I went through security first. My gf was behind me but her bag was too big. So before they would let her pass, she had to rearrange stuff in her bag, mainly by passing items to me (so that my bag was now too big, but I was already passed through.)
Haven’t flown them in a few years and I feel they’ve probably gone downhill (they used to arrive on time), but really this is kindergarten level stuff - read the rules. If they say 20kg baggage and that they will charge you for excess, they mean they will charge you for excess (starting at 21kg). When they say print your boarding pass or they will charge you 40€ to print it at the airport, they mean they will charge you 40€ to print it at the airport. If you read and follow the rules you can get some good deals on flights. Not following the rules can be costly - no exceptions.
Personally I think that ‘ala carte’ pricing for airfare is totally reasonable. If I want to have a piece of luggage in the hold I can either buy a ticket with that level of service or pay to have it in there. If I don’t want/need that service, I can just save that money. It’s sort of like saying since ‘everyone’ buys fries and a drink at McDonald’s to go with their sandwich, they shouldn’t sell anything but complete meals…
When we lived in England and Germany for several years (military) we used Ryan Air, so it has been a few years. We took them for very low cost flights to various places we wanted to visit. We would watch their site for their “specials” and then would sign up for ridiculously low fares. They made it possible for us to visit places we wouldn’t otherwise be able to visit. However, it was NOT first class traveling, but wasn’t terrible either. We printed out our own tickets (some other airlines do the same) and there was no reserve seating. So when it was time to board, you made an effort to be in the front of the crowd, and you walk fast if you want to be sure you sit by your husband. If that is too much work, then pay more and use a different airline. But no one had the low prices Ryan Air had. My one piece of advice would be to NOT buy any of the food that is peddled during the flight. I did get mild food poisoning once and I learned my lesson. I brought my own snacks after that.