Why is it that on Mother’s Day, every restaurant is packed, but on Father’s Day, we’re expected to BBQ?
And i just love packing the kids gear and getting up a 7am to haul the kids to the annual “Father’s Day Baseball Tournament”. Every. Effing. Year. Like they’re the first ones to think of it, and none of the other dads of the 15 kids on the team would ever want just a day off from everything and truly celebrate Father’s Day instead of take your kids to another baseball game day.
@mike808 It’s a fair point,and I agree there is a high degree of inequity in resect to the celebrated events.I do think the Moms might be due a little more celebration in one form or another simply because it’s “Mom”.It’s ingrained in our DNA, possibly due to that first contact at birth…who knows? A little kid scared or hurt badly calls out for Mommy.Mortally wounded soldiers lying on a battlefield have been known to call out for Mommy.Also,did you ever have to break some kid’s nose over a “Daddy” joke? If it was Mom or Sis,your sensibilities would be severely offended.Unless,of course,your Mother was a drunk and your Sister was a whore (bound and tied in someone’s trunk…ahem),But I digress.I’m not advocating for complete parity here,rather more of a “what’s Dad want to do” on his day.I know two single Dads for years,and we always talk on Father’s day even now as the nests are long empty.It makes me sad and glad at the same time.So,for me,on this meagerly celebrated day…A hammock in the shade,some long necks on ice,and yes I’ll take that fucking epidural now please!! Cheers
@detailer I was just noting the irony in the events typically planned for “Dad’s Day” often involve work for the subject being “honored” while nobody thinks of doing something on “Mom’s Day” that involves Mom doing a bunch of work.
@mike808 Which is why when she sits around the house…she sits around the house! It is ironic indeed,and I understood,and agree with your viewpoint completely.
while nobody thinks of doing something on “Mom’s Day” that involves Mom doing a bunch of work.
Ah I see you’ve never had the chance to peek into a mom’s group on facebook around Mother’s day. The amount of sad, outraged, depressed mothers is astounding. It all revolves around the work the moms have to put in on mother’s day. Usually having to do with carting children around to celebrate the MIL, or having the clean up the mess the kids made when dad was supposed to be watching them - or if they decided to “make a special treat” that resulted in
a disaster in the kitchen. although that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
@detailer@mbersiam@mike808 I think the difference here is that things which occur on Mother’s Day that de facto increase her workload are mostly unscheduled or unintentional, where the father’s day usurpation of Dad as transport device to games and such, or as barbecue chef, or whatever, are very much intentional and part of the so-called festivities. Either way, there are more than a few people who end up deciding that they would just as soon do without these particular “holidays”.
@mbersiam@mike808 Wow.I’m sorry for the crappy experiences of you and your FB cronies.I’m sorry that your family dynamic has not allowed you the Mother’s Day I’m sure you deserve.Hell,I’m sorry for social media in general.Best that it would implode and let us all lead more productive lives.What you describe is something I’ve never seen in my entire extended family.Why so defensive? No one here is advocating that Mothers Day celebrations should be diminished in any way.The point (which you are obviously missing) is that Dads in general would like to be celebrated at a bit higher level than the current norm.A simple “what would you like to do or get” is all most of us would like to hear.Women have rightfully fought for equality on every front for decades,and I applaud that.So would it kill modern society to break the mold,and throw the Dads a bone on one lousy day a year? Perhaps,had you taken a moment after reading the thread,and said to yourself “It’s not about me…It’s not about me”,we would not have been regaled with your tales of woe,which to me,say " It IS all about me".Once again,I’m sorry if Mother’s Day sucks for you…It shouldn’t.
@detailer WTF sort of response is that. Did I say I had crappy mother’s days? No… I said that Mother’s day usually entails a crap load of women complaining on Facebook because it is equally met with disdain because of workload as @mike808 was saying regarding father’s day.
My husband and I don’t really celebrate either day because they aren’t that important to us. We don’t need special days to “celebrate” our procreation. In fact, I got my first mother’s day present in years in 2021. it was a pair of socks. it was sweet and not ostentatious.
I do however find it a bit sad that father’s day does not fall during the school year like mother’s day, and so schools tend to help the children celebrate mothers day and disregard father’s day.
My point was, if you had read it, was that the sentiment on the holidays is the same regardless of which holiday you’re looking at. And so, to your point, they’re silly holidays and parents should feel appreciated every day, not just 1/365th days of the year. Maybe had YOU not been so defensive, you would have realized that.
What you describe is something I’ve never seen in my entire extended family.
Simply because you have “never seen” what I’m describing doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. Maybe your family is really good at celebrating moms, or maybe you’re oblivious to the feelings of the women in your life. I’m not going to assume.
@mbersiam@mike808 Well,I’d say appropriate as your point was better conveyed in your second post.Thank you for the clarity.Now…on to “never seen…doesn’t happen” infers that I am naive,which I find insulting.FYI…yes we were damn good at showing appreciation to Mom(s) due to good parents and the moral compass they helped build inside us.Lastly,you couldn’t be more right about taking a pass on assumption,especially after the "oblivious to…women in your life " comment which I found rude,offensive,and flat out uncalled for.As someone who has buried a wife and daughter on the same day,it was downright hurtful.Yeah…how could you have known.I would appreciate no reply on your part,and will be respectfully resigning myself from this thread as it holds no further interest for me.Funny how levity can turn to tragedy in a few keystrokes…
I do however find it a bit sad that father’s day does not fall during the school year like mother’s day, and so schools tend to help the children celebrate mothers day and disregard father’s day.
I agree. I think that is part of the problem. Father’s Day is always fair game for youth baseball coaches to claim, as it falls in the heart of the summer baseball season. Mother’s Day, not so much. It’s too close to the end of school, and it’s not so fucking hot, weather-wise either.
I wasn’t expressing bitterness - that is reserved for my children’s birth vessel and the “family” court system. I cherish every minute of court-ordered parenting time (almost 50/50) I get with my kids. It cost my kids their first years of college tuition, so I hope they grow up to give all the credit to their mother for that during her court-ordered Mother’s Day holiday schedule.
This was the voice I heard in my head when you made the “yo momma” joke.Still laughing at Rick and “coral” Cast members used to tease Andrew on this one…saw interviews that were hysterical.
Why cant you hear a pterodactyl go to the bathroom…
The p is silent
@jmhsrv That, and the whole extinction thing.
@jmhsrv
The book is actually brilliant.
@blaineg @jmhsrv I’m also a fan of BNL’s Crazy ABC’s
@jmhsrv @xobzoo Love it!
Why is it that on Mother’s Day, every restaurant is packed, but on Father’s Day, we’re expected to BBQ?
And i just love packing the kids gear and getting up a 7am to haul the kids to the annual “Father’s Day Baseball Tournament”. Every. Effing. Year. Like they’re the first ones to think of it, and none of the other dads of the 15 kids on the team would ever want just a day off from everything and truly celebrate Father’s Day instead of take your kids to another baseball game day.
@mike808 It’s a fair point,and I agree there is a high degree of inequity in resect to the celebrated events.I do think the Moms might be due a little more celebration in one form or another simply because it’s “Mom”.It’s ingrained in our DNA, possibly due to that first contact at birth…who knows? A little kid scared or hurt badly calls out for Mommy.Mortally wounded soldiers lying on a battlefield have been known to call out for Mommy.Also,did you ever have to break some kid’s nose over a “Daddy” joke? If it was Mom or Sis,your sensibilities would be severely offended.Unless,of course,your Mother was a drunk and your Sister was a whore (bound and tied in someone’s trunk…ahem),But I digress.I’m not advocating for complete parity here,rather more of a “what’s Dad want to do” on his day.I know two single Dads for years,and we always talk on Father’s day even now as the nests are long empty.It makes me sad and glad at the same time.So,for me,on this meagerly celebrated day…A hammock in the shade,some long necks on ice,and yes I’ll take that fucking epidural now please!! Cheers
@detailer I was just noting the irony in the events typically planned for “Dad’s Day” often involve work for the subject being “honored” while nobody thinks of doing something on “Mom’s Day” that involves Mom doing a bunch of work.
Which explains why yo momma so fat.
@mike808 Which is why when she sits around the house…she sits around the house! It is ironic indeed,and I understood,and agree with your viewpoint completely.
@detailer @mike808
Ah I see you’ve never had the chance to peek into a mom’s group on facebook around Mother’s day. The amount of sad, outraged, depressed mothers is astounding. It all revolves around the work the moms have to put in on mother’s day. Usually having to do with carting children around to celebrate the MIL, or having the clean up the mess the kids made when dad was supposed to be watching them - or if they decided to “make a special treat” that resulted in
a disaster in the kitchen. although that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
@detailer @mbersiam @mike808 I think the difference here is that things which occur on Mother’s Day that de facto increase her workload are mostly unscheduled or unintentional, where the father’s day usurpation of Dad as transport device to games and such, or as barbecue chef, or whatever, are very much intentional and part of the so-called festivities. Either way, there are more than a few people who end up deciding that they would just as soon do without these particular “holidays”.
@mbersiam @mike808 Wow.I’m sorry for the crappy experiences of you and your FB cronies.I’m sorry that your family dynamic has not allowed you the Mother’s Day I’m sure you deserve.Hell,I’m sorry for social media in general.Best that it would implode and let us all lead more productive lives.What you describe is something I’ve never seen in my entire extended family.Why so defensive? No one here is advocating that Mothers Day celebrations should be diminished in any way.The point (which you are obviously missing) is that Dads in general would like to be celebrated at a bit higher level than the current norm.A simple “what would you like to do or get” is all most of us would like to hear.Women have rightfully fought for equality on every front for decades,and I applaud that.So would it kill modern society to break the mold,and throw the Dads a bone on one lousy day a year? Perhaps,had you taken a moment after reading the thread,and said to yourself “It’s not about me…It’s not about me”,we would not have been regaled with your tales of woe,which to me,say " It IS all about me".Once again,I’m sorry if Mother’s Day sucks for you…It shouldn’t.
@detailer WTF sort of response is that. Did I say I had crappy mother’s days? No… I said that Mother’s day usually entails a crap load of women complaining on Facebook because it is equally met with disdain because of workload as @mike808 was saying regarding father’s day.
My husband and I don’t really celebrate either day because they aren’t that important to us. We don’t need special days to “celebrate” our procreation. In fact, I got my first mother’s day present in years in 2021. it was a pair of socks. it was sweet and not ostentatious.
I do however find it a bit sad that father’s day does not fall during the school year like mother’s day, and so schools tend to help the children celebrate mothers day and disregard father’s day.
My point was, if you had read it, was that the sentiment on the holidays is the same regardless of which holiday you’re looking at. And so, to your point, they’re silly holidays and parents should feel appreciated every day, not just 1/365th days of the year. Maybe had YOU not been so defensive, you would have realized that.
Simply because you have “never seen” what I’m describing doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. Maybe your family is really good at celebrating moms, or maybe you’re oblivious to the feelings of the women in your life. I’m not going to assume.
@mbersiam @mike808 Well,I’d say appropriate as your point was better conveyed in your second post.Thank you for the clarity.Now…on to “never seen…doesn’t happen” infers that I am naive,which I find insulting.FYI…yes we were damn good at showing appreciation to Mom(s) due to good parents and the moral compass they helped build inside us.Lastly,you couldn’t be more right about taking a pass on assumption,especially after the "oblivious to…women in your life " comment which I found rude,offensive,and flat out uncalled for.As someone who has buried a wife and daughter on the same day,it was downright hurtful.Yeah…how could you have known.I would appreciate no reply on your part,and will be respectfully resigning myself from this thread as it holds no further interest for me.Funny how levity can turn to tragedy in a few keystrokes…
@mbersiam
I agree. I think that is part of the problem. Father’s Day is always fair game for youth baseball coaches to claim, as it falls in the heart of the summer baseball season. Mother’s Day, not so much. It’s too close to the end of school, and it’s not so fucking hot, weather-wise either.
I wasn’t expressing bitterness - that is reserved for my children’s birth vessel and the “family” court system. I cherish every minute of court-ordered parenting time (almost 50/50) I get with my kids. It cost my kids their first years of college tuition, so I hope they grow up to give all the credit to their mother for that during her court-ordered Mother’s Day holiday schedule.
@mike808
This was the voice I heard in my head when you made the “yo momma” joke.Still laughing at Rick and “coral” Cast members used to tease Andrew on this one…saw interviews that were hysterical.