What is suitable surrogate mother?
10Irk… I just had to calm down my 22.5 month (can I just call him 2 yet?) old son down. My wife is traveling for work. And she will be gone till Friday. He was calling mommy mommy. I went in and he kept looking for mommy. So I told him it’s like when Daddy goes out late at night sometimes (magic can run into the early hours of the next day, only sometimes do I smell like booze, basically when I lose really bad, but I digress)
I asked him what’s wrong do you want water? He has this thing where he likes a glass of water at night. Takes about 4 sips and lays down. He said color. He wanted to color and I told him bed time, tomorrow. He said something and then Irk. Irk is the only thing that perks this kid up faster than a kid in a candy shop. He would pass on candy for Irk. Well. Today Irk became a surrogate mother. When he asks for mommy Irk gets his mind off of the fact that she’s gone for another ~86 hours but who’s counting.
Thank you Irk, thank you handler @matthew and thank you mad ape den for many many musical numbers with Irk.
Fuck. I’m on mobile and can’t set the image to Irk. Can you assist please @thumperchick?
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Although it is funny that the image came up with the words man’s semen and we are talking about Irk…
Can you Skype with Mom…
@mikibell we face timed. He can see her still in the am and once before bed. Just not right at bed.
@sohmageek can you record it? Or take a picture and have him give the picture kisses goodnight? The week will be gone soon enough!
@mikibell When my daughter was young and I’d have to travel for work, this would sometimes backfire and make things worse. Child sees mom, but doesn’t understand why he/she cannot hold/lay on/cuddle/whatever with mom. This one can be very tricky, and depends on child and age, it can work very well to help, or can backfire very badly (or so my husband tells me) … suggest proceed with extreme caution…
Find one of her worn shirts that smells like her. Give it to him or wrap his pillow in it. Might help
Might be a good time to go buy a puppy…
@Steve7654 can’t. We rent.
As stated keep some of her worn shirts around.
Are you still surviving? No good advice other than many kids that age can be distracted. I would find a noncommittal phrase to use each time Mommy comes up. Something like “I miss her too, we will see Mommy later?” Then continue on with a different topic without waiting for an answer. Maybe “Should we make a sandwich or soup for lunch?” or Do we need the purple crayon next?" If you keep the topic of Mommy, you will spiral down.
The young ones have trouble figuring out time. Stuff happens now or what seems like never. They are starting to get a sense of later but later is often whenever they think of the topic again. Technically they are correct, it is later but saying not until a specific time does not work.
When the kids got older and could understand a specific day, I always hedged my bets and lied with a later time. I had one I told after dinner so they wanted dinner right now so they could come home now, the little brat. I only had big problems with this once when they missed the flight back. Now a whole day delay, swell. Little brat wants to know why they don’t use a ladder to catch the plane. Hard to argue with that logic. I do not volunteer to babysit much anymore!
TL,DR: Hope you two are managing and having fun with some one on one time!
@speediedelivery thriving. I’m getting more hugs and love than ever. Today was hot. So we didn’t do much. Neither one of us wanted o eat much. We got in the car and drove to McDonald’s to get ice cream, cause Daddy… Well he ate bites of food in between hot fudge Sunday. Didn’t think fries with ice cream was a good idea. He loved it. Even tried using the melted ice cream as fry dip. Ew. But. Then he wanted to climb all over me after a bath. We were on the bed and he found the irk shirt. All he would say is irk! So I told him I’d wear it. (3rd day, it’s not bad though. Only for like 3 hours a day) he loved it jumping on me and happy screams of “irk”