With most kids I have always related as peers, rather than an authority figure. It was a difficult transition when my ex (before she was ex) moved in with her three kids, and eventually her brothers two kids as well. It’s difficult to relate to kids as peers when you also have to be the authoritarian and disciplinarian.
To further complicate things, her kids had no idea what authority or discipline was. So, ya, there were challenges. For all of us. I went from living alone, to a family of five, then a family of seven, all within six months. They went from have few or no rules, no bedtimes, eat anything and anytime and anywhere in the house they wanted, to having structure and responsibility.
After the initial growing pains, we hit our stride, and we mostly got along well. They particularly liked it when I’d bust out the guitar and sing them silly songs at dinner time. Songs I’d make up on the fly for whatever we were having for dinner that night. There was the fish stick song, the macaroni cheese song, the spinach is yucky song…
After I finally “resolved” that relationship I think I’ve missed the kids more than their mom. So they grew on me.
I absolutely do. They are my world. I try to teach them right from wrong. To be caring to all things, and to appreciate the things they have. AND, not to worry about the things they don’t. They haven’t disappointed me yet. There are the little things, and it can be difficult at times. But, I always remember that they are kids and it is a learning process.
Again, they are my world. They make my life better, I hope that someday they will say the same of me.
@mfladd
So you are intimating that even during the terrible total suckage year of 2017, your kids don’t totally suck? Or perhaps even maybe possibly don’t suck at all? Or perhaps maybe possibly are kinda seriously awesome?
Congratulations, bitch. Remind me to remind you of that using a sledgehammer.
Sometimes. Most times, really. Other times, she’s a hilarious, but maddening, little… toddler. Yeah, that’s totally the word I was looking for. Toddler.
Toddler.
/giphy toddlers are assholes
This is so perfect. For real. Since it posted this, I’ll share a recent post about my @PuppyCat:
As I nurse my restless baby tonight, I can’t help but be reminded of another restless night.
While I nursed and soothed PC back to sleep, she sweetly reached her hand up to cup my cheek and gazed into my eyes. I put my hand over hers and kissed her tiny fingers.
She promptly pulled her hand away, slapped me in the face, and started snoring.
Over all Yes. Some frustrations with them along the way, and now that they are adults, they are getting to understand better now that they have their own kids!
TL;DR? Mostly, I did.
With most kids I have always related as peers, rather than an authority figure. It was a difficult transition when my ex (before she was ex) moved in with her three kids, and eventually her brothers two kids as well. It’s difficult to relate to kids as peers when you also have to be the authoritarian and disciplinarian.
To further complicate things, her kids had no idea what authority or discipline was. So, ya, there were challenges. For all of us. I went from living alone, to a family of five, then a family of seven, all within six months. They went from have few or no rules, no bedtimes, eat anything and anytime and anywhere in the house they wanted, to having structure and responsibility.
After the initial growing pains, we hit our stride, and we mostly got along well. They particularly liked it when I’d bust out the guitar and sing them silly songs at dinner time. Songs I’d make up on the fly for whatever we were having for dinner that night. There was the fish stick song, the macaroni cheese song, the spinach is yucky song…
After I finally “resolved” that relationship I think I’ve missed the kids more than their mom. So they grew on me.
I absolutely do. They are my world. I try to teach them right from wrong. To be caring to all things, and to appreciate the things they have. AND, not to worry about the things they don’t. They haven’t disappointed me yet. There are the little things, and it can be difficult at times. But, I always remember that they are kids and it is a learning process.
Again, they are my world. They make my life better, I hope that someday they will say the same of me.
@mfladd sap…
@hayden0323 (probably your birthday tomorrow) ditto what he said…
@mikibell
@mfladd
@mikibell
Who’d have thunk that about @mfladd?
@someRiverNoise me… I have said it all along…been threatened greatly for it…
He truly means what he says! Everything he posts about his kids exudes his love for them…
@someRiverNoise @mikibell
@mfladd @mikibell
@mfladd
@someRiverNoise you need a picture of it covering its mouth…
@mikibell
It’s not easy finding a pic of a baby raccoon covering its mouth, so…
@someRiverNoise
@someRiverNoise @mikibell
@mfladd
So you are intimating that even during the terrible total suckage year of 2017, your kids don’t totally suck? Or perhaps even maybe possibly don’t suck at all? Or perhaps maybe possibly are kinda seriously awesome?
Congratulations, bitch. Remind me to remind you of that using a sledgehammer.
(PS I knew they didn’t)
@f00l
@hayden0323 you tell me.
Sometimes. Most times, really. Other times, she’s a hilarious, but maddening, little… toddler. Yeah, that’s totally the word I was looking for. Toddler.
Toddler.
/giphy toddlers are assholes
This is so perfect. For real. Since it posted this, I’ll share a recent post about my @PuppyCat:
…Dad?
Things have not always been completely smooth, but for the most part my daughters and I get along pretty well.
Just had a great weekend doing volunteer work with @miraclewhispers (who is 21) and I believe she had as good a time as I did, maybe better.
Over all Yes. Some frustrations with them along the way, and now that they are adults, they are getting to understand better now that they have their own kids!
ok thanks for all those great answers. (: