Have you ever lost your wedding ring? {Necropost}
14I am coming up on my first anniversary on the 31st, and yesterday I lost my wedding ring! I had it in my pocket because I was putting lotion on my hands and didn’t want to get any on it. Then I forgot about it. I assume what happened next was I put my keys in my pocket, and when I was going to leave the thrift store I went to, I pulled out my keys and my ring fell out.
When I noticed it was gone a few minutes later, I was pretty distraught. I retraced my steps but didn’t find it. I spent the whole afternoon crying like a baby. My husband was pretty amazing about it, and brought me home comic books to try and comfort me.
I decided to visit the same store this morning, and give the parking lot another once-over. Miraculously, I found it!! It had been sitting there for a full day and looked like a car had run it over. It wasn’t bent, but it has a bit of pitting from the gravel.
I dusted it off and slipped it back on, never to go into my pocket again. I’m an idiot, but a very lucky idiot.
Who else has lost their wedding ring?
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I did not lose my first one. I threw it across the club. The guy I pinged in the head with it brought it back to me after my then husband stormed out of the bar. I dated that guy for about 6 months after my divorce was final. My daughter has that ring now, and the guy and I are still good friends.
@PyxienTX Haha! Now that's a story! That ring is better than any dating website.
I've been married twice (the first ended in death, not divorce, FWIW), for a total of about 30 years. I've never lost either of three wedding rings (the first wife thought I needed an upgrade when we renewed at 20; my son-in-law now wears that ring, which makes me happy all kinds of ways), mostly because I almost never ever take them off. When I was a blue collar worker and before I wisely abandoned my aspirations to be any kind of home handyman, I almost tore off my ring finger several times (and did put a few nice notches in the ring) in situations where I maybe should have taken my ring off, but, yaknow, I'm committed, stubborn and stupid as fuck like that.
Which, by the way, is also why the first marriage lasted for almost 25 years (until she up and left me for Jesus)--or started in the first place for that matter. But I have to say it was the best, smartest, stupid thing I've ever done--and it really only kept getting better. Until, of course, she broke my heart. But I deceived--I mean, married--another amazing woman not long after. I've been told that fools are lucky. I believe it.
@joelmw Wow. I didn't expect such a beautiful story to be shared on this post. How many other women went, "Aww...." when they read this?
@jenny hey you don't need to be a woman to Aww this stuff. I was really glad to hear you had found it this morning on the facebook though :)
@CowboyDann Haha, true. That was a bit sexist of me. And thanks. I was so happy :D
@jenny Aw, thanks. :-) To be honest, I was deliberately holding back on the sap. And I thought your story was beautiful too. So there.
@joelmw It was a great story. I approve of the sap, I'm a hopeless romantic.
@JonT Me too, man, me too. How could I not be?
ALL THE TIME.
But I prepared for it.
I travel (formerly a LOT) for work. And when I get there, I'm on a computer most of the day. The thing is, I hate jewelry, so, somewhat instinctively, I just take off my ring when I type and set it next to the keyboard. Suffice to say, I don't always remember to put my ring back on.
Now, knowing this, (and the fact that I've lost some weight) at any one time I usually own 3 or 4 "wedding rings" (all from tanga I suppose) that I use primarily for travel. My wife's fine as long as I take a ring on a trip (they all look mildly similar to my "real" ring), and if I lose it, I'm out maybe $10 and $0 sentimental value.
My wife has a "fake" wedding ring for similar circumstances as well.
@bakerzdosen That is both hilarious and awesome! Plus a good idea.
@bakerzdosen I have a "fake" wedding ring too but because I'm opposite and gained weight. Warranty at the jeweler expired so I can't get it resized for a while. Used to work at Starbucks too and lost a diamond (because of the heat/soap/sanitizer) so I switched to no ring, then bought a $20 on Amazon.
@janetv I adore my ring but took it off a couple weeks ago due to it being too tight because I’ve gained weight. I keep telling myself I will lose weight and it will fit soon. Who am I kidding? Argh!
@moonhat THAT IS MY LIFE.
@janetv I like to try to tell myself that it’s my age (47) but I also think I’m a lazy slob who never excercises and loves sugar like nobody’s business. I can’t get a hold on it anymore. What to do???
I would lose my mind if ever lost my ring. I did, however, lose a diamond stud earring. My husband got me that set for our first Christmas together. I still feel like mud when I see the single stud left that's in my earring drawer of the jewelry box.
@Thumperchick Yeah, I was devestated. Everyone kept saying things to try to cheer me up like "it's just a material possession," but it means a lot. You seem to know exactly what I mean. Sorry about your earring. :\
@jenny Thanks. He still tries to make me feel better about it, it doesn't work. I am so glad you got your ring back.
@Thumperchick I'd blame the goat for it, but that's you right now, and that would just be cruel. Mention it again in November and blame it on the goat then. I'm sure that will help, if only a little.
I should add here that we don't have to wear ours, we tattoo'd a symbol on our ring fingers. Makes forgetting your ring a non issue.
@Thumperchick But then losing your symbol is a much bigger issue.
@Thumperchick I once lost my moms diamond stud earrings. When we moved I found them under a dresser, in shag carpeting. I rarely take them off now.
About six months after I got married I went back to San Francisco and met up with my long-time friends Ron and Rose at one of our old haunts. After a few drinks I visited the bathroom. I was back at our table for a few minutes when I went to do my sub-conscious thing of twirling my ring on my finger and realized it wasn't there. I suddenly remembered I had taken it off and put it on the ledge of the sink when I washed my hands and forgot to put it back on. I jumped up, knocking over my chair, and ran back to the bathroom. My ring was gone. I was crushed and horrified and felt like the biggest idiot in the world. When I drooped my head in despair I saw it on the floor. It's now twenty-one years later and I have never again set my ring down outside of our own house. If I take it off outside the house it goes in the pocket watch pocket of my Levi's.
@SSteve It's wonderful to have a second chance, isn't it? I'm going to watch mine like a hawk now, so hopefully I also have it 21+ years later. Glad your story had a happy ending!
I lose mine occasionally but don't have to worry about it since it's a cheap ring. I'm not really a jewelry kinda gal so any old ring will do. Sometimes I think I would like something nicer, but it would just look out of place on me.
Anyone have a Qalo? They look nice, and are job safe (2 ex-husbands who had jobs that prevented them from wearing a traditional ring), gym safe, washable, comfy, etc.
@Mavyn That is pretty damn cool--and the video is sweet, actually. But in that I'm lazy and unatheletic, totally unnecessary for someone like me. I like it though.
@joelmw They don't HAVE to be wedding rings. Could just be a cool piece of jewelry. :D
@Mavyn Unless something is super significant or performs some kickass technological feat, I don't wear jewelry. It just annoys me. I hate wristwatches (though I am considering one of those smartphone connected things). See, that's how lazy I am: wearing a watch or a ring feels like lifting weights and I hate that feeling.
@Mavyn That's actually really cool. My husband might be willing to wear that over his wedding band.
@Mavyn it's just a silicone ring. Why do I want one so much?
@Mavyn I showed my husband this (he works with electricity and can't wear his band to work) and he is kind of dorking out over it. Thanks!
@joelmw I wear one of these: http://www.kinektdesign.com/ I am a geek/nerd.
@SIMBM Damn, another place for me to spend money.
@SIMBM That's really cool. I want one and I'm not married. I guess I could put it on my right hand since I need to re-size my class ring.
Not exactly the same but my now husband bought me a promise ring back in college. Long story short we went kayaking and I put it (with my car keys, credit card, iPhone, and license) in a zip-lock bag and put it in my life vest. He capsized and came over to my kayak to get his breath. And he capsized me. All was fine at first, I checked the bag to see if any water got into my iPhone (double bagged that one) and he capsized me again. So long to all of those things.
TL:DR I'm an idiot for taking important things with me kayaking and hubby replaced promise ring with the real thing a year later. ;)
@hollboll Well, glad to hear you didn't dump him over him dumping you.. .out of the boat [Insert rimshot for bad joke].
No, never been married. Anyone single? wink wink
@xarous mehdate.com ? next experiment? match people based off of purchase history?
Since I got married back in October my ring has been a bit loose and I've talked and talked about going to get it resized. But, as is my forte, I procrastinated.
Well a few weeks ago I went to Vegas for a work conference. I had just eaten breakfast and was about to go in to a meeting so I headed to the restroom to wash my hands and rid myself of the breakfast smell. After washing up I noticed that my ring was no longer on my finger. And proceeded to let out and audible "well shit."
I knew full well what had happened. While drying my hands off the ring slipped off inside of the paper towel. Which I threw in the trash can.
I spent the next 10 minutes unwrapping every paper towel in the trash can until I found it. The next week my ring was resized.
@MEHcus What is it with Vegas and wedding rings... When I Was on my honeymoon in Vegas (I know people usually go there for the wedding or the bachelor/bachelorette party) I got off the plane and my hand swelled so much my finger was turning purple... My wife made me take the ring off... I quickly ordered another wedding ring in the next size up (Tungsten carbide) but it wouldn't make it to Vegas, it would be at home waiting for me... so I didn't lose it, I had it... actually it is on my finger at this moment... but I had to keep it off the whole honeymoon... which made people look at us funny when we said just got married... with her having a ring and me not.
I had trouble wearing my ring for extended periods of time due to some nerve issues, so when at home working, I'd take it off and keep it on my desk. Best we can figure, one of the cats jumped on my desk and knocked it off into the trash can one day and I didn't notice before trash day came.
My wife bought me a second one on a chain and I lost that one eventually too. I've absolutely no idea how and we combed the freaking desert while packing up to move a few months ago and still never uncovered it.
For my third one, I decided to just get it tattooed on. Problem solved now.
@mikey A dog would have never betrayed you that way. Hah, jk. I hope you never lose your third ring, if you know what I mean :s
@jenny Yes, cats are total jerks. I forgot to add "We also no longer have cats..." before "Problem solved now" in my post above.
I lose mine constantly. It's too large for my ring finger now, so I'm always putting it on other fingers. But...guys with thumb rings look douchey, you know? So, yeah, it slips off a lot.
Most notoriously, my ring slipped off while I was driving with the windows down and my hand out the window. clink, clink, clink - shit. I ended up finding it, but it took a while.
@hart It surprises me how many people/how often wedding rings are lost. It makes me feel a bit better. It also makes me thing I should stop taking it off or get a fake one like other people. And yes, thumb rings are kinda douchey. But moreso than pinky rings?
@jenny That's a good question. Which is worse, a thumb ring or a pinky ring?
@JonT They're equally bad.
@JonT Both. Both is worse.
@Thumperchick @hart i disagree -- pinky rings are at least 3 times worse than thumb rings. at least.
@katylava Seems to me that this needs a poll. The world needs an answer.
It's been a long time since I lost it. I'd been married for 2-3 years and was clearing snow off the windshield. Snow had gotten on my hand and I shook it off. My ring went flying off and landed somewhere in the snow covered ground. We looked and looked with no luck. A few days later the teenage neighbor came over with a ring and asked if it was mine. She had a paper route and they put the papers at the curb, when she went to take them in she saw the ring on the ground next to the papers.
I think I got it resized after that, and haven't lost it since. My husband on the other hand lost his about a year ago and blames it on everyone else. He swears he set it on the mantle and it vanished, so someone must have taken it. We all just think he's crazy.
@remo28 Nice to know you have an honest paper girl. I hope she gets some Christmas tips :D And yeah, my husband always seems to blame other people (usually me) for something being misplaced. I've proved him wrong a lot.
@jenny this was a really long time ago, like 1999, so she's older now, and a bit of a crazy psycho. As far as my husband I prove him wrong all the time, he just never learns. I'm sure he had it on after it had been on the mantle, so it was lost somewhere else, but he says no.
@ABitterWoman Is this why you're bitter?
I just lost both my wedding and my 15 year anniversary ring. I've been married 30 plus years. No words can describe how stupid I feel. I am getting old I guess, I have metal allergies, I took them off as I was falling asleep and put them I my pocket. After waking up, I went to the store, didn't even think I didn't have them on my finger as they are always on my finger, opened up my truck door. Thought I heard a sound like change dropping as I got out, but the weather was bad and I didn't look around very well, I though oh well, I dropped a little change, no biggie. Two days later I'm laying in bed and I notice I'm not wearing them. I start thinking where was the last time I had them and put everything together. Went back and searched the parking lot, but no rings. Put ads out offering a reward. I would give anything if I could find them in that parking lot. I've got a metal detector on order and will go back again and try to find them, even though it's probably no use. But you never know. I will get a substitute wedding band, I've got good insurance and can get something to replace the anniversary ring. But will always pray my rings find their way back to me. Please, if you ever find what looks like a wedding ring, do your best to find the owner. Some dingbat wife like me who really does love her husband and wouldn't have tossed her rings on purpose, might be hoping and praying to hear from you.
@dingbatwife I sooooo hope you find it. Sending good vibes your way :)
@dingbatwife Did you ask inside the store if anyone turned them in?
I lost my wedding ring several years ago. I was lying in bed one night and just noticed it was gone. I leapt out of bed and searched all over the house for it. Couldn't find it anywhere. So I got out a flashlight and at about 1:00am retraced just about every step I had taken all day. I even checked the entire eight-block route I had walked with my son to his school and back. By the time I got back home after four hours of searching, the ring was nowhere to be found. The next morning, I bought a metal detector and spent the day scanning the billion leaves littered around our yard (it was autumn at the time). Still nothing. I grudgingly wrote it off as a lost cause and ordered a cheap replacement. Fast forward three years: we had moved to a new house about six months earlier and I was finally trying to unpack the last of our boxes. When I got to the bottom of a heavy banker's box that had been filled with books, there it was! My wedding ring! It seemed that on the day I lost my ring years earlier, I had been packing up books for storage in our basement. I guess the cutout handle of the banker's box caught the edge of my ring as I was setting it down, pulled it right off my finger and deposited it, unbeknownst to me, inside the box. I was so thrilled to find it that I ran upstairs, got down on one knee and asked my wife to marry me all over again. Kinda corny, I know, but man was I glad to get that ring back!
I got married in my 30's, never even wore a watch before that. I tried to get used to wearing a ring, but stopped after my first month. It's still in my wife's jewelry box. That was 9 years ago.
@Homechicken I had a similar experience, except I returned it to the store.
Sure did, the week after I got married the first time. We didn't have much at all back then, and the little bit we did shell out for a ring was huge to us. I have tiny fingers, size 4 ring, and the smallest we could find was a 5. We'd planned on getting it sized but hadn't just yet.
Being the grown up kids we were, we were playing around at an outdoor play area in Burger King (broke early 20-somethings hot lunch spot back in that day) and I was in the pool of balls, chucking them at my husband. And then my ring went flying. I even saw it go flying, but after that, we couldn't find it anywhere. We tore that play area up (respectfully, we aren't animals, geez) and couldn't find it. I decided the only way to look was to get the balls out of the pit and went to ask the manager for some garbage bags to contain them.
Upon hearing my problem and solution, the manager gave a completely rational response. "You cannot have my balls". See, we had a bit of a language barrier. Ok, a huge one. I couldn't convince him that all I wanted was to take them out, find my ring, and put them back. Around and around we went..."They are my balls, you cannot have them"..."sir, I promise that I don't want your balls, I just need to remove them for a few minutes"....and on and on it went.
In the end, I did get to bag his balls, but my ring was never found. By us anyway, some kid hit the jackpot I'm sure.
@jaremelz you can be in the tiny fingers club with me and @mikibell! If you're going to lose your ring though, it'd better be in a play ball pit.
Kind of late (and by that I mean super late) to the party, but this is a screenshot of your topic in the forums right now:
Reading that straight through is kinda funny.
When I was fat I had an expensive gold ring, and I never lost it because it was hard to take off my fat hands.
Now I'm not fat and my hands are skinny, so I had to buy a smaller ring. I buy Titanium rings off Amazon. I have lost rings because I take them off for working out (why I'm not fat anymore). I just buy another and move on. Maybe my next ring will be one of these http://www.qaloring.com/ (thanks @mavyn )
I still have the old ring in my dresser. I think I'm ok with losing all the titanium rings because my "real" ring is safe.
Found this too http://store.saferingz.com/Platinum-Metallic-Rings_p_17.html
@spacezorro Reading these stories makes me think I'll do the same thing if/when I get married.
Go to ringsafe.com. Great way to keep from losing ring!
@alipkin1 That is pretty cool! It seems a little expensive, but I guess it's cheaper than a new ring (for most people).
Lost one wedding band in the first 2 years, now 10 years later I still have the replacement. Worst part is I swear I lost it in our bedroom! Never found it, but I was lucky to get another made at the original jeweler that made the first one.
@somf69 vacuumed it up?
@connorbush "somf" is the sound of a wedding ring being vacuumed up
@Lotsofgoats lol
I lost my wife's wedding ring once...We were camping and she was pregnant. She had taken it off because of swelling issues and had given it to me. I had it on my pinkie so it wouldn't get lost and after packing up camp it was gone. We searched the entire campsite with no luck. Eventually as I unpacked all our stuff I found it...rolled up in the sleeping bag. It had come off my hand while rolling the bag and I never noticed.
I was furniture shopping with my wife and went to use the bathroom. After washing my hands I realized there were no paper towels. I left the washroom and show my wife my soaking wet hands, then proceed to vigorously shake them in an attempt to air-dry. The ring goes FLYING, and I had to follow the sound of it hitting a wooden table then bouncing around to find it again. Nerve racking. Now I dry my hands on my pants when that situation arises.
Lost mine playing sand volleyball. Searched for hours, got a metal detector, never found it.
I got a tungsten ring for cheap. Had it for a couple years and lost it too.
Replaced it with a Black Friday deal and bought 4. I tell all my friends to pick an inexpensive ring and buy several.
My wife joined me in France at the end of a business trip and when I picked her up at the airport I knew something was wrong. She informed me she had lost her engagement ring at the gate in the Charlotte while applying moisture! Long story short after 6 months she found it in a small zippered pocket of a travel purse!! :-) we had called the airline and Charlotte airport, security and TSA!! Needless to say we were very happy as apart from the replacement cost it is very sentimental to us and she refused to even look at a replacement as she felt so bad for months. (I was saving for a new ring!!)
Moved 1200 miles to start a new job in late summer, 2004. We had a miscarriage in early December 2004. I got fired from my new job in the "sorry for your loss" email from the boss. Literally, the same email. A week or so later, we went out for a drink & a burger to wash down our misfortune before buying a Christmas tree. Went to the tree lot, got out of the car, lot was closed. At this point, in the poorly lit parking lot, my wife noticed her expensive engagement ring was lost... the cheap wedding ring was still there. Traced back steps and found the ring in the ladies room garbage at the restaurant. Fun times.
When I was flying in the Navy wearing rings during a flight was a good way to lose a finger. I always put it on the chain with my dogtags. One day on a mission the chain broke and everything fell into the Atlantic ocean. Needless to say I never found it.
@Mehrocco_Mole Did you even try looking?
I never wore jewelry before, didn’t realize how easily it slips off in the water. I lost mine almost immediately in the ocean. I dove down but couldn’t find it, got some detectorists to try, but they couldn’t find it either.
edit: wow, old thread. I’m keeping my post anyway.
@Pantheist
I lost my ring as well at work I always take it off when I wash my hands so it doesn’t fly off or something. I didn’t realize I was missing it until I wanted to look at it because I always do then I saw it wasn’t there. I checked my pockets my work area. I retraced my steps. I thoroughly checked my pockets to make sure I didn’t miss them. Then word got around I lost it and everyone was trying to help me find it. Then I reach into my pocket and it was there. I do not know how it got there. I swore I checked my pockets multiple times I even took out everything. Yet there it was sitting in my pocket I don’t know how it got there. Perhaps it got rolled up at the bottom of the pocket or something but it spooked me. Out of the ordinary.
@JayS2078 So far I have found 2 wedding rings in the last 2 years. Both in parking lots. One was a bit pitted so who knows how long it had been there, the other was not so likely just dropped. Turned them into the the store and the medical office. Hopefully they got returned to their owners (eg their owners thought to ask about them and/or they posted a sign).
Its not uncommon for me to take my ring off to fidget or wash my hands.
I Noticed one day that I wasn't wearing my ring & had no idea where it was. Was certain it was in my apt but couldn't find it. For ~5 months. Finally
started researching a replacement online. Then one day I happen to wear my disused suit and find it sitting in the backpocket. No idea how it got there, and I'm damn lucky it was still there (suit was fresh from the cleaners), but I got my ring back.
I often swap my ring from one hand to another, particularly when fidgeting or washing my hands. One day I was at work when an attractive young lady dropped by my desk for something and we started chatting. I suddenly realized I had the ring on the wrong hand and surreptitiously dropped my hands beneath the desk to switch the ring so I wouldn’t look like some elderly lech. I found it unexpectedly difficult to get the ring on the finger, but this happens in the morning sometimes; my hands apparently swell a little overnight. Anyway I got the ring on, reached for something on the desk - and it turned out I had jammed the ring on the MIDDLE FINGER. And it would NOT come off - I wound up having to have it clipped off (it was cutting off circulation) and buying another ring - a thicker one that is clearly a wedding band even on the other hand.
Not the same thing, but I keep a backup piece of jewelry just in case I ever forget a birthday, anniversary or other event. It's wrapped and everything. Just so I'll always have a gift. I haven't forgot yet.
Can't remember the number of times I've misplaced or lost my rings.
My ring fingers are size 4, but finding affordable engagement/wedding rings in that size that we liked was hard. So hubby bought me size 5 and we got a thin sizer put on them to help them fit. Despite that, even when I would just be walking with my hands straight down or talking slightly animatedly with my hands I'd feel my rings falling off. So I made it a habit to only wear them to work and take them off at home lol.
Misplacing them became quite common for me but the first time I lost-lost them was outside a CVS within the first month of marriage lol. Luckily I found them in the parking lot after a car finally left. I was hyperventilating so badly before i found them because marriage was harder than I had expected it to be and on top of that I lost the wedding rings my husband had worked so hard for during his college years.
Fast forward to one year anniversary, husband surprises me with an anniversary ring with a solitaire, still in a size 5 though lol. My wedding rings were rather plainish, so I took to wearing three rings (don't worry, they were thin rings so didn't look gaudy on my finger). Well, went to a family reunion a few months later and took them off and placed them on a thin toiletry ledge above the toilet along with my glasses while I washed my face and completely forgot about them while reaching for my glasses. I must've accidentally knocked them into the toilet and the kids playing flush-the-toilet that day flushed all 3 of my wedding rings... Cause we never found those rings again... :'( Couldn't face my husband for a week...
Lesson learned though, hubby bought me a size 4 ring this time... Lol.
I took mine off washing my hands and never saw it again. That was like 5 years ago and still hasn't turned up. My wife got me a new one for Christmas years ago and brings it up ALL the time. Now I never take it off.
I took mine off 30 years ago and gave to my wife she has it somewhere I know not. I used a lathe one day and I was rushed because I had meetings that afternoon and the first time I tried to stop the rotation of the chuck I almost took my finger off because I forgot to remove my ring. I took it off and my finger got swollen and I never put it back on.
After the fact, I figured out that I probably took mine off to keep from causing a finger-amputating short while working on a car, and put it in my pocket. Apparently, it was still in that pocket when those pants went into the washer and then the dryer, where it fell out, got tossed around, slipped through the gap between the drum and the back plate, and fell into the bottom of the dryer. Although I noticed that it was missing pretty quickly, I could not immediately recall exactly when I’d taken it off; I did that fairly often for safety reasons, both when working on the vehicles and when working with the chemicals that I used in screen printing (and other activities). Most of the time, I would put it in one of three spots that I habitually used for that sort of thing, and it wasn’t in or near any of them. A couple of months of intermittently searching everywhere later, I gave up and quietly acquired an identical replacement. A few months later, my now-ex announced her official intent to ex me, a process that took a good six months to complete. About a year after that, when the dryer broke a belt, I found the ring buried in the lint in the bottom of the unit. I still have both the “lost” one and the replacement in my nightstand drawer.
Thankfully, no...my ring size when I got married was 4.5. With babies, I gained quite a bit of weight. Hubby took me to the pawn shop and we bought a new ring for each child. I insisted no new dates be in the inscription. I ended up with a 60 year old date for the first kid - I am not sure if that is sadder, however. Second kid's is blank. I wear these anytime I travel.. They are special but not nearly as special as my wedding ring.
@mikibell you have tiny hands like me! I'm a 4.5 too. :)
@hollboll But you are blessed to be tiny all around. .. my fingers are the only tiny part of my body :)
So happy your found it! For a while my hand was swollen from some allergy and I wore mine on a chain under my shirt. Just did not see, right to not have it with me.
Funny story. I got married. We went to Vegas for the honeymoon (backwards yes but we also got married on April 1st) so we land and my finger turns purple. The heat made my finger expand. My wife had me take it off so I was her boyfriend on the honeymoon.