “keeping in touch” functionality for me. There’s a bustling B/S/T world on facebook - for just about anything you can ship in a PFRE for under $7. Kid’s clothing? Check. Grown up clothing? Check. You get the idea. There are also communities that grow around these groups and have their own little ecosystem of interesting.
The Women’s March on (insert your city/town) was largely organized on facebook, as are most local events, especially those involving children or art.
The targeted ads are getting creepily good and while I was always against the idea, the accuracy is growing on me and I’ve found myself shopping at some of those sites.
Yes, there are major downfalls to facebook. The bullshit “news” articles and memes that are massively shared as “facts” are one of the largest issues, for me. The platform lends itself to creating a single-viewpoint fishbowl, where people’s ideas are never challenged, giving everyone a false sense of being part of the majority in their beliefs. The forced curation is endlessly irritating.
But I’m there, every day.
Communicating with my mom and planning parties with my friends.
BSTing cute baby clothes with thousands of other parents who are trying to keep their kid dressed without breaking the bank.
Using the new marketplace to sell stuff locally in 2 days that used to take 2 weeks to sell on craig’s list - and you can do some level of vetting your buyer or seller.
If I share my food - it’s for the same reason I share the results of a craft project, or pictures of my kid. I made it and I’m proud of it.
And hey, I even throw out some political views - because I’d rather argue with a friend and see the other side, than just sit on the sidelines and steam.
It’s cool if you hate it. I get that.
I do think that using a platform designed (now) for sharing who you are and keeping in touch with friends/family and using a sock account is disingenuous. We have the entire internet to be someone else. If you find yourself on facebook, be you - be as little or as much you as you choose, but be you. imo.
@Thumperchick
How do you sell stuff locally in FB?
I think some people use false FB identities not because they want to be someone else or semi-anonymous socially, but rather because FB has data collection policies that are quite obnoxious, and has messed around with user privacy in the past, without informing users.
I use FB only on an otherwise “sterile” device because I don’t want FB collecting all sorts of data off a device I use all day long. Let alone my address book.
FB came pre-installed on the first smartphone I purchased. I didn’t understand about permissions yet (was still in the store talking to the salesperson who added the phone to my cell service account). I had already setup a google account including my contact list on the phone.
The “helpful” salesperson salesperson opened FB for me to show me the app. It immediately gathered my entire contact list at that moment w no notice to me and no request for permission. I logged into my FB account and immediately realized FB had collected my address book (which I had deliberately not shared with them previously).
I can’t really blame the salesperson entirely, since, not knowing yet about permissions, I might easily have done the same thing without the salesperson’s assistance.
There’s no way I know of to get them to delete that info. They keep it forever. That incident made me so mad I didn’t log into FB for several years. (Was not much of a FB user to begin with at that time.)
If someone uses a false name for FB and uses the FB app on a smartphone, there’s a pretty good chance FB will figure out who you really are by gathering other data from the device. .
@f00l I understand that frustration, completely. For me the benefits came to outweigh the… information exchange? (Invasion of privacy.) Perhaps it’s a bit of Stockholm Syndrome on my part.
There are several ways to sell locally on FB.
-The new Marketplace - you can read their spiel on it here. (fb link) It curates local posts based on when/where/what was posted. Takes a few clicks to list something, currently there are no fees associated with using the marketplace.
-Local “garage sale” groups. These are started and maintained by local individuals. People list what they have to sell - much like craig’s list, with slightly more information available on your buyer/seller. These groups are maintained and moderated on varying levels. Some have a hands off approach, some double check every person as they come in to ensure they’re real and local. Some don’t.
-Adding a store to a business page.
-BST groups - these are not local and run on PayPal and a little bit of crazy.
@Thumperchick
I gave in and use FB also now.
I started with a slightly altered form of my name, in some futile attempt at privacy. But then I had to explain to everyone that I was me, in FB messages of course, and FB prob already knew. So I changed my name to the firm most people know.
I gave a phony DOB and got endless "wait a min that’s not your birthday " messages from friends and family. So I gave in and changed it to the correct one.
My family has gotten into the habit of announcing engagements, babies, travel, jobs etc first on FB. Plus endless baby and kid pix and updates. So FB owns me now. I still use it on an otherwise sterile device tho. It’s my little meaningless FU to “Facebook the company”.
@Thumperchick Thanks for the info on their marketplace, I hadn’t heard about it. What’s funny is it is available on iPhone and Android but not yet on desktop, that’s a switch.
Food pictures are my favorites when they have the recipe included or better yet, an invitation!
@f00l
I did the same thing and kept getting b-day msgs from some people and then had to explain.
But not anymore. I am Freeeeeeeeeee!
I gave a phony birthdate. Anyone who knows me would be unsurprised. I chose January 1, 1970 (although it might have been December 31, 1969…I’d have to check). Facebook must have recognized it as a go-to-hell date, since my daughter officially is my daughter there, and her birthdate is in 1972. I have 17 connections, all of whom are either close relatives, or friends of many years. Less than ten of those connections are active.
I don’t have FB on my phone. Then again, I believe I only have two apps on my phone, one of them being the Kindle app.
Trust no one. Not even me.
@Shrdlu
That’s what I should have done. With FB and apps and phones.
Hats off.
@Shrdlu
Re phony info on FB.
My birth family, people over 10 years, who I revere, comes out to about 30, including cousins I who I admire deeply.
Then my step-mom’s family is about 40 over the ages of 10. And I have zero special tech cred w them. If I talk privacy or other similar, they start to giggle or smile at me in a friendly way. “Oh, you’re just being weird again. But what about that birthday (or way you spell your name)? (Or some other oddity) Really?”
And these are excellent people, morally likely far superior to me, and I revere them. And I owe them.
And so I made a choice - in this and other small ways - to blow the privacy in favor of the relationships. I didn’t have too, and no one would have boycotted me or been unfriendly or behaved very differently. But when I cut back in being too unusual or too theoretical or too weird, the relationships improved notably. And the FB changes were part of that. I think that I made such gestures meant something.
And, as I said, I owe.
So … Facebook gets what it gets. That payout was a deliberate choice, for reasons I thought sound. I hope FB never makes me regret that too badly.
As for the rest of the privacy stuff … I need to develop the self-discipline to make myself deal with it.
Sigh.
OP forgot to mention the privacy issue. When you sign up you may opt out of giving away some of your private information, but when someone submits you as a friend they are allowed to fill in the missing data. Example I helped this older man sign up for an account. He did not want to provide his some of his personal data. If I remember correctly it was birthday and something else. When he friended his child he provided the her personal information he refused to share with FB…
Yes, I stopped and asked if he was sure he wanted to provide this information he said ‘yes, she won’t mind…’
Another thing about FB is you can block people who make you want to throat punch them.
Just sayin’.
@lisaviolet What about people who deserve a tack-hammer to the forehead? Can I block them, too?
@PocketBrain Yeah. You can block them as well.
@lisaviolet
With a tack hammer?
/image “tack hammer”
@f00l Yes. If you feel like hitting them in the head with a tack hammer, block them. Or as I like to say “send them to the Facebook cornfield”.
@lisaviolet
Was kinda hoping FB had a “tack hammer” click-button for blocking people.
@f00l That would be so cool.
@lisaviolet what if it’s your dad? asking for a friend.
@katylava I think if it’s dad, I’d have to do some resettings. Like Dad would be put into the the acquaintance zone and my regular settings for anything I didn’t want him to see would be “friends except for acquaintances”. So, if I posted something for all of my friends or the public, he could see and respond to that. But if I choose “friends except acquaintances” for my privacy, he wouldn’t see those posts.
That way, he could still see some of what your friend was posting, you know, but not be privy to the stuff that would upset him if he saw it. Like sharing details of a long promiscuous weekend with lots of wine and boyfriends or a surprise party for the old fart, he’d not know about it via your friend’s facebook page.
@lisaviolet ha, i didn’t think about him seeing stuff i post… just wondering if i should block his posts so i don’t feel like throat-punching him.
this is good advice though. i shared a video about a transgender friend of mine and he replied “play the hand god dealt you”… if i take your advice i wouldn’t have to worry about him replying to my posts with such… simple-mindedness (i replied to his reply with a thumbs-down icon).
@katylava Unfollow him. That way, you’ll only see his posts if you go to his wall. And still change your settings.
@lisaviolet But you’ll still see comments he leaves on things you share, so it’s not perfect.