What the F**k Facebook?

@Barney
I’d give you 100 stars for that post if they’d let me!

@Cerridwyn Aww…

@Barney they aren’t true friends. That’s the problem. Most of them are family from Norway. It’s just easier to leave Facebook as the way they can contact me if need be.

All the people I really do care about, I’ve told them I don’t really use Facebook.

I guess it shouldn’t be that big of a deal. I think it’s been a year or two since the last time it messaged me about the ex. I took the last few hours to reflect back on why it bothers me so.

I just don’t want to see his face. I’ll never forgive him for how he treated me. I’m petty, I suppose. I looked briefly at his profile to see if he was still with someone. I’m glad that he is not. I guess I’m a bitch. I don’t want him to be happy. I want him to be miserable so he can understand how I felt.

Wow. I’m fucked up.

@RiotDemon Nah, you’re not fucked up. You’re still hurting, even after all of this time. I am, too, in places, even though it’s been years and years for me. It’s amazing how something appears out of the blue and can set me off. It’s a major blindside, I guess.

Maybe someday you and I can have a sit down and destroy our ex’s. That could be fun.

@Barney I’d look forward to it.

I’m surprised that it still bothers me so. It’s been 5.5 years. I mean, I was with him for over 12. It was a decent chunk of my life at the time. Just so much of it was a mistake.

It made me physically ill to see his face.

It didn’t help that his first photo was him half naked after a shower, and then his other picture said, “while you’re reading this, I could be naked right now.”

Ew. What kind of first impression is that?

@Barney @RiotDemon
The one he wants to make
So if that’s the sort of person he’s looking for, well, they deserve what they get

@Cerridwyn good point!

@Cerridwyn @RiotDemon and there’s nothing at all wrong with you, you just have a heart! And a good one. 12 years is a long time- You don’t wipe that away as fast as one would like. You’re just a good egg, RD.

@Barney
I think we can’t just force our friends to change their habits.

The same reasoning that I might use to get people to interact off FB if they were truly good friends of mine; they could turn the reasoning around and claim that if I were such a good friend of theirs, and they do social internet things all on FB:

if they should adapt to my preferences, then by the same logic, I should adapt to theirs.

So basically people either can come to terms with mutual preferred forms of communication; or they can’t.

No simple solutions I know of. At least not within my life experience.

Even tho the are plenty of reasons to dislike FB.

If someone won’t do FB I prefer that.

I have been known to do FB for certain reasons. Just depends. Personal decision.

@f00l Sometimes we lose people we thought were good friends for stupid reasons.

Good points. @f00l

@Barney @RiotDemon Do you need a hug?

@Barney @f00l I hear that.

@PooltoyWolf You aren’t the big bad wolf, are you?

@Barney I’m like his antithesis, the big snuggly wolf.

@PooltoyWolf Aww…

@Barney It’s my job to make people feel better!

@PooltoyWolf Nice job!

@Barney I don’t use facebook either. The first reason was the terrible interface (user experience).

I was about to give in but luckily, I was helping a customer sign up to Facebook, and he was asked if he knew his daughter. He selected yes, then facebook asked him questions about his daughter, at this time I suggested he did not answer them as she may have not provided the details about herself due to privacy concerns. He continued to answer all the questions. I was so pissed off I had to look away. This was well before FB was in the news.

Stay strong.

@caffeine_dude I am finding out, especially with setting up my new cell phone, that there is no privacy anymore. I’m pretty jaded right now.

@Barney If you have location services on Google tracks your locations. https://www.google.com/maps/timeline?pb

@caffeine_dude Yeah, I found that out. I have it off.

I don’t seem to be using many features of my new phone.

I guess instead of a smart phone, I should have just gotten an extra looong cord for my landline so I could have taken it with me everywhere.

Thanks for the info.

@Barney @caffeine_dude I let Google know where I am. I also do their surveys. I get free money because of it. I don’t care if they know where I go.

@Barney @caffeine_dude @RiotDemon I share my location with my mom 24/7 via google maps.

@caffeine_dude @medz @RiotDemon

I dunno, I just dunno. Hell, I still don’t have the damn screen protector on right.

@Barney @caffeine_dude @medz I just don’t care if Google knows where I’m at. It’ll be like, wow, she’s boring as fuck.

@RiotDemon
@Barney @caffeine_dude @medz
It’s not so much that they know where I am; like you said, almost all the places I go are so predictable. But I don’t like the idea that they might gather enough data to predict with some accuracy where I’m going next.
And I really don’t like the idea that they know when I’m not at home.

@compunaut They’ll also know based on my app usage that I have security cameras and an alarm system. (not to mention the google streetview pictures of my yard signs warning as much) From my google photos they’ll ascertain that I have a large dog. (and two disgruntled cats) They may also know, based on search history and order confirmation emails, that I own a gun or two. From my text messages, they might know neighbors communicate with one another when odd things are happening in the neighborhood.

Most importantly, they’ll know there are easier targets out there.

@Barney @compunaut @medz @RiotDemon Big Brother Who you are with, where you visit, how long you spend what you searched before and after. How fast you drive, the roads you take. How much time you spend outside. What you say when you are in the house (Alexa and google home user only) Even without your tracking device the smart doorbell camera with facial recognition, your cameras, your neighbor’s cameras, all tracking. The big brother is your all knowing corporation with the freedom of speech and government control. A government that is as old as your nana that can barely program a VCR.

SPOOKY

@caffeine_dude

@RiotDemon Doublethink = alternative facts Immigrants are taking all the jobs and too lazy to work.

1984
And if all others accepted the lie which the Party imposed – if all records told the same tale – then the lie passed into history and became truth.

Giuliani said.
“No, no, it isn’t truth, truth isn’t truth.”

@caffeine_dude

A government that is as old as your nana that can barely program a VCR.

At least I was able to program my VCR. By the time I figure out my new phone, everyone will be doing all new stuff and I’ll never catch up.

@medz oh god no. My current partner is a million times better.

@RiotDemon mine too, but you know… for old times sake

@medz there is literally nothing that I miss about fucking him. Plus, looking at his face makes me want to vomit, sooo

@RiotDemon so stop looking at his profile!

@medz this kind of comment is what makes me regret opening up on here sometimes.

@RiotDemon I understand your frustrations with Facebook forcing you to see his profile pic. My guess is he setting up new profiles and he had common friends. Trying to help with “People you may know”.
I was mostly teasing. Sorry.

@mike808 I’m not even sure how that would work. When I blocked him, the app automatically closed his profile and went back to home page.

I deleted the app, but technically still have Facebook. In the future while checking Facebook on the website, I’ll probably get another suggestion. Maybe it won’t bother me so much then. I think the fact that I got a random pop-up with his face in the middle of my workday is what bothered me.

@RiotDemon If, like my phone (AT&T Samsung), FB is “built in” to your phone, you may have to:

1 Disable all permissions (location and contacts especially),
2 Clear app data,
3 Uninstall all updates,
4 And then from the app manager settings, disable the app.

Deleting the app off your home screen/launcher is just deleting a shortcut to the app, not the app itself.

@mike808 thanks, I did disable it. Hopefully one day I’ll cut the cord completely.

@RiotDemon Maybe setup a new account yourself using less of your own personal information? Initials or a nickname? After starting it, connect with the family you wish and set all the privacy stuff possible.

I do not have an account so I am not sure if it would work good but if you start again without a history of when you did use it in the past…

@magic_cave thank you. I do feel better after venting here.

Happy anniversary!

@jelliott04 thank you.

@mike808 heh. That reminded me. About 4.5 years after we split, I received a hospital bill for him from a hospital 1+ hours away. All I could think was “That asshole still hasn’t changed his address?”

@RiotDemon I went to a specialist and filled out about a million forms as a new patient. They sent the bill to my Mom-in-law’s address. I had never lived at that address but she had been a patient at that office. Sometimes I wonder how many errors are entered in records.

@RiotDemon @speediedelivery
Imagine you are a voter in Georgia or North Dakota or North Carolina or Kansas or Texas or any Republican-controlled state that has systemically and intentionally schemed to defraud more lawful voters from exercising their constitutional rights than to have protected the election processes from ineligible voting by passing “exact match” requirements.

A clerk in the Voter Registration office could routinely disenfranchise likely non-Republican voters without any consequences or risk of prosecutuon by adding extra hyphens or spaces here and there in people’s names and addresses.

Vermont has it right. Automatic default registration when you get your license or state ID.

@zinimusprime I creeped. My curiosity is sated. He’s still gross to me, haha

Every once in a blue moon I’ll creep on a long gone ex where we were both sad it ended. I was happy to see that he had been with someone a long time. Such a different feeling.