@Pony Honestly, give yourself a break. Cigarettes were engineered to be hard to quit. I once had a hip injury, and wasprescribed oxy for the pain. The only reason I stopped was because I had doctors working with me to stop taking it. You didn’t have that.
If this is going to be how you go out, well, look at the people you loved and helped. Remember that.
@Pony I have an internet friend who was a heavy smoker for years (she’s older than me, I’m sixty-five). One of those militant smokers “I’ll smoke where I damned well please” type.
Anyway, a few years ago, a fire started in her condo (an air cleaner shorted out on the first floor) and she lost everything. Only two of her many cats survived, they were found in the basement on a table, the basement was flooded from the firemen trying to put out the fire.
She escaped with her life. She had burns and was in intensive care for months, then therapy. It took her longer than normal to recover because of the damage her long term smoking had done to her lungs.
@Pony and other smokers: I wondered why people couldn’t quit, but recently saw 2 research articles saying the BEST cessation programs were horrible: one put the best at <25%, the other is a group working to create one at least 50% effective which they would consider “highly effective” and they could find no examples of existing highly effective programs world-wide. By comparison the best weight loss programs (like Jenny Craig and WW) are around 80%. (Success is generally measured as goal still obtained at 1 year, but even then people restart smoking/gain back weight later).
Now I wish that this message would get out: once you start, you likely will never quit. Won’t help those who do already, but if it turned even a couple thousand folks off trying smoking…
Sorry for your struggles, but it truly isn’t you (and I am a big believer in things being my fault, like McDonalds didnt make me gain 30 pounds over the last 3 yrs). Yes, you did start, but being able to stop is not you being a weak person like “why can others quit and I can’t.”
Keep trying, you can be one of the <25%. If it doesn’t work the first n times, just try n+1.
@DVDBZN The bass were line caught by my family in the sound of Georgian Bay by our cottage. Some of the trout and salmon are wild-caught, and some are store bought (our grocery store had frozen fillets on sale).
Christmas Eve we smoke cigars. Only smoked cigarettes one week as a HS kid visiting cousins in NC. Only 25 cents a pack there. Also free samples you would get on the street in Manhattan. So…maybe 50 cigarettes in my entire lifetime. On vacation we sometimes buy cigars.
@smilingjack - I gave up cigarettes when I was 6. A friend of mine and I got a pack from an unattended vending machine and took them around behind the gym to try acting like the cool kids. I lit up, took a draw, and spent the rest of the afternoon coughing.
was a regular smoker, then quit down to being a “smoke when i drink-er” which at the time was rarely. then i started going out five nights or more a week and that “i don’t really smoke anymore” plan busted. i still only smoked when i was drinking at night, but i smoked a ton so it didn’t really matter that i stopped for a few hours every day
then i moved which meant: no place to easily smoke, no roommates smoking enticing me to smoke, and going out only once a month so i backed way down on the smoking again.
but, now i smoke when i drive again which granted is only once a week maybe, and only a couple cigarettes, but still. i’m somewhere in between these days. doctors always get confused as hell when they want to know how much i smoke per week. if i haven’t left the house? zero. if i went out to a bar/party and also made a four hour round trip drive to see family in that week? as much as two packs.
Think that’s rough? I’m a drink-when-I-smoke-er. Can’t help it. They sneak up on me. From outta nowhere.
The awful part, though, is I’m a regular smoker. I’ll wake up, walk out to our lovely screened breakfast nook, light one, then thonk! I’m stuck in the head but a mysteriously-propelled 5th of some god-awful rotgut. When I come to, it’s empty, I’m naked, and my neighbors are demanding to know why my yard is filled with what looks suspiciously like their respective collections of lawn ornaments, and why they all appear to have been coated in neon green plastidip.
I’ll get on my bike, start the engine, slap on a pair of Raybans, spark one for that badass James Dean (cum Arthur Fonzerelli) look, and fwang! next thing I know I’m opening my eyes to discover I’ve been T-boned by a pony keg of some shitty local microbrew, causing blurred vision, slurred speech, and a couple hundred dollars of damage to my rims (Raybans ain’t cheap, even from Woot) and several hundred more to my bike!
I’m currently hiding in a friend’s basement, whom I guilt tripped into allowing me to stay after he insisted we go to a so-called “hookah bar” (which, albeit, has “bar” right in the title, warning right there) after a cloud of Jell-O shots converged on the storefront. Anyone who’s seen a photo of what 150 kiloliters of 60-proof Jell-O does to an Oriental rug knows that such photos are rare, and very expensive. I paid 70 dollars for mine (Mercari).
In short, cigarettes are destroying my life! Quit while you can!
@mediocratic this was wonderful and i enjoyed it very much, thank you.
in related news, one weekend in college when i was away, my roommates decided to throw a giant jello wrestling party inside our tiny apartment. so, incidentally i do know what large amounts of jello and booze do to rugs, walls, ceilings, furniture, photos, and other household items
I smoke because my neighbor smokes and it’s killing me.
In truth, I have chronic obstructive asthma which for years has only occurred with a cold or flu. Now it is getting worse.
Neighbor down the hill keeps an ashtray on his windowsill and blows his smoke in my direction. For some reason the drafts carry it directly into my open windows.
I thought winter with windows closed would make things better. Turns out my heat pump is right there, and sucks in the smoke.
I have asked him to try something else. He said he would, but didn’t.
I even tried playing screeching cat youtube audio out the window (seriously).
Most heat pumps don’t introduce outside air into the house. Is yours an integrated unit (through wall where the condenser/compressor and the evaporator are part of the same unit) or divorced? I think I’ve read that some integrated heat pumps (and A/C units) have the option for venting, and there’s always the possibility of a broken gasket/seal/sleeve letting outside air through.
The roof unit on our old house had a flexible connection between the heat pump and the house ducting in the ceiling; it tore and just due to the way the air flowed it sucked in outside air, so we could smell woodsmoke from the neighbor’s chimney. Might be worth checking for. Also making sure the windows are really sealing, and you don’t have other air infiltration issues; we put foam sheets behind our wall switch and outlet covers on the edge walls of the house because we could feel ait flowing in; helped with outside smells too.
@kdemo If it is ductless then there is no venting or transfer of air from the outside unit to the inside; just refrigerant traveling through hoses/pipes. So there’s something else venting or allowing the outside air in. If you have any exhaust fans, fireplace, etc in use then outside air has to get pulled in from somewhere. Even a gas dryer or water heater flue will need some incoming air (into the house) to operate properly and it will pull that air in through any leak or crack it can. Or it won’t work well, which causes its own set of problems.