I had no idea what your living circumstances were, your sex (although I know single males who have adopted)… Depending on your state and the agency you might be able to. I know several people who have adopted while living in a home that was either shared with parents or friends (that also meant they needed to be included in the home study process). I adopted while single and as a grad student.
Adopting from social services, while that has its own risks, often means a subsidy for your child and they are perfectly happy to place a child in a home where the parent isn’t middle class with respect to their income. I first attempted to adopt domestically for 5 years and finally bagged that and adopted internationally (internationally is less of an option for anyone these days). As a grad student my income wasn’t even close to middle class.
If you have any interest in adopting children it would be worth talking both to social services and to private agencies so you can get a take on their responses (some agencies are less “friendly” to singles).
Those of you who do not yet have kids, there may well be times, if you decide to have one or more, where you say to yourself “there are good reasons why I decided to have (or adopt) a kid. The fact that I can’t think of any of them now is not good enough reason to (take your pick): disrupt the adoption, run away from home, lock them in a basement until they are grown…”
My sister said, when she first found out she wqas pregnant (after trying for 2 years), “I’ve changed my mind. Can I give it back?”.
Rumor has it that Mark Twain said that when a kid turns 13 you put them in a pickle barrel and feed them through the knot hole. When they turn 16 you seal up the knot hole. He did not indicate when you liberated them. I know with my then teen there were times I wasn’t sure I should ever let her out.
@ybmuG Not at all! I have an amazing relationship with her, she says we are “a team!” Not to be confused with the A-Team lol.
I am having such a good time sitting next to her right now seeing her excitement. This is the first time she has seen hockey live and she won’t sit down. She is jumping up and down screaming and then occasionally hugging me. It is pretty awesome to experience!
PCOS and Endometriosis lead to a complete hysterectomy by the time I was 25, so no kiddos for me. Just as well with my narcolepsy-I have a strict sleep schedule and can only drive when feeling . No adoption as I have several health issues that limit my lifestyle. I do, however, often wonder weather no kids whatsoever is making me miss out on some fundamental aspect of being human—anyone???
Would have been cool to have had a son (so the family name didn’t end with me) but I’m extremely happy with the two daughter units, both now grown and self-supporting, that I know I produced. It is highly unlikely that there are other offspring out there somewhere, tho I guess it is mathematically possible.
@baqui63 i was the last of my family name line… when i got married, i didn’t change my name… and our 2 sons have both our names (hyphenated). When my elder son was born and i called my dad to tell him his grandson’s name, he cried when he heard our family name continuing on.
i have kids… i’m 50 and they are 21 and 16… i really don’t think they will… we have destroyed our planet - the Earth will survive just fine without us, but we have caused change to increase at a rate that my grandchildren (my sons’ children) will likely not have a planet that will sustain human life in any way that we recognize it. And the next generation - may not even exist.