One of the gifts from my secret Santa at work was a tea advent calendar thing. My moms bday is the 26th so I regifted it to her because I know she likes tea, as I really don’t.
Our office virtual Christmas party had gifts purchased by the bosses; we picked the wrapped boxes via a zoom meeting. Then they did the white elephant ‘steal this steal that’. I got the last steal after someone stole mine but the selection of items remaining was meh, and I didn’t really want any of them, picked one at random.
Today at work three of us arranged a three way regifting that gives each of us something we had wanted or had stolen from us
Yup. This year and in the past. I don’t see a problem with it in general. If someone else would like it and you feel meh, why not. There is a bit more involved if the gift has sentimental or traditional value.
You would have hated living where I do then (grin). I was given at least 100 pounds of sweet potatoes (didn’t weigh them but they took up a number of book boxes - didn’t count the boxes either but my minivan was packed to the gills with boxes, good thing the seats were all out). I have only twice had them where I liked them, no idea how they were cooked, but I suspect in the second instance they were via a #10 can.
Anyway I went door to door in my building giving away sweet potatoes. I took them to the animal shelter I volunteer at and gave them away. I gave them to the medical folks at doctor apts. I offered some to the street beggars… The cats played with a small one and destroyed it…Took me over a week to get rid of them all. They must have been good ones though as I heard many reports of sweet potato pie, etc. then people (mostly after they were all gone) started asking if I could get some more… Fortunately no one offered me anything they made from them.
Logically, it can be a perfect action. Something comes into your life unexpectedly, and you know it’s just the thing for this other person you know. What better thing than to give it to them so they can love and enjoy it?
Or it can be a lazy or last-minute action. “Shit, I didn’t get anything for Ricky! I’ve got these gift cards to the civil war reenactment supply store from uncle Larry, quick give me an envelope.” Or just finding someone to pawn off that sweater from Grandma on.
But emotionally it’s a path fraught with danger on many sides. If the giver gave it to you thinking it was just perfect, and then they see Ricky at the civil war reenactment supply store and Ricky says “man I sure am glad djslack gave me the gift cards for here”, you’re on the way to hurt feelingsville or at least the plot of a Seinfeld episode.
In a perfect world, every gift given is free of entanglements. Once it’s given, it’s that person’s, and them doing what they please with it is the best possible outcome. But we’re imperfect humans, and we give gifts with expectations attached, so if we gave Linda a tetherball set because we pictured that it would be perfect for everyone to play at the weekend cookouts at her house, then when cookout season comes the tetherball set is nowhere to be seen, it didn’t live up to our expectations. Then when we notice her next door neighbor kids playing tetherball at the second cookout of the spring, we probably get at least a little bit of hurt feelings. But in reality, that was the thing Linda wanted to do most with the tetherball set. Whether it was because she knew the neighbor kids loved tetherball, or because she panicked last minute because her neighbors got her something she didn’t expect, it was Linda’s decision to make.
All that rambling to say, it should be just fine but often it may lead to tricky situations.
One of the gifts from my secret Santa at work was a tea advent calendar thing. My moms bday is the 26th so I regifted it to her because I know she likes tea, as I really don’t.
Uhm meh exchange got a lot of regift from previous years and irks
Our office virtual Christmas party had gifts purchased by the bosses; we picked the wrapped boxes via a zoom meeting. Then they did the white elephant ‘steal this steal that’. I got the last steal after someone stole mine but the selection of items remaining was meh, and I didn’t really want any of them, picked one at random.
Today at work three of us arranged a three way regifting that gives each of us something we had wanted or had stolen from us
Yup. This year and in the past. I don’t see a problem with it in general. If someone else would like it and you feel meh, why not. There is a bit more involved if the gift has sentimental or traditional value.
I won a 100 dollar gift certificate to an overpriced gift shop in a raffle, and gifted it, does that count?
No, because the only thing I got was cash from my mother. I think I’ll hold onto that.
I got a couple gift cards and jerky, so no
Regifting… wouldn’t that be the exchanges?
I regifted a cookbook from my uncle about nothing but sweet potatoes. I hate sweet potatoes
@ironcheftoni Me too!!
You would have hated living where I do then (grin). I was given at least 100 pounds of sweet potatoes (didn’t weigh them but they took up a number of book boxes - didn’t count the boxes either but my minivan was packed to the gills with boxes, good thing the seats were all out). I have only twice had them where I liked them, no idea how they were cooked, but I suspect in the second instance they were via a #10 can.
Anyway I went door to door in my building giving away sweet potatoes. I took them to the animal shelter I volunteer at and gave them away. I gave them to the medical folks at doctor apts. I offered some to the street beggars… The cats played with a small one and destroyed it…Took me over a week to get rid of them all. They must have been good ones though as I heard many reports of sweet potato pie, etc. then people (mostly after they were all gone) started asking if I could get some more… Fortunately no one offered me anything they made from them.
Logically, it can be a perfect action. Something comes into your life unexpectedly, and you know it’s just the thing for this other person you know. What better thing than to give it to them so they can love and enjoy it?
Or it can be a lazy or last-minute action. “Shit, I didn’t get anything for Ricky! I’ve got these gift cards to the civil war reenactment supply store from uncle Larry, quick give me an envelope.” Or just finding someone to pawn off that sweater from Grandma on.
But emotionally it’s a path fraught with danger on many sides. If the giver gave it to you thinking it was just perfect, and then they see Ricky at the civil war reenactment supply store and Ricky says “man I sure am glad djslack gave me the gift cards for here”, you’re on the way to hurt feelingsville or at least the plot of a Seinfeld episode.
In a perfect world, every gift given is free of entanglements. Once it’s given, it’s that person’s, and them doing what they please with it is the best possible outcome. But we’re imperfect humans, and we give gifts with expectations attached, so if we gave Linda a tetherball set because we pictured that it would be perfect for everyone to play at the weekend cookouts at her house, then when cookout season comes the tetherball set is nowhere to be seen, it didn’t live up to our expectations. Then when we notice her next door neighbor kids playing tetherball at the second cookout of the spring, we probably get at least a little bit of hurt feelings. But in reality, that was the thing Linda wanted to do most with the tetherball set. Whether it was because she knew the neighbor kids loved tetherball, or because she panicked last minute because her neighbors got her something she didn’t expect, it was Linda’s decision to make.
All that rambling to say, it should be just fine but often it may lead to tricky situations.