I guess I’m among a commonality here in that I really haven’t had a birthday celebration in an awfully long time. Not that I’d mind having a party once in a while, but I’d guess the last one I remember celebrating was my 40th which was 15 years ago…
I’m with a lot of you guys: I don’t see any point in the inconvenience and/or expense to others just because I managed to not die for another year. If they insist on saying “happy birthday” to me once each year, that’s fine, if they really insist on doing it.
That being said, if I like someone I will use their birthday as an excuse to get them a gift if during the year I happen to run across something I know they’ll like. Might be a bit hypocritical, but meh.
Same goes for father’s day: I don’t like to be “celebrated.”
I celebrate it until someone else remembers it (and hopefully brings me a present or treats me to a meal – Cotton Patch Cafe used to be good about bringing me a free piece of cake, but I guess they have now lost their sticky note). As @kalma said, sometimes I have to provide the present(s).
My mother (dead now) and my wife (in care) always remembered; my father, only if he was reminded.
My son, kinda iffy.
My godmother always remembered.
Rate notices from my insurance and new cards seem to indicate that they do remember.
My kid has two different birthdays. Her legal one and her real one (we found her birth mom). Some years she wants to celebrate both and is ticked at me when I tell her she needs to pick which one for the cake and presents (as an adult now the present is money which she prefers and she usually doesn’t want the cake anymore, plus I need to go to her place to celebrate).
You should celebrate it all year long!!! Personally I have hated my birthday and completely ignored it since I was 12, but it’s right between DecemberHalloween and FirstDayOfNewYearHalloween so there is plenty of December darkness and ghostiness to celebrate instead
I only acknowledge my birthday for the family. I think it means more to them to do something for me than it does for me. Same with father’s day. I’d rather it just be a normal Sunday, but acknowledge it for the kids.
Otherwise, I don’t really like being centre of attention.