@kjady For 29 years, my partner threw a Chocolate Decadence party on some weekend after V-day, to give herself a reason to loot the half-price sales starting on the afternoon (and in some places, morning) of the 14th.
@xobzoo The people who make a lot of this crap pre-package it in such a way that the Valentine’s labeling can be pulled off of the outside, leaving it looking more generic, so that it can be kept to be put out again for Mother’s Day. The rest, of course, gets sold off at half price or less. But there’s always some left in the warehouses. So maybe there’s an opportunity?
If you treat Valentine’s Day as a reminder to spend an extra bit of special time with your significant other, then it’s delightful. There are a lot of cultural forces pushing it to be a capitalist nightmare, but even that side means discount candy the next day.
@blaineg@chienfou I have an Amish market around the corner and they have a wonderful flower shop that I visit every month or two. I’ve gotten to know the owner over the past… geeze… 15 years or so and while they have a bunch of pre-made bouquets from $10-20, I just hand over thirty or forty dollars and say, “make something great for my Jenny”. The owner knows my wife loves sunflowers and fall colors, so I always walk out with an obnoxiously large, absolutely perfect bundle of flowers. I don’t buy flowers on Valentine’s day… because yes… they are typically poor-quality overpriced stems. I take that money and put it into a delicious meal that I will likely spend way too much time on. Same with Mother’s Day. Don’t really buy flowers, but I do try to plant a rose bush (or similar) every year if I can. I learned that one from my dad. I think my Jenny is ok with my flower schedule…heh.
Back when I was dating my now ex-wife, I pitched no scheduled gift-giving to my spouse. The idea was we’d skip the pressure of birthdays/Christmas/Valentine’s Day/etc. and buy gifts for each other whenever we saw something the other would like.
It worked out quite well: she got a steady supply of various high-end body lotions and candles along with a digital picture frame, robe, or some other long-term item thrown in every once in a while. Almost all of it was sourced from deal sites. And I didn’t receive much, which is fine since I prefer choosing my own gifts. We’d still celebrate birthdays/anniversaries with a nice dinner or weekend trip, but no gifts. So much less stress.
I’ve told several couples I know about the idea, and I think at least two of them have adopted it. Obviously wouldn’t work well with a person whose “love language” is gift-giving, but it’s at least worth discussing.
@Kabn This is how my family does holidays in general - presents are a surprise and not an obligation! And I would say that presents actually are our “love language” but having them unlinked from specific days doesn’t hurt at all.