Yes to the point where as of Friday, I feel like every shift at my retail job ( working 17 years between two locations) will be my last and I will lose everything. Work is so overloading and people are leaving left and right. Trying to catch up has led to close calls with me colliding into other employees. It’s making me second guess myself as management keeps changing the rules and the stress has me super nervous where I don’t have much of an appetite. Even when I slow down to a halt, it doesn’t seem like enough as people are moving so fast that an accident is inevitable.
@JT954@sicc574@thebigtverberg
At a great many companies in the retail area, you can have a life, or a management position, but not both. Unfortunately, the same is also true of the non-management people in this age of “flexible scheduling”, which means you get flexed, not that the management will work with you.
If you have been there for 17 years, why aren’t you management yet?
I have been an ER nurse for 30 yrs here, working as the ER coordinator for about 5 of them starting 10 yrs ago. I realized that I am a much better nurse than administrator, and my skill set is wasted doing bogus bullshit to make the CMS people etc happy.
I gave it up when my parents started needing extra help. I found I was happier having less income (leading to less purchases of stuff I had to maintain) and less time spent having to fill slots that went uncovered in the ER due to poor employee retention etc.
TL:DR some folks are happier (and less stressed) NOT being in management.
@sicc574 I’ve been asked that at work and it has been suggested to me by other employees. Basically I don’t want to treat people like crap and lie to them. Whenever I hear “you would be good at it”, that’s the same reason it won’t happen: It means they would be comfortable and not pressured and it’s seen as a weakness. At least that’s why it appears to be in retail. Plus the responsibilities involved seem overdemanding and I feel I would not have control over situations (bad enough trying to manage my normal life as is).
@tweezak Easier said than done. I get discouraged too easily and I feel this is all I can do. Positive reinforcement is hard for me to come by. My mind and body feel like they are in different places.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7 NKJV
@yakkoTDI@zinimusprime The same as he always has:
“Why do the nations say, “Where is their God?” Our God is in heaven; he does whatever pleases him. But their idols are silver and gold, made by human hands. They have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes, but cannot see. They have ears, but cannot hear, noses, but cannot smell. They have hands, but cannot feel, feet, but cannot walk, nor can they utter a sound with their throats. Those who make them will be like them, and so will all who trust in them.”
Psalms 115:2-8 NIV
My full time home business has been very busy then we found my mother had a tumor on her brain followed by surgery, radiation, lots of care needed. She is wonder woman and has come very far in gaining some independence but still needs help/supervision multiple times a day.
A great deal of research from the past 20 years has demonstrated that stress has deleterious physical effects far greater than anyone had ever supposed. It is literally deadly. And yet, there are people who treat it as not just acceptable, but absolutely the most correct thing to inflict upon everyone they can.
@chienfou
I will file it under “Peer-reviewed research confirmed by detailed follow-up investigations that verified the presence of physical changes of a detrimental nature with no other probable etiology”, TYVM.
@chienfou Government? A total of 11 months, over 20 years ago. It was actually one of the lowest-stress jobs I’ve ever had. Working for assholes who liked to fuck their employees over just because they could? A hell of a lot more than that.
So stressed right now I’m yelling at inanimate objects, the local birdlife, and my sweet but uncomprehending German Shepherd Dog; two courses of prednisone will do that to a person-- especially if the poison oak induced blistering it was supposed to treat has gone systemic.
Also, I’m old and all my friends and former lovers are dying. Which sucks bigly. Then there’s That Guy and his tedious and unceasing shenanigans. Other than that I guess you could say I’m unhappy. . .
I am an ER nurse in a small rural community hospital that is struggling to stay afloat. Inflation is eating away at my income faster than I can (or am willing to) increase it. SWMBO and I are the primary caregivers for my 90+yr mother who is exhibiting signs of dementia/mental decline.
Yet, in spite of all that, I really am not a stressed person. I pretty much deal with the shit closest to me as it comes up then let the rest slide.
My philosophy has always been “Don’t sweat the small stuff (and ultimately, it’s all small stuff).”
Stress is the fuel that pushes one to become great, also causes me to spend money… Win win
Yes to the point where as of Friday, I feel like every shift at my retail job ( working 17 years between two locations) will be my last and I will lose everything. Work is so overloading and people are leaving left and right. Trying to catch up has led to close calls with me colliding into other employees. It’s making me second guess myself as management keeps changing the rules and the stress has me super nervous where I don’t have much of an appetite. Even when I slow down to a halt, it doesn’t seem like enough as people are moving so fast that an accident is inevitable.
@JT954 Career change.
@JT954 If you have been there for 17 years, why aren’t you management yet?
@JT954 @sicc574
There are some of us whom are more than capable, but just refuse to play the games.
@JT954 @sicc574 @thebigtverberg
At a great many companies in the retail area, you can have a life, or a management position, but not both. Unfortunately, the same is also true of the non-management people in this age of “flexible scheduling”, which means you get flexed, not that the management will work with you.
@JT954 @sicc574
I have been an ER nurse for 30 yrs here, working as the ER coordinator for about 5 of them starting 10 yrs ago. I realized that I am a much better nurse than administrator, and my skill set is wasted doing bogus bullshit to make the CMS people etc happy.
I gave it up when my parents started needing extra help. I found I was happier having less income (leading to less purchases of stuff I had to maintain) and less time spent having to fill slots that went uncovered in the ER due to poor employee retention etc.
TL:DR some folks are happier (and less stressed) NOT being in management.
@sicc574 I’ve been asked that at work and it has been suggested to me by other employees. Basically I don’t want to treat people like crap and lie to them. Whenever I hear “you would be good at it”, that’s the same reason it won’t happen: It means they would be comfortable and not pressured and it’s seen as a weakness. At least that’s why it appears to be in retail. Plus the responsibilities involved seem overdemanding and I feel I would not have control over situations (bad enough trying to manage my normal life as is).
@tweezak Easier said than done. I get discouraged too easily and I feel this is all I can do. Positive reinforcement is hard for me to come by. My mind and body feel like they are in different places.
Is that a rhetorical question?
Currently awake
Nope.
How can you be stressed when you are sleeping?
@rtjhnstn I dream of all the things I am worrying about and need to do!
Nope, I have God with me!
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7 NKJV
@Weboh Ditto! Amen!
@Weboh @zinimusprime How is Odin doing these days?
@yakkoTDI @zinimusprime The same as he always has:
“Why do the nations say, “Where is their God?” Our God is in heaven; he does whatever pleases him. But their idols are silver and gold, made by human hands. They have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes, but cannot see. They have ears, but cannot hear, noses, but cannot smell. They have hands, but cannot feel, feet, but cannot walk, nor can they utter a sound with their throats. Those who make them will be like them, and so will all who trust in them.”
Psalms 115:2-8 NIV
Just a busy time of year. Yard work is peaking, gardening, school just started, bow hunting, etc. Seems like there isn’t enough time to do everything.
My full time home business has been very busy then we found my mother had a tumor on her brain followed by surgery, radiation, lots of care needed. She is wonder woman and has come very far in gaining some independence but still needs help/supervision multiple times a day.
@callow And you’re probably doing an awesome job helping out. Keep it up!
/giphy cheering
POPSOCKETS! SPA KITS! POLLY POCKETS! AWESOME!
I’m not extremely stressed, but it’s very, very rare for me to be anything resembling relaxed.
Just about to move house, health problems, general propensity towards being stressed.
A great deal of research from the past 20 years has demonstrated that stress has deleterious physical effects far greater than anyone had ever supposed. It is literally deadly. And yet, there are people who treat it as not just acceptable, but absolutely the most correct thing to inflict upon everyone they can.
@werehatrack
file that under “Misery loves company”
@chienfou
I will file it under “Peer-reviewed research confirmed by detailed follow-up investigations that verified the presence of physical changes of a detrimental nature with no other probable etiology”, TYVM.
@werehatrack
How long have you worked for the government?
/giphy question
@chienfou Government? A total of 11 months, over 20 years ago. It was actually one of the lowest-stress jobs I’ve ever had. Working for assholes who liked to fuck their employees over just because they could? A hell of a lot more than that.
@werehatrack
that was just a WAG based on the verbage. (My second guess was lawyer…)
@chienfou I was married to a lawyer for a while. Now an ex-lawyer, out of the biz because dealing with slimeball clients got to be just too much.
So stressed right now I’m yelling at inanimate objects, the local birdlife, and my sweet but uncomprehending German Shepherd Dog; two courses of prednisone will do that to a person-- especially if the poison oak induced blistering it was supposed to treat has gone systemic.
Also, I’m old and all my friends and former lovers are dying. Which sucks bigly. Then there’s That Guy and his tedious and unceasing shenanigans. Other than that I guess you could say I’m unhappy. . .
I am an ER nurse in a small rural community hospital that is struggling to stay afloat. Inflation is eating away at my income faster than I can (or am willing to) increase it. SWMBO and I are the primary caregivers for my 90+yr mother who is exhibiting signs of dementia/mental decline.
Yet, in spite of all that, I really am not a stressed person. I pretty much deal with the shit closest to me as it comes up then let the rest slide.
My philosophy has always been “Don’t sweat the small stuff (and ultimately, it’s all small stuff).”
@chienfou
I think the phrase is “Don’t sweat the petty stuff, pet the sweaty stuff instead.”