Depends on the anniversary. We’re coming up on our 19th, which won’t get more than a card and a nice dinner. But we’ll splash out for the 20th. Probably a trip somewhere; I have enough jewelry.
I don’t really put a limit on it. I just tend to get my person something that I know they will like. It might be something that will make them happy or that they’ll find useful. I try to listen for hints or offhand comments about things my person wants and that’s what I go for on special occasions.
Twice what you pay in rent a month for your girlfriends place…just in case she ever finds out how much you pay. The fact that you doubled it should prove how much you love her.
A tip I have followed is to do something light for four years, then something big (we do trips) every 5th year. It’s worked for me, though the last one got pushed back a year (some virus shut everything down, maybe you heard about it?)
One year I bought my wife a $3K watch. Another year I bought her a baby Koi fish, $12.00, for our pond. She never wears the watch, but she loves her Koi fish, Rosco. She goes out to the pond and sits on the thinking rock and talks to him every day. Next year… a bottle of Tartar Sauce! (Just kidding)
@Kyeh Nope. I tried cards, but it was all just meh. Waste of time and money. We don’t celebrate anything. Takes the pressure off. It took me a while to get used to it, but it doesn’t bother me at all now.
Whatever you agree on. But defiantly nothing from this web site
After 30 years, it has become: “Look what you got me this year”.
Don’t get me wrong, we have taken some nice anniversary trips, as well as a lot of special dinners, but Covid has taken the thrill out.
As a girl I really don’t think money matters as much as time and attention do. My boyfriend/partner (we don’t plan on getting married) works a lot and is always exhausted so a nice night out when he’s not makes me happy. Vacations also bc we never go on them bc he’s always working (runs his own business with his father). I only get flowers on my birthday so any extra time makes me happy bc its the fact that he was thinking of me. Or a card that he took time to write something in. I’ve gotten lots of nice jewelry over the years but now days I would rather have that time spent alone with him away from our home doing something fun.
Two weeks of salary goes to a vacation and all the tasty food.
@Salanth net or gross? either way i’m not going very far…
I don’t know what a good benchmark is but I’m very sure the other choices are not good ones.
Annivasy gift cost = inverse of nagging.
On a side note, my cable bill has gone up a lot more than my monthly pay has. (Raiding my change jar won’t cover the increase.)
If money is your benchmark, your anniversaries will be few.
The $1.00 card section
It’s the thought that count, right?
@mike808 Divorced?
@Tadlem43 Anniversary of what?
Spend what you can, when you can. Fuck the day of the year, nothing really matters as long as you’re both happy.
Two carats of anything.
@ThunderChicken
/image two carrots
According to Michael Scott, 3 years salary:
http://www.nbc.com/the-office/video/a-decent-proposal/3847248
Whatever she wants, if I can even get an answer out of her. It’s usually “oh, nothing” or “I don’t know”.
Depends on the anniversary. We’re coming up on our 19th, which won’t get more than a card and a nice dinner. But we’ll splash out for the 20th. Probably a trip somewhere; I have enough jewelry.
I don’t really put a limit on it. I just tend to get my person something that I know they will like. It might be something that will make them happy or that they’ll find useful. I try to listen for hints or offhand comments about things my person wants and that’s what I go for on special occasions.
Twice what you pay in rent a month for your girlfriends place…just in case she ever finds out how much you pay. The fact that you doubled it should prove how much you love her.
Ummmmmmm…Nothing. She gets the pickle tickle for free. If I started charging for it she wouldn’t keep me around for very long.
Extra time, attention, a good meal or two, maybe some flowers or something. All in all it shouldn’t cost tons of money, but it should be priceless.
The amount of money matters far less than the amount of time and attention put into the gift.
A tip I have followed is to do something light for four years, then something big (we do trips) every 5th year. It’s worked for me, though the last one got pushed back a year (some virus shut everything down, maybe you heard about it?)
One year I bought my wife a $3K watch. Another year I bought her a baby Koi fish, $12.00, for our pond. She never wears the watch, but she loves her Koi fish, Rosco. She goes out to the pond and sits on the thinking rock and talks to him every day. Next year… a bottle of Tartar Sauce! (Just kidding)
@accelerator Definitely do the Tartar Sauce, assuming her sense of humor is up for it.
anniversary present? lol… I don’t even think I’ve gotten a card.
I don’t think I’ve ever gotten one. we got married in 1985.
That said, I do have access to all of our bank accounts.
@lisaviolet I assume he doesn’t get anything either…
@Kyeh Nope. I tried cards, but it was all just meh. Waste of time and money. We don’t celebrate anything. Takes the pressure off. It took me a while to get used to it, but it doesn’t bother me at all now.
@lisaviolet Makes sense to me!
@Kyeh @lisaviolet Exactly! As I noted above, it’s the thought that counts.
Whatever you agree on. But defiantly nothing from this web site
After 30 years, it has become: “Look what you got me this year”.
Don’t get me wrong, we have taken some nice anniversary trips, as well as a lot of special dinners, but Covid has taken the thrill out.
@olperfesser Well, not nothing from this site.
SWMBO loves IRKs.
As a girl I really don’t think money matters as much as time and attention do. My boyfriend/partner (we don’t plan on getting married) works a lot and is always exhausted so a nice night out when he’s not makes me happy. Vacations also bc we never go on them bc he’s always working (runs his own business with his father). I only get flowers on my birthday so any extra time makes me happy bc its the fact that he was thinking of me. Or a card that he took time to write something in. I’ve gotten lots of nice jewelry over the years but now days I would rather have that time spent alone with him away from our home doing something fun.
Doesn’t she get most of it anyway…