a ponderment for those of use who live alone

@mike808 could be in a relationship, divorced or have a non-traditional marriage.

@kuoh does it upset you that this group of women are spying?

@tinamarie1974 Actually it’s a little exciting!

KuoH

@kuoh whew you had me worried. I thought we were gonna have to stop spying on you!

@tinamarie1974 No problem, but if you wouldn’t mind wiping the fog off the windows after you gals are done I’d really appreciate it. Thanks!

KuoH

@kuoh hahahaha, wait that sounds like window washing

@llangley that sounds perfect!!

@tinamarie1974 I’ve got video meetings I have to attend - one tomorrow (Wed) actually. I have perfected the “from the shoulders up” appropriate attire trick. I have not yet perfected the cat always stays out of the video trick.

I have not yet perfected the cat always stays out of the video trick.

@Kidsandliz @tinamarie1974
/image cat photobomb

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/image cat photobomb 3

@Kidsandliz yeah, staying home usually means 5 or 6 am conf calls. I roll out of bed, throw on a t-shirt and run downstairs with crazy hair and those creases in my face from the pillow.

I told my boss a long time ago if I need to be on calls that early he does not get a video feed. He made the mistake of asking why, so I told him. He does not ask anymore

@Kidsandliz @tinamarie1974 I don’t think anyone does video for our meetings.

We recently switched to Zoom instead of Lync/Office Communicator/Skype for Business for big meetings, and some people clearly didn’t expect video to be on by default. After a couple of people showed that many of us don’t get dressed for those early meetings, a lot of camera disabling happened.

I’ve disabled my computer’s camera device and taped over it, just to be safe.

@craigthom @Kidsandliz that is always fun when folks forget. First thing I do when I get a new laptop is tape it over.

@craigthom You can set zoom to have the camera disabled when you start up. My meetings are zoom ones and I do that. Unfortunately we are expected to be visible when we are talking to others so I turn mine on and off. Some people have rigged theirs so they have a photo of themselves showing. I haven’t gotten around to googling to find out how to do that.

@Kidsandliz Picture in a frame that has a stand—point camera at that instead of your face.

I like this thread and @Gypsigirl213’s solution is fantastic.

/image tmi

@elimanningface @RiotDemon Sure you don’t mean videos or it didn’t happen?

KuoH

@RiotDemon How often do you warsh your bedsheets?

@medz often enough that they are clean. Helps that I shower before bed. I don’t understand people that only shower in the morning. I don’t want to lay around after I’ve been sweating all day.

@RiotDemon I’m with you. I generally shower morning and night.

@RiotDemon Video/Pictures or it never occurred…

@Panegyric EXACTLY!!

@Panegyric Same! It’s like taking the bra off takes away any motivation for human interaction.

I see people outside in those one piece pajamas. I think pajamas are in style now.Or maybe people have just given up. Not sure.

@narfcake Ditto. I come in, make a beeline for the bedroom, and change into what I call “house clothes” which are the comfy clothes I’d never wear on public.

@Gypsigirl213 @narfcake Exactly. Change out of ‘school’ or ‘go-to-church clothes’ into ‘play’ clothes, I was taught, and it’s stuck.

@CaptAmehrican I went to public school and my mom had the same requirement. That requirement also included take off the school shoes as well. Her goal, I think, was to get away with us only having 5 outfits for school and one for Sunday (that could then survive as hand me downs to the next kid either as school clothes if they were still in good shape or play clothes if they were not) and the play clothes were the ones already wrecked.

@Kidsandliz What a smart and thrifty mom?!

@CaptAmehrican @Kidsandliz Yup, exactly. It’s why grape juice was never served at breakfast on school days.

@CaptAmehrican My grandfather would come home from work, change out of his navy blue work uniform, and into a dress shirt and tie- he felt it was important to remain a[n Irish] gentleman.
He also never ate outdoors until the last decade or so of his life- my gran would have to make him a plate and carry it in to him to eat at the dining room table.
My grandmother, who used to own a tavern and boarding house, always despaired of getting him to relax and enjoy life to the fullest- but he really did start to in his later years.

@CaptAmehrican oh hells yes! Those are the best! You don’t sail in it though so you?

@CaptAmehrican Not a confession or admission- it was a declaration!

@InnocuousFarmer My sweat pants have pockets for that exact reason. Gotta get them in the men’s section.

@InnocuousFarmer @sammydog01 So uh…you like getting into men’s pants Sammy?

@InnocuousFarmer a pocket for your phone? That’s what bras are for!

@moonhat I had a student once who leaned over to pick her pencil up off the floor (in the front row, end seat) and out of her bra came her boob, her phone, her wallet and a comb. Good thing there were no guys in the front row in that class. She sat back up with her boob still hanging out, tucked it back and and stuffed everything else back in too. Not sure where she put is all but OMG!

@moonhat Hmm. I think boobs are probably… structurally, important for holding phones in bras. And I don’t have any… I could try growing some I guess.

Ooh! Or, there is probably a market here. For bachelors at home: chest holsters!

Tactical chest holsters.

@InnocuousFarmer @sammydog01 @therealjrn Right?! What’s up with the fake or nonexistent pockets on women’s clothes. Yesterday I wore a new coat only to realize that 4 of the 6 pockets are fake. GRRRRRRR I bought it online so thought I was getting pockets galore—but no, of course not, because women’s clothes.

@Gypsigirl213 @InnocuousFarmer @sammydog01 @therealjrn google Adam Ruins Everything. He recently did a show about pockets in women’s clothing. Very interesting.

@Gypsigirl213 @InnocuousFarmer @sammydog01 @therealjrn Sometimes the pockets are real, just tacked shut. I’ve had pants and shorts with the real-but-sewn-shut-pockets. I usually end up snipping the threads to make them functional.

@InnocuousFarmer @sammydog01 YES! So annoying when sweat pants don’t have a pocket. My workaround is to put on my robe which has pockets.

@InnocuousFarmer @sammydog01 @therealjrn @tinamarie1974 Love Adam Ruins Everything! I will definitely look up that one!

@msklzannie The fake pockets on my jacket are definitely fake. No pouch sewn shut, just a flap that looks like a flap to close the pocket sewn onto the front of the coat. I mean, why not just make it a pocket?!

@Gypsigirl213 @InnocuousFarmer @sammydog01 @tinamarie1974

google Adam Ruins Everything.

I did, and I watched S03E06 “Adam Ruins A Night Out” which is the one about the pockets. The show is reminiscent to me of Penn & Teller’s Showtime network show Bullshit from awhile ago.

It looks like a cute show but I’ll have to watch a few more to decide if they are just too cute for their own good or not ; )

@Gypsigirl213 @InnocuousFarmer @sammydog01 @therealjrn clearly I need to check out Bullshit!

@InnocuousFarmer I loved BS, but no longer have Showtime. Adam Ruins Everting is really good- if it’s legit- and it seems to be pretty square and honest.

@Gypsigirl213 It’s so much cheaper just to sew a flap on than to make an actual pocket- prolly saves fitty scents []
Although from Google: Why do women’s pants have sewn pockets?
If you’ve ever bought a new suit or dress slacks, you’ve noticed some pockets are sewn shut. The reason for this is purely aesthetic. Manufacturers want suits to retain their tailored look, but as people try the clothes on they can alter the fabric’s shape. … Functional pockets are usually sewn shut with a single thread
Or:
Opening up sewn pockets. … Whenever pockets are sewn shut, it’s so people trying on the garment don’t shove their hands into them. Pockets are for owners only. Cut the threads very carefully.
Finally: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/truth-behind-fake-pockets
https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2014/09/the-gender-politics-of-pockets/380935/

@Gypsigirl213 @sammydog01 @tinamarie1974 No pockets is my #1 pet peeve. The whole “breaks the line” was ruined already with the baby bump, yet my maternity clothes usually were lacking pockets too, But the 1M and 3M clothes I’d buy our baby boy had pockets. So I’d make him carry the car keys etc even if that was like half his weight.

@InnocuousFarmer @PhysAssist I’m obsessed with factual information. Adam Ruins shows their sources in the corner of the screen, which lets me know that they’re legit because anyone (and I have) can check their sources of information. It’s the only show I know of that does that. Also, P&T’s Bullshit is a great show!

+1, @therealjrn. I’m starting to realize I might have been one of the last one’s to the party here.

Party @elimanningface’s place!

@rockblossom !

@Gypsigirl213

@rockblossom I’m a little/lot gullible. Are you serious?

@elimanningface Of course I’m serious! I’m always completely serious.
Words of wisdom: Never execute a deep bow in a low-cut gown nor attempt to curtsy while wearing a longsword. Neither ends well.

@elimanningface @rockblossom I can’t seem to fully visualize the predicament. Please provide detailed first hand video examples of said maneuvers involving the aforementioned gown and sword.

KuoH

@kuoh No firsthand video, as I would never be so foolish as to do either. The really important point here is that one should never go to a ball wearing a gown and longsword, as it would be terribly awkward deciding what to do if one were presented to royalty. Of course, being 'Muricans, we do not bow (or curtsy) to royalty anyway, so maybe it’s not all that important. But please do coordinate your longsword with the gown and jewels. Even us 'Muricans should not be so improper as to pair a brass-handled longsword with silver brocade and a white-gold tiara. That’s just bad taste.

@elimanningface @kuoh @rockblossom Prioritize posting the gown videos in 4K HD.

@kuoh @rockblossom but I can wear my tiara with my pj’s if I want to feel fancy

@rockblossom

Thank you for the mental entertainment.

/image ball gown longsword

@whogots Term considered, seconded, and adopted.
Now let’s all see if we can get it into common usage for that meaning.
Instead of these:
spaff:

1. To ejaculate, usually into or onto something (more than likely an inanimate object)
2. To wake up in the morning with a huge amount of Facebook notifications and finding out that one person has ‘liked’ every comment you made the previous day.
   and finally:
3. A term for masturbation made popular by E4 comedy ‘The Inbetweeners.’
   From:
   https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=spaff
   But considering #'s 1 and 3, in the context you mentioned gave me a bit of an evil grin.
   /giphy spaffing after work
   

@medz We need to bring back hats.

@medz @therealjrn that would be amazing. I hats! One of my fav things about the UK. My first trip over I had to find a hat shop since I had an excuse to wear one!

@medz @therealjrn @tinamarie1974 living alone and enjoying winter hats i oftennkeep my house chilly and wear a winter hat around the house.

@medz

I think “at work” clothing speaks the message “in the at-work formal mindset, not in the “personal time formal mindset”

I personally see the point, but think this custom is much overdone.

But … question:

Would you feel a bit uncomfortable or unsettled if your doctor, lawyer, or banker greeted you while wearing sweats or sports shorts, if you were in a work setting, with them presumably “at work”, and you were the client/patient?

OTOH we seem to expect that in certain professions, workers will be casually dressed.

So I suppose it all has much to do with expectations.

@f00l doctors wear scrubs which is a practical choice

@medz

Doctors, dealing with patients while in own offices where they normally meet with non-hospitalized patients, are usually (within my life) wearing “law-office-type work-level street clothes”. At least, my physicians dress this way in their own offices.

Ie my physicians, while in their own offices, during work hours when they will see patients, usually dress in a manner such that if they put in a jacket and possibly added a tie, they would be dressed like a lawyer about to address a court - judge and jury.

I had a physician (orthopedic) years ago, who wore jeans and running shoes in his own office, while dealing with patients. He combined these with a dress shirt and tie. I never heard that anyone complained. I kinda liked the look.

When physicians and other medical personnel wear scrubs, these are are also “work attire” and recognizable as such. They are a kind of “hospital or clinic medical work uniform”.

The physicians in my family wear scrubs, or what could be called “law office attire”, while at work, if they will meet with patients or with patient families. They never seem to wear scrubs at home tho. Perhaps they wanna get away from work clothes? I never thought to ask.

I know people who wear scrub pants casually. Why not? They tend to be fairly comfy and long-wearing.

I don’t know anyone who wears scrub tops while not at work. Tho I suppose some people must.

I never saw a physician or other medical person at work wear athletic clothing or shorts or sweats or the like, unless they had been called in on an emergency. Even then they changed quickly.

@f00l Once after surgery my surgeon was called and came to see me in the hospital after apparently being on the golf course. Red plaid pants and a dork golf shirt.

When I teach (college) at some places the jeans and sneakers with a colored shirt and tie was acceptable for men, however there was no female equivalent of a jeans/sneakers combo that was acceptable. I was not happy about that.

@UncleVinny No the pets and bugs would eat you, the fittonia would hide the evidence.