@shahnm Same. At this point in life, I have accumulated so much stuff that the things I want and don’t already have are very specific. The last few years, I have just bought my own Christmas present, saving my wife the trouble and making me thrilled with the thoughtful gift.
If I want something reasonably priced I buy it. If it is expensive I save up for it and no one is buying me THOSE items.
I am pickey, so if I want something I figure out the brand/model/etc that makes the most sense. I mean I gladly share that info on my list, but my family finds it annoying. I.e. I would not say I want a teapot. I want the Breville one touch tea maker and then I would provide web sites and discount codes (if I know of any). Basically it is not as simple as running to walmart and grabbing something off the shelf
TL:DR I have expensive taste and am particular. Drives my family crazy.
My mom. The situation is often that she’ll ask for something super specific, so I search for said thing, cant find said thing, and then end up buying several versions of thing that arent exactly what she asked for but are close because I cant find exact thing. She’ll be surprised when she opens the several items similar to what she asked for, I’ll explain that I couldnt find the exact thing she wanted so I’ve supplied options and I have receipts for things she wants to return/exchange. It usually turns out that the super specific thing she asked for literally does not exist- the thing she asked for was just like her describing something she’d want in a life where the world was perfect, whereas I thought she knew this thing existed and had just never purchased it herself
@togle Note: It’s not like these are ‘shoot for the moon’ requests, like she’s requesting world peace or a duffel full of diamonds or something. It’ll just be something that happens to be a normal-enough-sounding thing that’s hyper specific (say, a 65-inch level that has magnetic ends), so I imagine this is something that definitely exists and she’s seen it in stores; but then I can only find ones that are 48-inch, 60-inch, or 72-inch, so I just buy one of each. By the time she opens them, she doesnt even remember making the request for “65-inch”, specifically, so she’s thrilled at the variety
My boyfriend. He buys anything he wants throughout the year or when he’s out Christmas shopping for others. And will often tell me not to get him anything but he knows I’m not gonna do that. So stop buying stuff and make a fucking list.
Nobody - my family agreed several years ago to stop officially exchanging presents; we’ve all got way too much stuff. It’s been very freeing! Some gifts are usually given anyway - my sister and I just can’t resist giving stuff that we find if we know someone will like it, but then it’s spontaneous and a surprise, so a lot more fun.
My dad… it’s IMPOSSIBLE. He buys himself anything he could ever want already, even when it’s the holidays. Even then, it’s like what else does he want other than cool tech stuff? … That he already has… Dad pls.