I clean the house when the wife isn’t feeling up for it. However, I don’t make her go to work and pay the bills when I’m not feeling up for that. Nothing wrong with staying in our lanes when we both choose them.
i used to be more regimented about it, for various reasons. but now i don’t really leave the house so…you might think it’s cleaner but it’s the opposite.
i do make the bed every day. and i have to use a laundromat so laundry is always folded and put away. and since i love to cook and don’t have a dishwasher, i do dishes multiple times a day as well as wiping down the countertops and the stovetop each time. the fridge and pantry interiors are also both very clean and organized.
but stuff like dusting or cleaning the floors…don’t ask. don’t ask about the tub either. or the outside of the refrigerator. or the room that has a ton of junk i thought i would sell on craigslist or whatever but haven’t gotten around to. or all the plants that need repotting. or the big pile of comics that need to be sorted and put away. or…
but yesterday i did finally donate a ton of clothes and shoes so, that’s something.
I was invited to visit a family living on one of the Pueblos. Their house was constructed of Adobe and the floors were compacted soil. That house was the cleanest home I believe I’ve ever been in. It smelled fresh and organic. I went home and tried to simulate the dirt floors by not sweeping or vacuuming but, turns out you can’t just not sweep or vacuum and expect the wholesome cleanliness of a dirt floor Adobe. What I ended up with was a dirty stinky house that did not smell fresh or organic.
House keeper comes every other Tuesday to do the major cleaning - bathrooms, dusting, vacuuming, etc. In between, my wife and I split the day-to-day stuff like dishes, wiping counter tops and picking up clutter. Works for us.