I'm going to laugh so many times tomorrow when I get asked "how are you?" at work. It'll be especially weird when it happens in the bathroom. Thank you, Irk, for turning my least favorite social interaction into something I'm looking forward to. Eagerly.
This one frustrates me. "How are you doing?" isn't always just the social contract greeting. Half the time, especially when you have a know medical condition, etc. it's "How are you?" With the inflection and lean in, to show you actually want to know. The issue is that only half of these lean in people actually want to know. Why the faux concern? I generally don't want to tell you how I'm really doing, but when you sound worried, I feel obligated to. Now we're both stuck. Me with telling you that I'm not really okay, thus alienating me further; you stuck with listening to me answer a question you didn't really want answered.
Keep it simple, "Hey, how's it goin?" or something else similar without the weird, fake emotion part - that lets me know we're just acknowledging each other, but I don't have to actually talk to you.
What I don't get is why people say "hi" or "how are you" when you're moving in opposite directions and already passed each other. Am I supposed to stop and turn around? Am I supposed to answer without even slowing down or turning my head? It's not like they really want to talk; they were going the other way and still are.
@darksaber99999 There was a lot of this at my old job. Apparently before I got there, our President's answer to the bad morale was telling people to be friendlier and greet each other around the office. So there was constant "hi, how are you?" "good, good how are you?" "good." "good." between people as they pass in the hallways. Never breaking stride, so the end of the exchange was happening from opposite ends of the hallway
@BillLehecka Honestly, it always works as a conversation starter because the weather is the most boring topic imaginable. You quickly move on to something more interesting if the person has any interest in chatting at all.