I would say less than 10%, as I see them as a way to ensure the recipient understands the intended tone of my message. Because or has a very different tone than at the end of a message that can be taken a few different ways.
depends. i don’t really text that much and i do use the heart emojis as a stand-in for “got it, love you, bye” almost always at the end of every text exchange i DO have so i think the percentage would actually be quite high even though i don’t use that many emojis. (so far this month i have sent a whopping two texts. in august i sent three, and in july it was zero.)
i tend to use emojis more on social media in spaces where people know i’m a woman. i find that if i don’t use plenty of emojis and exclamation points people perceive your tone as bitchy or rude. (but in spaces where i’m unknown, the assumption is usually that i’m a man and i can get away with talking like a normal person.)
@jerk_nugget Wow, that’s a depressing level of casual sexism. I’m sorry you have to put up with that. If I ever meet anyone who assumes a woman’s being mean because she doesn’t type like that, would it help to call that person out on it?
@lljk thanks for asking! personally, if i’m in the mood or if it’s someone i don’t think is doing it purposely to get a rise out of me, i will call them on it. but i won’t be like “what you’re doing is sexist and here’s why!” instead i just flatly ask them to tell me where i said or implied i was upset. you usually get one of two responses - either the “i guess you’re right, i must have misread it, sorry” type, or the ones who double and triple down, insisting that you must be a hysterical angry mess because you asked them to explain themselves. they’ll accuse you of making a big deal of things while they have an epic ironic meltdown. both are pretty enjoyable, tbh. basically, i find simply asking “but why” to be pretty effective at combatting that sort of thing. (also good for racist or sexist “jokes” i.e. “yes i understand it’s meant to be a joke but why do you find it funny?”
here’s an experiment of sorts that went viral awhile back that makes for a fun read if you missed it, about a man and a woman that switched email signatures at work:
i also swore i saved a compilation just the other day but i can’t find it - basically it was women sharing experiences like “i’m a doctor and i traveled with my family for a conference and stayed at a local b&b and they wouldn’t let me check in because the reservation was under dr. smith who they presumed was a man.” or, “i examined a patient and ran several tests and when i was finished the patient asked whether he would be seeing the doctor today.”
@jerk_nugget thus us so true. I actually dealt with a disgruntled male employee who took our email correspondence to HR. I was firmly explaining his short comings and providing feedback on how he could improve. He felt I was being a bitch and using reverse discrimination against him.
The one thing that saved me from HR hell was the fact that I ended those tough emails with a and a positive message. HR pointed that out to him and asked how that could be seen as discriminatory
@jerk_nugget@tinamarie1974 I’ve never heard of a woman being called a jerk. Much less a jerk with nuggets. That’s like some chick using a man’s nick such as @sammydog01. I mean that would never happen.
because emojis are annoying when there’s ton of them. I’d rather just have at the to help gauge tone or maybe or such. ton of emojis make it hard to read. Let’s go drive and get and tonight!
no because emojis are annoying when there’s a ton of them. I’d rather just have a smiley face at the end to help gauge tone or maybe a heart or such. A ton of emojis make it hard to read. Let’s go drive and get a pizza and a movie tonight!