Also made slippers. Everyone has one. I guess she made knitting a hobby. I want to use them/used to but. I don’t trust the cats around them. someone would get a claw stuck. Someone would piss on it. You can’t get pet hair out although I guess you could argue it’s enhancing it’s warmth… It’s a pretty loose knit.
@Kidsandliz@lonocat@yakkoTDI except at ‘that age’ I’d guess the flexibility required for attempting any sort of ‘act’ in an SUV is probably out of the question or will result in one of the participants having to drive the other injured one (in said SUV) to a hospital. And then the embarrassment of explaining how the injury happened.
A very dear person whom I completely glommed onto as a fan (they’re super talented) but has become a cherished friend surprised me with a drawing of me at my me-est, and I am endlessly
And another dear friend whom I adore because our wonky personalities complement each other so much made me a shirt! With eyes! That glow in the dark!!! What even???
I am usually very, very specific about something that I want after way too much research. So, if I suggest a gift, I am guaranteed to like it, and I know you are going to get it for me, but my parents still like giving me gifts versus money.
I hate the cost, and I do not think of them (after all, never look a gift horse in the mouth) but at 40 years old, I will always be happy with a LEGO set. Which, are always a surprise since i am asking for more adult-stuff at this age. Like help with a mattress. Or the sheets.
@kostia Does your friend know you well enough to find stuff you like? I’m always pleased and flattered if someone does that. Like “wow, they really get who I am.”
My favorite gift each year is that day some time in February when it finally stops being Christmas. I’m resentful of holidays in general because I’m a high functioning autistic with severe social anxiety and I hate how I’m expected to be a holly jolly motherfuck exclusively for everyone else’s benefit when I have layers of family and work related trauma that I’m dealing with at that time of year.
I’m not being facetious either. My birthday is just a few days before Christmas. The overlap of influence caused the infamous holiday amnesia some of you December babies are familiar with. You know the one I mean.
“Happy birthday Red! Now, don’t be upset, but Christmas is coming up in just a few days, so we’re sorta rolling everything in together there, and we didn’t do anything for you today.”
And then Christmas comes, and it’s “Merry Christmas Red! Now, don’t be upset, but your birthday was just a couple days ago, so there’s not going to be much for you today.”
And all the while in between, the parents would invariably be fighting about something else.
So yeah. My favorite gift each year was just the relief when the whole miserable affair was all finally over.
@Catburd Mine’s four days before. I was still in kindergarten when the fact was first driven home hard that while everyone else’s birthday was something to be celebrated, mine was different, irrelevant, nonexistent to everyone else. I start going hermit sometime in November, and usually don’t come up until after New Year’s. I try to avoid raining on other people’s parades, but it can be rough.
@Catburd@werehatrack
My birthday is mid January, just when all the holidays are over and nobody wants to do anything bc they just spent months (and months of money) going from here to there. I completely get it. I always wanted a summer birthday.
@Catburd we’re well versed in xmas birthdays in our family. My Dad was born Xmas day and my son was born two days after. My F-I-L is a Xmas Eve baby. We always do the birthday and Christmas celebrations separately and never do the “this is for birthday AND Christmas” thing. The gifts are separate. They’re wrapped separate and we don’t skimp on one because of the other.
For a couple years we tried doing a half birthday celebration for my son instead of real birthday but went back to celebrating in December again at his request
Actually, it’s kinda strange everyone in the family on both sides is born in winter or Autumn. Birthday season lasts mid September to mid March… every few weeks some cousin and sibling has a birthday and then no birthdays at all late March through September. With Xmas being in the middle of it all it makes the winter season lopsidedly expensive
At my first real job, my favorite holiday gift was time and a half or double time and a half for working on Xmas Day, which I always volunteered to do. I knew that being home would be depressing at best, and getting to ignore the holiday by working, and then get a little more in my next paycheck, was at least one way to dodge the seasonal bullet.
Surprise gifts are awesome. If we’re talking Christmas, a few years ago I received a small gift from my granddaughter and her then boyfriend (now husband).
Benchmade Grizzly Creek. Much nicer than I deserve.
For decades, there was actually one thing that I could have been given for XMas that I would absolutely have treasured, but I dared not admit to anyone what it was. I am now long past the point where doing it would be worthwhile, so it doesn’t matter anymore. I never was able to get up the nerve to try to get it for myself, though I did make a few unsuccessful inquiries several decades ago. The responses were … not positive. Lately I have come to understand that I didn’t know the right places to ask, but this falls under the heading of “Oh, well.”
I can buy most things I want. Big things I save up for so I ask for money to go to those things.
Last year, my sister surprised me with a beautiful quilt that she made by hand!
It’s one of my best presents ever.
@Kyeh A gift that is made by hand is my favorite kind. The person has used their precious time and talent for me.
@hchavers Yes, and it’s unique!
And a forever reminder of that person (although anyone who’d make you something I suppose you’d remember anyway.)
@Kyeh That seems like such an amazing gift!!
@brainmist It’s definitely one of the best I’ve ever gotten.
Here’s some photos: https://meh.com/forum/topics/its-all-goat-january-2023-scapegoat-blame-thread#63b36127f1da9692b9c0bf33
@brainmist @Kyeh I prefer not to get gifts in general but I have several afghans my grandma made (little old white lady who made it to 95+ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Afghan_(blanket))
Also made slippers. Everyone has one. I guess she made knitting a hobby. I want to use them/used to but. I don’t trust the cats around them. someone would get a claw stuck. Someone would piss on it. You can’t get pet hair out although I guess you could argue it’s enhancing it’s warmth… It’s a pretty loose knit.
I am very picky of things that are bought. Give me money and let me satisfy my pickiness.
When you get to my age, all you really want is SUV;
Socks, underwear and viagra.
@lonocat I can understand the need for socks and underwear but what is the viagra for?
@lonocat @yakkoTDI
Maybe to use in the SUV? (snicker)
@Kidsandliz @lonocat @yakkoTDI except at ‘that age’ I’d guess the flexibility required for attempting any sort of ‘act’ in an SUV is probably out of the question or will result in one of the participants having to drive the other injured one (in said SUV) to a hospital. And then the embarrassment of explaining how the injury happened.
A very dear person whom I completely glommed onto as a fan (they’re super talented) but has become a cherished friend surprised me with a drawing of me at my me-est, and I am endlessly
And another dear friend whom I adore because our wonky personalities complement each other so much made me a shirt! With eyes! That glow in the dark!!! What even???
@brainmist Really special!
@brainmist That is a seriously cool art gift!
I am usually very, very specific about something that I want after way too much research. So, if I suggest a gift, I am guaranteed to like it, and I know you are going to get it for me, but my parents still like giving me gifts versus money.
I hate the cost, and I do not think of them (after all, never look a gift horse in the mouth) but at 40 years old, I will always be happy with a LEGO set. Which, are always a surprise since i am asking for more adult-stuff at this age. Like help with a mattress. Or the sheets.
@KNmeh7
Nice sheets are expensive but make a world of difference considering you spend 1/3 of your life sleeping.
In general I don’t want gifts. I just don’t.
If I’m giving one it would be very specific. And probably random in that it wouldn’t allign with a holiday. I noticed you needed this so I did this
If I’m going to get a gift… Kinda the same thing. Or if you made me something. But you didn’t need to bother
My family is devoted to wish lists, with the occasional surprise. It works for us, especially for my parents shopping for my nieces.
My closest friend hates wish lists and makes it a point to surprise me every year.
@kostia Does your friend know you well enough to find stuff you like? I’m always pleased and flattered if someone does that. Like “wow, they really get who I am.”
@Kyeh Yes, she bats about a .990!
@kostia Nice!
My favorite gift each year is that day some time in February when it finally stops being Christmas. I’m resentful of holidays in general because I’m a high functioning autistic with severe social anxiety and I hate how I’m expected to be a holly jolly motherfuck exclusively for everyone else’s benefit when I have layers of family and work related trauma that I’m dealing with at that time of year.
I’m not being facetious either. My birthday is just a few days before Christmas. The overlap of influence caused the infamous holiday amnesia some of you December babies are familiar with. You know the one I mean.
“Happy birthday Red! Now, don’t be upset, but Christmas is coming up in just a few days, so we’re sorta rolling everything in together there, and we didn’t do anything for you today.”
And then Christmas comes, and it’s “Merry Christmas Red! Now, don’t be upset, but your birthday was just a couple days ago, so there’s not going to be much for you today.”
And all the while in between, the parents would invariably be fighting about something else.
So yeah. My favorite gift each year was just the relief when the whole miserable affair was all finally over.
@Catburd Mine’s four days before. I was still in kindergarten when the fact was first driven home hard that while everyone else’s birthday was something to be celebrated, mine was different, irrelevant, nonexistent to everyone else. I start going hermit sometime in November, and usually don’t come up until after New Year’s. I try to avoid raining on other people’s parades, but it can be rough.
@Catburd @werehatrack
My birthday is mid January, just when all the holidays are over and nobody wants to do anything bc they just spent months (and months of money) going from here to there. I completely get it. I always wanted a summer birthday.
@Catburd we’re well versed in xmas birthdays in our family. My Dad was born Xmas day and my son was born two days after. My F-I-L is a Xmas Eve baby. We always do the birthday and Christmas celebrations separately and never do the “this is for birthday AND Christmas” thing. The gifts are separate. They’re wrapped separate and we don’t skimp on one because of the other.
For a couple years we tried doing a half birthday celebration for my son instead of real birthday but went back to celebrating in December again at his request
Actually, it’s kinda strange everyone in the family on both sides is born in winter or Autumn. Birthday season lasts mid September to mid March… every few weeks some cousin and sibling has a birthday and then no birthdays at all late March through September. With Xmas being in the middle of it all it makes the winter season lopsidedly expensive
@Catburd @OnionSoup
Check family photo albums, the ones on the high shelves, for the early Spring Break activities. Then do the math (ya know, 9 months…)
My favourite gift is the gift of purring.
@OnionSoup sometimes if the purr-er is very generous you can get that all year!
At my first real job, my favorite holiday gift was time and a half or double time and a half for working on Xmas Day, which I always volunteered to do. I knew that being home would be depressing at best, and getting to ignore the holiday by working, and then get a little more in my next paycheck, was at least one way to dodge the seasonal bullet.
Typically, anything edible, especially home made.
Nothing, I like when people give me nothing because I don’t celebrate holidays.
Surprise gifts are awesome. If we’re talking Christmas, a few years ago I received a small gift from my granddaughter and her then boyfriend (now husband).
Benchmade Grizzly Creek. Much nicer than I deserve.
WORKER BEES! HERCULES! TURKEY GREASE! AWESOME!
For decades, there was actually one thing that I could have been given for XMas that I would absolutely have treasured, but I dared not admit to anyone what it was. I am now long past the point where doing it would be worthwhile, so it doesn’t matter anymore. I never was able to get up the nerve to try to get it for myself, though I did make a few unsuccessful inquiries several decades ago. The responses were … not positive. Lately I have come to understand that I didn’t know the right places to ask, but this falls under the heading of “Oh, well.”
Is there going to be a gift exchange this year?